Boys using ladies loos

sharnad

I think around 10 after that I would be okay with them using the men's on their own

System

I think that while the actual risk factor has not changed over the decades, (in other words there were as many unsavoury characters around in the 60s and 70s as there are now), people's perceptions of the risks and dangers have changed.

You hear or see stories in the news about a child being molested in the toilets in Debenhams, for example, and that incident is going to be foremost in your mind, and understandably you want to protect your child from anything happening to them.

PlymouthMaid

I would be surprised to see a boy over 11 or so in the ladies loos but can't say I would care as what is there to see? I can understand why parents may not want to send an unaccompanied lad into an unknown gents loo.

Nick_C

warehouse wrote: »

Any Woman could walk into a mens toilet unannounced and you wouldn't see a single thing that would cause offence. When men are peeing they have their back to you and everything is well hidden.

In a womens toilet they are in cubicles.

This is a non issue.

Nonsense. I tried to use the public loo in Broadwick St, Soho, at around 4pm on Tuesday. There was a queue of people trying to get into the toilet, but from the entrance I could see four men at the urinals engaged in acts of indecency. I went somewhere else. Most normal people would be offended, and I would not want a child exposed to this behaviour.

dandelionclock30

One of my friends who is a gay man met his boyfriend in a public toilet. Before anyone says anything I know not all gay men look for sex in public loos.
I think a lot depends on the child and also upon the toilet as some have really bad reputations. When I was 15 myself and my friend were flashed at in the street and the man was making rude comments and it was horrible. So I can see where people are coming from when they want their children to be safe.
I've got another friend a woman and when she was a child she was followed into a park toilet by a tramp who indecently touched her a then gave her some money. She never bothered reporting it. So for people to think things never happen is just wrong.

Horseunderwater

Having been a bus driver you use what facilities are there regardless.
However, the issue I have with boys in female loos is the idea they seem to get in their heads of banging on a door, sticking their heads under the door or cubicle walls & in general bad behaviour. That is what many would object to.

CRANKY40

Oddly, I'm quite happy that my 9 year old son would be safe from !!!!!philes. He's had it explained and knows that nobody is allowed to touch his private parts with the exception of medical purposes. We have discussed appropriate and inappropriate behaviour in public and why some people like to look at/touch young people.

Now, the drug abusers in the toilets in town...they bother me. I'm not totally sure why, maybe because I don't exactly know what to warn him about...needles, being asked to sniff something.... Possibly more worrying because I just didn't expect to see drug users being turfed out of the toilets in a fast food place (am I naive or is this unusual?). We went out today to a place we'd never been before and he used the gents. He was happy to and I was happy to let him. Usually we both need to go and I would only worry if he wasn't stood outside by the time I came back out.

Beenie

I don't have children, but if I did and was worried about a little boy using a public toilet on their own, I would accompany him into the Ladies and ask aloud 'Does anyone mind if I bring in my child? He's only xx years old and worried about using the gents.'

I'd be truly surprised if any woman objected.

esmerelda98

Beenie wrote: »

I don't have children, but if I did and was worried about a little boy using a public toilet on their own, I would accompany him into the Ladies and ask aloud 'Does anyone mind if I bring in my child? He's only xx years old and worried about using the gents.'

I'd be truly surprised if any woman objected.

I don't think women have any say in the matter. They'd be branded mean, twisted, shrivelled up old spinsters who hate children if they object and this thread indicates their views and feelings would be ignored anyway.

summerspring

Horseunderwater wrote: »

However, the issue I have with boys in female loos is the idea they seem to get in their heads of banging on a door, sticking their heads under the door or cubicle walls & in general bad behaviour. That is what many would object to.

If a child stuck its head under the door when I was in the toilet I might accidentally drop my shopping bag on said head.



By the way does that make me a mean, twisted, shrivelled up old spinster who hates children, too?