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Ok, so how do i fix this?
i know i was wrong and i honestly felt terrible because i hate it when people dont say thank you. i dont have a sense of entitlement and genuinely appreciate when people do things for me, big or small. i also do not have a high tolerance level of people acting like big babies after i have apologised. like another poster said me apologising doesnt mean hes over it and i accept that but cant we all just get along?
It's not really up to you to fix it, you've apologised and said thank you. What more can you do, self-flagellate? Write lines?0 -
Ok, so how do i fix this?
i know i was wrong and i honestly felt terrible because i hate it when people dont say thank you. i dont have a sense of entitlement and genuinely appreciate when people do things for me, big or small. i also do not have a high tolerance level of people acting like big babies after i have apologised. like another poster said me apologising doesnt mean hes over it and i accept that but cant we all just get along?
WOAH, back up lady, back up back up!!! Don't you feel like the bad guy here!!!
I don't understand anyone saying that it was YOU who were in the wrong. And l know you maybe should have said thank you thank you thank you, and kissed his feet and all that chuffing jazz!!!
But frankly, (to me) this man sounds like a manipulative, controlling bully who is messing with your mind! I have dated men - BOYS I mean - like this, in my teens, and they made me plain miserable, and gave me low self-esteem for a while.
If I were you, I would say 'I am sorry I didn't kiss your feet and treat you like a GOD for taking me, and I DID appreciate what you did, but frankly, your bratty sukly behaviour now, trying to make me feel like a naughty little schoolkid, is making YOU not the kind of person *I* want to be with. Call me back when you have grown up, and when you're ready to apologise to me!
Good luck - you'll need it.
Sounds like he is trying to keep you 'in your place.' I am NOT liking the sound of this at ALL. Long term, this guy sounds like he would be a nightmare husband!!! I would give him a verrrrry wide berth!Proud to have lost over 3 stone (45 pounds,) in the past year! :j Now a size 14!
You're not singing anymore........ You're not singing any-more!
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what sort of thing was he expecting?
I can't imagine someone buying your lunch, you offering your share and them saying on me, without someone saying "thank you". And "oh i'll take you to AT next week, I've got you a ticket" - oh lovely thanks
So assuming you said that at the time (and can't imagine why not), then is he wanting more than that? A written thank you letter? I assume it is part of normal couple dom - he takes you somewhere on a date and you treat him to something next time? you say a brief thanks at the time but no big song and dance.
he sounds a strange one!0 -
Perhaps he isn't sulking but giving some thought to the future of the relationship.0
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Ok, so how do i fix this?
i know i was wrong and i honestly felt terrible because i hate it when people dont say thank you. i dont have a sense of entitlement and genuinely appreciate when people do things for me, big or small. i also do not have a high tolerance level of people acting like big babies after i have apologised. like another poster said me apologising doesnt mean hes over it and i accept that but cant we all just get along?
If he keeps going on about it I think you need to tell him there is nothing more you can do, you've apologised and it was a one off incident. He either needs to get over it and move on or decide he can't and end the relationship.0 -
Sounds like he is trying to keep you 'in your place.' I am NOT liking the sound of this at ALL. Long term, this guy sounds like he would be a nightmare husband!!! I would give him a verrrrry wide berth!
That was partly my concern above. Could you imagine living with some who seems to make a teenager sound hormonally balanced?
He can either come and get his thanks or not. That's his choice. I don't like the controlling aspect of this as several have mentioned.
However, in future OP, don't forget to say thanks, even if it is after, but close to the event. A messages saying "I had a wonderful day yesterday...etc" would be fine.What if there was no such thing as a rhetorical question?0 -
missbiggles1 wrote: »Perhaps he isn't sulking but giving some thought to the future of the relationship.
If he is 'thinking about the future of the relationship' and by that I gather you mean he is thinking of dumping her, because she didn't say thank you for taking her out!!! then he is a prize moron who does not deserve this young lady!
Anyone who makes someone feel lousy for something EVEN AFTER THEY HAVE APOLOGISED, is no more than a controlling manipulative bully.Proud to have lost over 3 stone (45 pounds,) in the past year! :j Now a size 14!
You're not singing anymore........ You're not singing any-more!0 -
He sounds like a prat.
You weren't forthcoming with the high praise for his wonderful generosity as he expected you to be, so in petty revenge he deliberately sets out to let you know just how upset he is by going out of his way to upset you with the cold shoulder?
The guy is a knob.0 -
burnoutbabe wrote: »what sort of thing was he expecting?
I can't imagine someone buying your lunch, you offering your share and them saying on me, without someone saying "thank you". And "oh i'll take you to AT next week, I've got you a ticket" - oh lovely thanks
So assuming you said that at the time (and can't imagine why not), then is he wanting more than that? A written thank you letter? I assume it is part of normal couple dom - he takes you somewhere on a date and you treat him to something next time? you say a brief thanks at the time but no big song and dance.
he sounds a strange one!
That's pretty much was I was thinking too. Was there really any actual need to say 'thank you my prince I will love you forever for taking me to Alton Towers...???' As you said, she probably said thank you at some point anyway!!!
I just don't undestand what he wants!Proud to have lost over 3 stone (45 pounds,) in the past year! :j Now a size 14!
You're not singing anymore........ You're not singing any-more!0 -
If he is 'thinking about the future of the relationship' and by that I gather you mean he is thinking of dumping her, because she didn't say thank you for taking her out!!! then he is a prize moron who does not deserve this young lady!
Anyone who makes someone feel lousy for something EVEN AFTER THEY HAVE APOLOGISED, is no more than a controlling manipulative bully.
Don't you think that's like a child who just says "Soz" and thinks that makes it all right?
I think that anybody might have doubts about continuing a relationship with someone who didn't have the manners to say a simple thank you after being treated to an expensive day out.
(And please don't shout at people who happen to disagree with you, that's also pretty bad manners.)0
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