Boys using ladies loos

Person_one

For a few of the posters on this thread, here's a link to some info about pelvic floor exercises!

I'm sorry if it sounds patronising, but in the absence of a medical condition, healthy adults shouldn't be regularly finding themselves so desperate they are in serious danger of an accident. I suppose if it goes on for a long time you get used to it, or assume it's only natural after having children, but you don't have to just put up with it, it must be awful! Pelvic floor work can help men who have urgency/incontinence issues too, not just women.

http://www.bladderandbowelfoundation.org/bladder/bladder-problems/pelvic-floor-exercises.asp

http://www.guysandstthomas.nhs.uk/resources/patient-information/maternity/pelvic-floor-exercises-for-women.pdf

http://www.guysandstthomas.nhs.uk/resources/patient-information/urology/continence/pelvic-floor-exercises-for-men.pdf

Indie_Kid

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

Really? I'd be quite surprised if my friends were asking me if I needed to go to the toilet as an adult. I would think it was strange that they were treating me as a child. Surely any adult unless they have learning difficulties doesnt need to be reminded about going to the toilet.

One of the lads with us does have learning disabilities. In my case, my bladder is a bit weak due to so,e medication I was on and I can't really hold it in.

lostinrates

Person_one wrote: »

For a few of the posters on this thread, here's a link to some info about pelvic floor exercises!

I'm sorry if it sounds patronising, but in the absence of a medical condition, healthy adults shouldn't be regularly finding themselves so desperate they are in serious danger of an accident. I suppose if it goes on for a long time you get used to it, or assume it's only natural after having children, but you don't have to just put up with it, it must be awful! Pelvic floor work can help men who have urgency/incontinence issues too, not just women.

http://www.bladderandbowelfoundation.org/bladder/bladder-problems/pelvic-floor-exercises.asp

http://www.guysandstthomas.nhs.uk/resources/patient-information/maternity/pelvic-floor-exercises-for-women.pdf

http://www.guysandstthomas.nhs.uk/resources/patient-information/urology/continence/pelvic-floor-exercises-for-men.pdf

I think the situation is probably harder and more stressful for healthy adults who are not regularly in the position tbh, because they haven't got contingency plans or coping mechanisms! Things like upset tummies cannot be helped much with any thing but access to a loo.

Person_one

lostinrates wrote: »

I think the situation is probably harder and more stressful for healthy adults who are not regularly in the position tbh, because they haven't got contingency plans or coping mechanisms! Things like upset tummies cannot be helped much with any thing but access to a loo.

No, but there are a few comments that suggest to me that the posters may benefit from looking into this. I won't quote them or go it into any more, I've put the info up and it's there if it's wanted.

dandelionclock30

Indie_Kid wrote: »

One of the lads with us does have learning disabilities. In my case, my bladder is a bit weak due to so,e medication I was on and I can't really hold it in.

Yeah fair enough for the lad, but even if you have a weak bladder I think its not on for your friends to be reminding you to go to the loo. I would take it like they were either taking the mickey or being really patronizing.

lostinrates

Person_one wrote: »

No, but there are a few comments that suggest to me that the posters may benefit from looking into this. I won't quote them or go it into any more, I've put the info up and it's there if it's wanted.

Oh no, I wasn't criticising. Pelvic floor exercises are always valuable anyway

OrkneyStar

If Daddy takes DS swimming he goes in the male, obviously. If I take him he still comes in with me, but working on him going in to male changing room alone. He is just turned 7. Same for toilets. We both use ladies, he has his own cubicle, instructed what to do/not do, will go to men's if there is a male to take him, e.g. daddy or big cousin when we visit there. Made me think though, what does a daddy do with a 6 yr old girl- maybe too young to use ladies on her own but not that keen on walking into mens? This is why I agree that unisex loos, all with cubicles, would make a lot of sense!

GwylimT

OrkneyStar wrote: »

If Daddy takes DS swimming he goes in the male, obviously. If I take him he still comes in with me, but working on him going in to male changing room alone. He is just turned 7. Same for toilets. We both use ladies, he has his own cubicle, instructed what to do/not do, will go to men's if there is a male to take him, e.g. daddy or big cousin when we visit there. Made me think though, what does a daddy do with a 6 yr old girl- maybe too young to use ladies on her own but not that keen on walking into mens? This is why I agree that unisex loos, all with cubicles, would make a lot of sense!

They take her into the men's.

moomoomama27

OrkneyStar wrote: »

If Daddy takes DS swimming he goes in the male, obviously. If I take him he still comes in with me, but working on him going in to male changing room alone. He is just turned 7. Same for toilets. We both use ladies, he has his own cubicle, instructed what to do/not do, will go to men's if there is a male to take him, e.g. daddy or big cousin when we visit there. Made me think though, what does a daddy do with a 6 yr old girl- maybe too young to use ladies on her own but not that keen on walking into mens? This is why I agree that unisex loos, all with cubicles, would make a lot of sense!

This happened at the natural history museum. I was approached by a father of a 6-8 yr old girl, he needed the loo, she was v upset about the prospect of going into the men's. So he asked me if she could stand with us, I had all my children and nephews with me waiting for others. You could tell he felt so nervous, so I tried my best to put his mind at rest, poor chap was like speedy Gonzalez out in seconds!!

There really needs to be family loos or just unisex loos with just cubicles.

Carmina-Piranha_2

Person_one wrote: »

No, but there are a few comments that suggest to me that the posters may benefit from looking into this. I won't quote them or go it into any more, I've put the info up and it's there if it's wanted.

The loos in our shopping centre have posters about bladder weakness. It might be bowel problems that make some posters desperate though.

For me, around two hours after I take a tablet (every morning) I am suddenly desperate for a wee. Obviously I know it's going to happen and can plan around it, although that's reminded me that I'll be in an exam next week, haha.

With my youngest though it's been diarrhoea that he doesn't have much control over. We're seeing a consultant. He also vomits without warning, although people will usually clear a path for a vomiting child