Is it unreasonable to expect someone to turn up on time?

Person_one

Indie_Kid wrote:

And yes, he is the same guy I was having problems earlier this year. He's now doing the childish thing of rubbing in the fact that he's with someone. Oh, as if I care!

Why are you agreeing to get in a car alone with that man after the way he behaved towards you?

If the only way to get to a race is in his car, skip that race!

notanewuser

Indie_Kid wrote: »

And yes, he is the same guy I was having problems earlier this year.

Is he also the one who drives too fast and uses his mobile while driving?

dandelionclock30

Well if your giving him petrol money put it towards a taxi instead.

seven-day-weekend

If you have issues with this man, you really should not be having a lift with him, paid or otherwise. Get a taxi.

Pollycat

Indie_Kid wrote: »

eh? The running club is just around the corner, The races aren't. Although, I am planning on leaving at the end of the year.

No need for the 'eh'.

You didn't say the lift wasn't to the running club.
You didn't say the lift was to races.

Indie_Kid wrote: »

The lift isn't free - we do have to give him petrol money.

You didn't say you were giving him petrol money either.

Indie_Kid wrote: »

He did once agree to pick me up at 3.30pm (he actually said he would) and by 3.45pm hadn't turned up. Turns out he didn't read what I wrote at all. Now there's a surprise.

So what time did he turn up?

Did you say in your other thread that he was dyslexic?
If so, maybe he did read what you wrote and didn't understand.
There's a big difference.

Indie_Kid wrote: »

And yes, he is the same guy I was having problems earlier this year. He's now doing the childish thing of rubbing in the fact that he's with someone. Oh, as if I care!

TBH, it sounds like it's getting to you.
I would find alternative means of getting to races instead of replying on this person who you seem to dislike intensely.

burnoutbabe

Again, does he not get into trouble with the coach for getting you at to the races late?

missbiggles1

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I never could get used to Spanish time! But that is the way they do things, so we accepted it. I didn't dislike the way of life otherwise though. I am quite laid back with most things.

With the dinner guests, we eat first and then sit around talking afterwards. It's not that we want rid of them. Just that, they've come for dinner, let's have dinner (and I'm hungry!).

If I went to your house I would be thinking' why have we had to come at 7.30 for dinner when dinner does not appear until 10?' In fact the few I have been to where it is that late that is precisely what we have thought. And then we have had to go home almost as soon as we have eaten (because we are tired). Especially as we were there at 7.30 on the dot!

Sometimes the best bit of having people round for dinner is sitting round having aperitives and nibbles before the meal itself, just as it when going out for a meal. I'd hate to go out to a restaurant and have the first course put in front of me within 20 minutes.

As you say, we're all different.:)

DaveTheMus

Indie_Kid wrote: »

eh? The running club is just around the corner, The races aren't. Although, I am planning on leaving at the end of the year.



The lift isn't free - we do have to give him petrol money.

He did once agree to pick me up at 3.30pm (he actually said he would) and by 3.45pm hadn't turned up. Turns out he didn't read what I wrote at all. Now there's a surprise.

And yes, he is the same guy I was having problems earlier this year. He's now doing the childish thing of rubbing in the fact that he's with someone. Oh, as if I care!

Stop getting lifts from him then.....

Is that too difficult for you to work out?

Georgiegirl256

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Sometimes the best bit of having people round for dinner is sitting round having aperitives and nibbles before the meal itself, just as it when going out for a meal. I'd hate to go out to a restaurant and have the first course put in front of me within 20 minutes.

As you say, we're all different.:)

We certainly are! I hate sitting around waiting for anything. So I'd hate to have to wait in a restaurant.

Out of interest, do you just sit there for a while before ordering? Just with you saying you wouldn't want your food put down in front of you within 20 minutes....because that's what usually happens.

jaylee3

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Sometimes the best bit of having people round for dinner is sitting round having aperitives and nibbles before the meal itself, just as it when going out for a meal. I'd hate to go out to a restaurant and have the first course put in front of me within 20 minutes.

As you say, we're all different.:)

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

We certainly are! I hate sitting around waiting for anything. So I'd hate to have to wait in a restaurant.

Out of interest, do you just sit there for a while before ordering? Just with you saying you wouldn't want your food put down in front of you within 20 minutes....because that's what usually happens.

Am right with you Georgie, and Seven day weekend. I think it's a bit bizarre to go for a meal (whether out in a restaurant or at someone's house,) and not want to start it for 2-3 hours after arriving!

I would expect the food at a friends 'and' at a restaurant approx 30 minutes after arriving. I wouldn't want to be eating at 10pm.

I have also never known anyone have a meal and be annoyed that the first course is there within 20 minutes.

I guess we are all different, but that said, I don't know anyone who goes for a meal and wants to eat it 2-3 hours after arriving.