Postwoman lets herself in

trollopscarletwoman

Torry_Quine wrote: »

My keys are kept on the shelf in the hall and it's no trouble to pick them up as I walk past to answer the door.

Thanks for helping me.

I'll come through the back door.

See you soon.

makeitstop

troubleinparadise wrote: »

I'm rural too - so the front door is invariably unlocked virtually the whole day outside "gone to bed" hours!

Our wonderful postman opens the door, saying "Hello" loudly, drops the post in and takes away any stamped letters for posting. And if we're not there, will sign for parcels etc and leave them for us, saving us having to drive an hour's round trip to the main depot to pick them up again.

And the dogs like him, and he them - no barking when he's at the door.

When there was a threat of him being assigned to another round, the village got up a successful petition to keep him here (luckily that was what he wanted too!)

There are others (not posties!) who take our open door policy a little too liberally - I do have to remember to keep a sense of modesty even in my own house!

And if everyone had a relationship like this with every postie, then fine. That would be great and there is most certainly a benefit to that.

There is no benefit to the "others" you mention at the end though, and the OP's postie is an "other" in this sense.

Torry_Quine

trollopscarletwoman wrote: »

Thanks for helping me.

I'll come through the back door.

See you soon.

You'd have a job, it's locked too obviously.

makeitstop

Peter333 wrote: »

Maybe Georgie was just taken aback at first, and then quickly realised that it was not a big deal, and that is was ridiculous and petty to make an issue out of something trivial.

This is how I am reading into it.

I have been the same. Not sure about something to start with, and then quickly adjusted.

You're making out Georgie has done something weird, or she is lying. Neither of which applies.

I am rural and our postie does the same as with the OP: just pops the post in the doorway if it's open. Or in the utility. They don't open the door, but if they did, it wouldn't bother me. If it did, I would lock the doors.

Yes, I totally agree that things can become viewed as acceptable over a period of time, where we adjust to routines we experience that we previously hadn't experienced. That's all well and good, but not all experiences are equal are they, and in this case, it's just not the done thing to enter another persons home without consent, when you are unfamiliar with them.

I am not for one moment suggesting Georgie has done anything "wierd". I was just pointing out that to become acceptant of a practise, that she herself initially thought out of sync with the accepted norm for the majority, is perhaps worth reconsidering and assessing using her own judgement. she does not have to get used to anything if she feels even the slightes discomfort over it. Not in her own home.

I have no axe to grind against postie's or couriers. I have many call on me from TNT, UPS, Fedex, royal Mail etc etc, and I am fine with them all. The UPS guy and I have become good friends and if I arrange a collection after I know he has been in my area, I ring him and am happy to nip out to catch him where it suits him later in the day, as I know how pushed for time he (and these other guys and girls) can be. I do get the flexibility thing with postie's, I do, really. But, the case in question here is simply wrong.

The OP deffo needs a word with this woman. Politely, granted, but firmly too, to ensure no ambiguity on how she views it.

Georgiegirl256

hieveryone wrote: »

I swear to goodness if I was walking past my front door and the postie opened it he would get a punch in the face and the police would be called ASAP!!

What a charmer you are aren't you? They don't mean any harm by it. If it bothers you that much, a simple word with them would suffice....rather than a fist in the face.

The only reason the police would need to be called is to arrest you for GBH.

hieveryone

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

What a charmer you are aren't you? They don't mean any harm by it. If it bothers you that much, a simple word with them would suffice....rather than a fist in the face.

The only reason the police would need to be called is to arrest you for GBH.

:eek: I genuinely can't believe anyone would try to justify a stranger opening your front door without your permission??

It's just so absolutely foreign to me that anyone would find this acceptable...?

Then again, I'm a city girl so maybe that's where our differences lie.

The punch would be from the sheer shock :eek::rotfl:

Georgiegirl256

makeitstop wrote: »

Staggering.

So you were intially unhappy with the practise, said nothing about it, and then, over time, have become conditioned to it being "OK".???

Why have you changed your mind about what you initially thought was unusual.?

I wasn't unhappy with the practice. I didn't say that. I said I was taken aback by it in as it shocked me and made me jump. If I was sitting there and they threw the post in it made me jump when I wasn't expecting it. However, it doesn't bother me, and if it did, then I would tell them so.
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Answer above in red.

Georgiegirl256

Peter333 wrote: »

Maybe Georgie was just taken aback at first, and then quickly realised that it was not a big deal, and that is was ridiculous and petty to make an issue out of something trivial.

This is how I am reading into it.

I have been the same. Not sure about something to start with, and then quickly adjusted.

You're making out Georgie has done something weird, or she is lying. Neither of which applies.

I am rural and our postie does the same as with the OP: just pops the post in the doorway if it's open. Or in the utility. They don't open the door, but if they did, it wouldn't bother me. If it did, I would lock the doors.

Exactly Peter, spot on!

makeitstop

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Answer above in red.

Georgiegirl...

I was not trying to misrepresent what you said, but the truth is, you should not have even had to be startled by it. A knock would have avoided the problem.

Also, good for you, you should speak up and this is exactly what the OP needs to do here. Discuss it with the postie and I'm sure it will be resolved. I would not make any official complaint without trying to first sort it myself with some dialogue. That is surely the way to go.

Having said that, common sense and reasonable accepted practise surely dictates that a closed door to persons private property (especially their home) should be viewed as a barrier to ANYONE uninvited or unfamiliar to the people within.

Georgiegirl256

makeitstop wrote: »

Georgiegirl...

I was not trying to misrepresent what you said, but the truth is, you should not have even had to be startled by it. A knock would have avoided the problem.

I know you weren't I don't know, the way one postie knocks, you'd think he was trying to hammer the door down. :cool: But seriously, it doesn't bother me and I actually don't mind either way. Sometimes it's handy if say I'm doing the dishes, I don't have to stop and dry my hands, he just shouts post and puts them on the table.

Also, good for you, you should speak up and this is exactly what the OP needs to do here. Discuss it with the postie and I'm sure it will be resolved. I would not make any official complaint without trying to first sort it myself with some dialogue. That is surely the way to go.

Exactly, totally agree. That's what I said earlier on. I too would go down the route of having a word first rather than reporting them.

Having said that, common sense and reasonable accepted practise surely dictates that a closed door to persons private property (especially their home) should be viewed as a barrier to ANYONE uninvited or unfamiliar to the people within.

Well yes. I guess what it boils down to though is whether or not it bothers you. I guess how I was brought up was people in and out of the house all the time (both ours and grandparents), everyone knew everyone else, the postie, the milkman, the window cleaner, and if the door was open it was an open house.

I guess things have changed nowadays, and I would not be happy at a total stranger walking into my house. That's a totally different issue than the one here though. People are getting confused and thinking that the post women is actually entering the house when in reality I think it's more a case of she's opening the door and putting the mail in. I can totally understand how that could unsettle some people though.

If I go upstairs or out the back I always lock the door.