Neighbours ignore us - thoughts?

ljonski

I have the opposite story than the OP. Just come back from the shops and on bike and have waved and been waved to and spoken to by 2 neighbours. I live in a working class street, now multicultural.

However i know a couple who for years have wandered around with their noses in the air. Both their cars are now parked outside me. Why they don't move is beyond me especially all these years they have been living in rented accomodation.

Im afraid i have been reduced to their level and we both now mutually ignore each other!

greatgimpo

I'd buy a banger, shove it on the driveway, take the bladdy wheels orf and support it on bricks.

Buzzybee90

HPoirot wrote: »

Money can't buy you class. These villagers of yours are best left to their rude little insular ways.

I think it (stereotypically) works like this

People move into village

Villagers think: "oh no! not more people moving in and changing things! we are happy how we are. I bet they'll bring noisy children with them too, disturbing my rural perfection"

Moving in people think either.....

1) yay, we can move to the country and grow our own vegetables and keep chickens and be self sufficient, how fantastic!
2) we must educate the country bumpkins, I bet they've never even been to London... We must still be close to London though, so we don't miss out on anything, I don't want to get stuck at the WI!
3) why is everyone here rich and a farmer?

More likely everyone thinks "oh look a new family has moved in on Church Street, I wonder what they're like" *gets back to everyday life*

FBaby

Can't say for your situation but we had new neighbours moved in a few weeks ago, they seem nice enough BUT they have 3 kids who are incredibly loud and boisterous in the garden and it is making it a nightmare for us to enjoy our garden. They have their trampoline right by our fence and they play on it for hours pretending to do catch. The parents are never there and certainly Hebrew never heard them tell the kids to keep the noise down. The first time we said that the children were noisy but the response was ' they're just being kids'. We know that confronting them further will only make things worse so we ignore them. I find it hard to understand how they can't appreciate how unpleasant the racket their kids make is.

Horseunderwater

My Mum, when she was alive Told me 2 things - Manners maketh the person & treat others as they treat you. Since they are arrogant rude snobs - be rude back. Make sure that your kids play outside as much as possible, give them a headache. I would. We were lucky when we moved to our village as I happen to be distantly related to one of those big families, so was kind of welcomed there & then. Current neighbours both have kidiwinks, they make noise - do I care no.

greenwoodlad

jaylee3 wrote: »

Are you serious? What did they do to annoy them?! They just have kids who were playing football and cycling etc. These people sound vile. They would have got a short shrift from me if I had been the OP!

I went round to this neighbour - this is 3 years ago now I asked why he had asked my boys not to cycle near his house...he said he had baby girls trying to sleep and requested our kids did not play in the street at all - thats why a playpark was built ! We tried to keep the peace I asked my boys to go to the park - I felt that within days of moving in we were having rules imposed on us - kids cant play in street, or our back garden. It was an old lady that had the house before us - but it is a five bed house - it is a family street...at the time we moved in i suppose we were the only family with kids aged 5 - 12 most of the neighbours had no children, babies or were elderly

My eldest is 18 now - we have had this for 6 years but it just gets to me...why can't people be nice?:)

jaylee3

HPoirot wrote: »

Money can't buy you class. These villagers of yours are best left to their rude little insular ways.

pollypenny wrote: »

These people sound horrendous!

OP, your children must be allowed to play in their own back garden.

I would be thinking of moving, too, if I were in your situation.

Horseunderwater wrote: »

My Mum, when she was alive Told me 2 things - Manners maketh the person & treat others as they treat you. Since they are arrogant rude snobs - be rude back. .

To all 3 :T:T:T

Re fbaby's post. The OP's children do not sound like this at all, and the neighbours just sound rude and arrogant.

As I said though; I would move!

HPoirot

greenwoodlad wrote: »

I went round to this neighbour - this is 3 years ago now I asked why he had asked my boys not to cycle near his house...he said he had baby girls trying to sleep and requested our kids did not play in the street at all - thats why a playpark was built ! We tried to keep the peace I asked my boys to go to the park - I felt that within days of moving in we were having rules imposed on us - kids cant play in street, or our back garden. It was an old lady that had the house before us - but it is a five bed house - it is a family street...at the time we moved in i suppose we were the only family with kids aged 5 - 12 most of the neighbours had no children, babies or were elderly

My eldest is 18 now - we have had this for 6 years but it just gets to me...why can't people be nice?:)

I can understand the part about children playing on the streets, there are some areas where this is not done at all.

Still doesn't excuse parents and their children shunning you and yours and the rest of it though.

HPoirot

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I think it (stereotypically) works like this

People move into village

Villagers think: "oh no! not more people moving in and changing things! we are happy how we are. I bet they'll bring noisy children with them too, disturbing my rural perfection"

Moving in people think either.....

1) yay, we can move to the country and grow our own vegetables and keep chickens and be self sufficient, how fantastic!
2) we must educate the country bumpkins, I bet they've never even been to London... We must still be close to London though, so we don't miss out on anything, I don't want to get stuck at the WI!
3) why is everyone here rich and a farmer?

More likely everyone thinks "oh look a new family has moved in on Church Street, I wonder what they're like" *gets back to everyday life*

Amid all this palaver, a little politeness would go a long way.

jaylee3

greenwoodlad wrote: »

I went round to this neighbour - this is 3 years ago now I asked why he had asked my boys not to cycle near his house...he said he had baby girls trying to sleep and requested our kids did not play in the street at all - thats why a playpark was built ! We tried to keep the peace I asked my boys to go to the park - I felt that within days of moving in we were having rules imposed on us - kids cant play in street, or our back garden. It was an old lady that had the house before us - but it is a five bed house - it is a family street...at the time we moved in i suppose we were the only family with kids aged 5 - 12 most of the neighbours had no children, babies or were elderly

My eldest is 18 now - we have had this for 6 years but it just gets to me...why can't people be nice?:)

So these people are living next to a FIVE BED house, and are surprised that children are playing in the garden. What morons! Sounds like they need to move!

Are they elderly (over 60?) I do find that some older folk have a low tolerance for the noise of children and families. In fact they can be quite rude about it.

Like I said, it sounds like they should move; not you.