Is it unreasonable to expect someone to turn up on time?

Person_one

Dozey_crow wrote: »

I see lateness as becoming more and more the'norm' now and it's quite worrying. For example:

1) students frequently turning up late for lectures by 20\25 mins (lecture is 50mins), barging in wandering around trying to find a seat with their mates etc. When challenged come back with 'I'm paying fees have a right to be late if I want' type answer at the ready. Not a great deal uni can/will do about it even though it disrupts everything and everyone else

The uni I've just left used to lock the doors or otherwise refuse entry 10 minutes after the start of a lecture. That worked, you don't have to tolerate lateness.

Person_one

notanewuser wrote: »

Yep. Knew it. It's the bloke who thought you were together.

I certainly hope not.

OP, please tell us you're not still caught up in all that?

Buzzybee90

Sorry if this has been answered already, but are you paying them for the lift?

Pollycat

Person_one wrote: »

I certainly hope not.

OP, please tell us you're not still caught up in all that?

I read the OP's earlier thread which may be this one:

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4915877=

One of the posts on that thread (dated 12/3/14) said:

Indie_Kid wrote: »

Leaving the club wouldn't that bad of an idea actually. There's another member who I had different problems with last year. He wouldn't leave me alone and got sectioned, which was my fault apparently.:mad:

He's now wondering why I'm ignoring him. Well, considering he harrassed me via text, wouldn't leave me alone, despite asking 3 times and then turning up to club and deciding the whole evening he was going to bother me. I couldn't really tell him to !!!! off in front of others.

Had no such issue at my previous club. Only left because my current club is around the corner and my previous club was two buses away.

and this on 17/3/14:

Indie_Kid wrote: »

I spoke to mum earlier and she did say that if I did change running clubs, there is a chance that he may try to follow me there. Having thought about it, this is something that scares me. Along with what another poster said about him following me to Bournemouth. I actually wonder now if that's why he asked where it was.

So if it is the same person the OP had problems with, I'm absolutely astonished that she's having a lift with him at all.

Presumably she's left the running club that was just 'around the corner' as she wouldn't need a lift there.
I find this whole thread very strange.

seven-day-weekend

jaylee3 wrote: »

That says exactly how I feel TBH. ^^^ :T

Me too... .

missbiggles1

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I'm a Senior and if I say 'come at midday', I expect them to arrive between 10 to and 10 past. However, I would prefer people to be they by midday (don't care if they are early).

I would be really cross if they turned up any later than quarter past.


If I didn't expect them to come at a particular time, I'd have said 'turn up whenever you like between 11 and 2'.

And I would be pretty cross if they turned up early, that's really rude!

missbiggles1

ciderwithrosie wrote: »

But how do you know what time to be ready for if there's no firm arrival/meet/pickup time? If I can get home from work at 5.30 and be showered, made up, hair done and dressed before 7pm then why can't everyone else. I know roughly how long each activity will take me and plan accordingly

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I can see the point if you're going to somewhere with a specific starting time like the theatre or cinema and I'd never be late for either. If you're meeting people for a drink or a meal, why run the occasion like a military manoevre? It's supposed to be relaxing and as long as the people who are getting together are indoors in comfort, I really can't see that 10 or 20 minutes either way is worth getting hung up about.

seven-day-weekend

missbiggles1 wrote: »

And I would be pretty cross if they turned up early, that's really rude!

Well there you are. It wouldn't bother me at all if they came early (obviously not HOURS early!). But I would be incensed if they were late.

Really, if I say 1200, that's the time I expect people to come. If I'd meant come at ten past, I'd have said come at ten past. If I was going to their place and they'd said eight, then I'd be there at eight.

Takes all sorts!

I once went to a works gathering. We arranged to meet at 7.30. I was the only one there at 7.30. I sat around twiddling my thumbs and getting more and more annoyed. The next people turned up at quarter to eight, but most people didn't come till after eight. So why agree to meet at 7,30 then, if the time to turn up is eight? Why not say eight?

missbiggles1

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Well there you are. It wouldn't bother me at all if they came early (obviously not HOURS early!). But I would be incensed if they were late.

Really, if I say 1200, that's the time I expect people to come. That's the time I would get there for if I were going to their's.


Takes all sorts!

As I said before, I'd never be so specific as that for a social occasion - why go looking for problems and stress? That's why I'd say "around midday", which nobody I know would be so rude as to interpret as to being early. Friends who are that way inclined take a book with them and sit in the car until the time arrives.

If someone turned up earlyat my place, I'd either be still in my underwear of vacuuming, possibly even both!

seven-day-weekend

missbiggles1 wrote: »

As I said before, I'd never be so specific as that for a social occasion - why go looking for problems and stress? That's why I'd say "around midday", which nobody I know would be so rude as to interpret as to being early. Friends who are that way inclined take a book with them and sit in the car until the time arrives.

If someone turned up earlyat my place, I'd either be still in my underwear of vacuuming, possibly even both!

If I was early, I too would drive round the block or read a book. In fact that's what I normally do, so I can knock on the door at eight o' clock. .

I personally wouldn't mind if they were ten minutes early. Rather that than late.

How can you get a meal ready if you don't know what time people are coming? Unless you want your guests to wait ages for their food. If I'd said come at eight for a meal, then I'd expect to be sitting down for it at twenty past.