Is it unreasonable to expect someone to turn up on time?

Maz

So this person is doing you a favour by picking you up? Is that the case?

missbiggles1

Indie_Kid wrote: »

I am not his parent and he usually knows the week before what time he should be meeting me.

Normally, we pick someone else up along the way. So, if he's late picking me up, he's late picking other people up. It's usually early in the morning too. Don't really fancy waiting around early in the morning for him because he can't be arsed to go to bed at a reasonable time.

I am not allowed to drive. Debating on whether getting a bicycle though.



It's never a few minutes. It's normal for him to be at least 15 minutes. As I mentioned before - a few minutes doesn't bother me and I'm used to it. Although, his excuse of traffic is more believable than this other persons excuse of oversleeping.

I'm confused now, how many people are expected to give you lifts?

lostinrates

Indie_Kid wrote: »

Actually, he tells me that he went to bed at 1am (despite know he needed to be up around 6.30) and then comes up with pathetic excuse of having his parents around and then says he couldn't get rid of them.

15 minutes is a bit of a problem when it's 7.15am or earlier and bloody cold or dark. He was told by our running coach (and said he would be there then) to pick me up at that time to allow plenty of time to pick someone else up and get there on time, allowing for traffic, etc.

notanewuser wrote: »

Yep. Knew it. It's the bloke who thought you were together.

If it is that same person you are being very foolhardy to enter this arrangement after the past confusion, and you are certainly over stepping boundaries of what to expect from an acquaintance IMO.

I would get that bicycle. Be independent.

Pollycat

Indie_Kid wrote: »

Actually, he tells me that he went to bed at 1am (despite know he needed to be up around 6.30) and then comes up with pathetic excuse of having his parents around and then says he couldn't get rid of them.

15 minutes is a bit of a problem when it's 7.15am or earlier and bloody cold or dark. He was told by our running coach (and said he would be there then) to pick me up at that time to allow plenty of time to pick someone else up and get there on time, allowing for traffic, etc.

Nobody - absolutely nobody - would tell me to pick someone up at a specific time.
They could ask me if I was willing to do it but tell me... no way.

You don't seem to be getting what I'm saying. :wall:

This guy is doing you a favour.

Don't be so bloody ungrateful or make your own arrangements to get to your running club.

dandelionclock30

How far is it from your house to the running club?

Georgiegirl256

Indie_Kid wrote: »

Actually, he tells me that he went to bed at 1am (despite know he needed to be up around 6.30) and then comes up with pathetic excuse of having his parents around and then says he couldn't get rid of them.

So what? That's up to him what time he goes to bed and what time he gets up. He could go to bed at 3am and that would still be up to him.

I still agree that being late and keeping someone waiting is rude, and if it is done continually it is also annoying as well, but I thought we were talking longer than 15 mins here. I also thought he was a friend meeting up with you, rather than picking you up for a reason. I guess if he's doing it as a favour, then all you can do is mention it to him, but you can't really expect anymore.

atrixblue.-MFR-.

simple solution, TAXI.

KxMx

I don't think it's unreasonable to expect someone to be on time. But not everyone is the same and you are getting a favour.

I was very lucky while at college to get lifts from a friend several mornings a week. She left later than I would have liked and my tutor did grumble at me a few times when I was late. I simply explained I was getting a lift and was not the one who decided what time to leave.

*max*

Ok, it's a little annoying when someone is late picking you up.

But this guy is doing you a massive favour. If I was going out of my way to do someone a favour and I found out that person was complaining about it on a forum and questioning what I do in my personal life, I would tell them in no uncertain terms to jog on.
In fact, I hope he does!

It's dark and early for him too, you know.

You come across as incredibly ungrateful and entitled. If you're not happy about the arrangement that is in place for YOUR benefit, you can bleeding well WALK. :cool:

Maz

Reminds me of a recent scenario when myself and a friend offered someone a lift to an event. Agreed pick up time for this person was 6.30pm. As we turned into her road, my friend's phone rang and it was her SHOUTING 'You said you'd be here at 6.30, you're a minute late, where the hell are you?' We were, literally, one minute late and they were still shouting down their phone when we pulled up! The person got in the car, not even a greeting and when we arrived, they just got out of the car and stumped off, not even a thank you.

We were agog at their rudeness and vowed never to offer again.