couples in a restaurant, eating in silence..

Peter333

Completely agree Catkins and Torry. I have a good sense of humour and like to do 'silly' things at times, but going out for a meal to play 'what would you rather be?' all night. I would be bored within five minutes. I find it most perplexing that someone would want to play that all night, rather than talk about current affairs, family, work, friends, your children, your neighbours, politics, religion, whatever.

Not sure I believe it to be honest.

Izadora

Peter333 wrote: »

I find it most perplexing that someone would want to play that all night, rather than talk about current affairs, family, work, friends, your children, your neighbours, politics, religion, whatever.

Why does it have to be either/or? I personally love stupid thing like 'would you rather...' but it doesn't mean I have to spend all night playing it or that I'm not capable of having what you would consider to be 'worthy' discussions.

fufu_banterwaite

Peter333 wrote: »

Completely agree Catkins and Torry. I have a good sense of humour and like to do 'silly' things at times, but going out for a meal to play 'what would you rather be?' all night. I would be bored within five minutes. I find it most perplexing that someone would want to play that all night, rather than talk about current affairs, family, work, friends, your children, your neighbours, politics, religion, whatever.

Not sure I believe it to be honest.

I'm not saying they you should sit there all night playing it! But some people would be bored after five minutes talking about current affairs, family, work, friends, your children, your neighbours, politics, religion...

My original point was about couples sat in silence eating at a restaurant. That they should play ‘Would you rather’ as it would be much more enjoyable than sitting there in silence.

Peter333

@ Isadora @ Fufu: fair comment.

GobbledyGook

fufu_banterwaite wrote: »

My original point was about couples sat in silence eating at a restaurant. That they should play ‘Would you rather’ as it would be much more enjoyable than sitting there in silence.

For you...

Why is it ok for people who enjoy chatting or enjoy playing games to do so, but those of us who have explained why we relax and enjoy quiet meals 'should' do something else?

Why can it not be just as respected that for some people a chilled, quiet night (for all the reasons some of us have explained) just enjoying the food and being with the other without the need to fill the silence is enjoyable?

seven-day-weekend

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I'm with you, the relaxing atmosphere of being out together is to me conducive to good conversation about lots of different things. That's not to say there aren't times of silence but talking together is one of the best things about a meal out.

Topics include work, religion, current affairs etc and that isn't small talk!:p

I must admit, we talk about these things too. I would not want to play any sort of (to me) frivolous game. I like to know peoples' opinions , thoughts and dreams about real life. But then again, people are all different and as long as they get enjoyment from their conversation, what does it matter what they talk about? It also does not matter if they sit in silence if it is a companionable one.

fufu_banterwaite

GobbledyGook wrote: »

For you...

Why is it ok for people who enjoy chatting or enjoy playing games to do so, but those of us who have explained why we relax and enjoy quiet meals 'should' do something else?

Why can it not be just as respected that for some people a chilled, quiet night (for all the reasons some of us have explained) just enjoying the food and being with the other without the need to fill the silence is enjoyable?

Try playing would you rather next time. You will have much more fun.

GobbledyGook

fufu_banterwaite wrote: »

Try playing would you rather next time. You will have much more fun.

I won't because *shock horror* I'm perfectly capable of knowing what I enjoy. As is the other half.

We also have the manners and lack of ego that we don't assume we know what other people would enjoy better either. You should try it some time.

fufu_banterwaite

GobbledyGook wrote: »

I won't because *shock horror* I'm perfectly capable of knowing what I enjoy. As is the other half.

We also have the manners and lack of ego that we don't assume we know what other people would enjoy better either. You should try it some time.

I won’t because *shock horror* I'm perfectly capable of knowing what I enjoy. As is the other half.

We also have the manners and lack of ego that we don't assume we know what other people would enjoy better either.

pollypenny

We've just been out for lunch, just the two of us!

I kept thinking about this thread. We didn't run out of things to talk about, though. A lovely, helpful lady from Specsavers and the new glasses I chose, took up a fair bit of the conversation, as did the lovely food.