Boys using ladies loos

minimoocow

Reminds me of a time in a large supermarket when the ladies loos were out of order (door locked sign saying do not use).


The choice was disabled or gents. This meant a few people (including myself) queuing for the disabled loo. An elderly lady came up to the front of the queue with her daughter who pointed out that there was a queue to which the lady replied "well are they all disabled?!" while glaring at us.


Now don't get me wrong I would have had no problem with her jumping the queue if she had been polite about but I'm honestly not sure what she expected us to do in the situation!

surfsister

Indie_Kid wrote: »

That's just wrong. As I mentioned before, we have male and female changing rooms and a changing village for swimming. I don't think I've ever had problems with someone (male or female) sitting there and staring.

If you're not happy, I'd report it.

Yes think I will if it happens again as the mother takes an age in the shower then drying her hair (20 mins) and leaves him there with no clothes on the whole time..

I try to go with my costume underneath and zip it off quickly; but dressing again is a pain!

surfsister

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

There's usually an accessible one (or two) toilets and one or two general ones.

on our smallish train there are two toilets one accessible and one the usual one - the usual one is almost always full up and closed so there is no choice but to use the accessible one. I have complained to the train operator but nothing changes. In fact the last time I travelled both were closed (full up) for the whole journey and the guard more or less said it was tough luck!!

surfsister

alwayspuzzled wrote: »

Not quite the same but at the swimming pool I think the sign on the changing room says no boys over 8 years. My BiL insists on his 7yr old being accompanied to the toilet as hes convinced there's a pervert in every single public toilet, bizarrely he wasn't even remotely bothered by losing same boy in a theme park for nearly an hour.

this is a great idea!

dandelionclock30

surfsister wrote: »

on our smallish train there are two toilets one accessible and one the usual one - the usual one is almost always full up and closed so there is no choice but to use the accessible one. I have complained to the train operator but nothing changes. In fact the last time I travelled both were closed (full up) for the whole journey and the guard more or less said it was tough luck!!

Vote with your feet, get a bus instead or find another way of getting there.Obviously there are no toilets on most buses, but at least your showing them. Also go to the loo before you leave for it and then you should be o.k.

FBaby

Can you not see the contradiction there?

You wish for people to make adjustments for your son.......and yet complain that disabled people want it all their way.

What adjustment for my son? I don't want any adjustment at all I just think it is fair he should be able to access any toilet free and available when he is absolutely desperate to go and no-one else is waiting. Why should this be a problem?

Carmina-Piranha_2

andygb wrote: »

Went into a shopping centre today, and had to go to the loo.
I walked out, because there was a bloke with two school age girls (both running around up and down the loo area), and to be honest did not feel comfortable in that situation.
They were definately older than seven year olds.

Maybe those children had special needs?

Carmina-Piranha_2

surfsister wrote: »

Yes think I will if it happens again as the mother takes an age in the shower then drying her hair (20 mins) and leaves him there with no clothes on the whole time..

I try to go with my costume underneath and zip it off quickly; but dressing again is a pain!

So he is plenty old enough to dry and dress himself, but does not appear to be able to do so? Again, I'd think that the child had special needs and therefore needed to be with whoever was looking after him.

At the age of 7 kids are going swimming with school and they get themselves dry and dressed without adult help. Mine wouldn't have wanted to be in the female room with me once they were old enough to sort themselves out. If another child isn't telling their mum they don't want to go into the female change or loo then maybe there's an issue for that child.

If I had an issue with that, I'd find a pool with cubicles.

clearingout

As a single mum of boys I have this dilemma a lot. I feel at 10 my eldest is too old to be in the ladies to my tactic now is to send them all to the male toilets together with instructions to go in together and come out together. Safety in numbers?

It is a worry and I wouldn't be comfortable with the 10 year old going on his own yet. Should he have to cross his legs in public?!

Carmina-Piranha_2

fed_up_and_stressed wrote: »

Most of the culprits tend to come out and meekly apologise and admit they shouldn't be using them in my experience when they see me sat in my chair waiting whilst they exit with their gangs of kids.

I can't afford a gang of kids, so with my one child I reckon it's fair enough for us to nip into an empty disabled loo if I feel the need for whatever reason.

Even if we both use the loo it only takes the amount of time that my friend would take to get in and out of her wheelchair, etc. so I wouldn't feel guilty about a disabled person waiting outside - they would have to wait if there was a disabled person in there anyhow.

I had to do this at a theme park once, and I think the person who tutted at us thought that my gigantic child was much older than he actually was. His poor fine motor skills meant that he needed some help cleaning up after his lactose intolerance caused a diarrhoea problem. Now that he is older, his fine motor skills are improved and he can deal with accidents by himself.

I would rather not stand around explaining his issues to strangers, and if they were actually in urgent need of the loo they wouldn't want me to waste their time in such a way. A kid is not going to want their mum to wipe their bottom if they are capable of it themselves.