couples in a restaurant, eating in silence..

fufu_banterwaite

pollypenny wrote: »

We've just been out for lunch, just the two of us!

Shush, I told you not to tell anyone Penny!

VestanPance

fufu_banterwaite wrote: »

I guess this is the point I was trying to make. Of course I'm not saying never talk about the boring stuff like work and politics and religion, just I would never make it the main point of a conversation.

Life for me is all about having fun and I personally wouldn't get that from sitting around talking about what I had done at work today or what courses I had coming up, etc.

I've already painted a mental picture in my head of certain posters sitting around a dinner table looking deadly serious and not breaking into a smile and me, Georgie, Buzzy and Lost on the next table laughing, joking and having a great time!

This is where people differ. If someone asked me to play such a dumb game as suggested they'd be eating alone.

I can easily talk away for hours on decent conversation topics like politics, religion, work etc and still have a laugh.

purpleshoes_2

People can do what they like, talk or not talk. It depends on the company. I go out for meals quite a lot but with family or friends and we aren't stuck for things to say, but I don't think there's anything wrong with sitting eating and not saying much either. It doesn't necessarily reflect on the quality of the relationship, either way, whether people talk or they don't talk.

lostinrates

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I must admit, we talk about these things too. I would not want to play any sort of (to me) frivolous game. I like to know peoples' opinions , thoughts and dreams about real life. But then again, people are all different and as long as they get enjoyment from their conversation, what does it matter what they talk about? It also does not matter if they sit in silence if it is a companionable one.

I agree with this.

We talk about all this things, quite often in our relationship we are silly. Reasonably often quiet.

We are happy, others we know who have different balances seem happy. So long as it works for the couple its all good.


What I would say is its all ways good to try something out. You never know what's good. Silly games can quite often leads to interesting serious discussion believe it or not.

Georgiegirl256

Izadora wrote: »

Why does it have to be either/or? I personally love stupid thing like 'would you rather...' but it doesn't mean I have to spend all night playing it or that I'm not capable of having what you would consider to be 'worthy' discussions.

Exactly! People don't have to "resort" to playing a game. People don't have to talk if they don't want to. People can yak all night if that's what's they want.

Different strokes for different folks.

onomatopoeia99

fufu_banterwaite wrote: »

The best times of our lives are when we are kids and are carefree and have no serious issues to worry about.

Not for everyone. Children have no self-determination and their actions are constrained by their parents. I couldn't wait for the independence that reaching the age of majority bought.

Sorry that having to make decisions and accept responsibility for yourself made your life less enjoyable though.

Goldiegirl

GobbledyGook wrote: »

For you...

Why is it ok for people who enjoy chatting or enjoy playing games to do so, but those of us who have explained why we relax and enjoy quiet meals 'should' do something else?

Why can it not be just as respected that for some people a chilled, quiet night (for all the reasons some of us have explained) just enjoying the food and being with the other without the need to fill the silence is enjoyable?

I think it's because some people can't cope with anything that is outside their perception of 'normal'

fufu_banterwaite

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

Not for everyone. Children have no self-determination and their actions are constrained by their parents. I couldn't wait for the independence that reaching the age of majority bought.

Sorry that having to make decisions and accept responsibility for yourself made your life less enjoyable though.

Sorry I have no idea what any of that really meant.

pickledonionspaceraider

victory wrote: »

I really don't get the 'would you rather' game at all, talking about OH work is real life, I obviously do not work with him, in his company so if he had to play a make believe game over telling me what happened at work, what course he is going on, what is next job will be etc etc there would not be any point as that is over 70 hours a week he is at work, a whole chunk of his life that if he did not share, I would know nothing about.

I totally agree with this

pickledonionspaceraider

fufu_banterwaite wrote: »

I am genuinely sorry to hear that.

Try playing a game of would you rather next time.

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