End of relationship

vodkachick68

I want to thank each and everyone of u for helping me try to get over this hurt that I feel. I never thought I would be going through this but I'm sure I'm not the first and won't be the last. I may need to post on here daily just until I find my feet again so apologies if I'm covering old ground again.

Thanks

Free_Spirit_31

vodkachick68 wrote: »

I want to thank each and everyone of u for helping me try to get over this hurt that I feel. I never thought I would be going through this but I'm sure I'm not the first and won't be the last. I may need to post on here daily just until I find my feet again so apologies if I'm covering old ground again.

Thanks

If it helps you to vent and rant, by all means do so on here. Treat this board like a diary. Look at today at the start of a better life for yourself. I agree, you are not the first and won't be the last this sort of thing will happen to. Maybe this will help other people gong through the same thing, be strong and confident enough to dust themselves off

sassyblue

vodkachick68 wrote: »

I want to thank each and everyone of u for helping me try to get over this hurt that I feel. I never thought I would be going through this but I'm sure I'm not the first and won't be the last. I may need to post on here daily just until I find my feet again so apologies if I'm covering old ground again.

Thanks

That's a good idea VC and I'm glad you got so angry about him, no more excusing him!

vodkachick68

I'm having another rubbish day! God when will this end? Just can't stop thinking about the way he has ended it,he doesn't give a toss about how I'm feeling and he's already bagged another floozie!
I'm so struggling to move on with all these thoughts in my head,I'm trying so hard to hate him after the way he treated me!

Thanks again for listening

Pollycat

vodkachick68 wrote: »

I'm having another rubbish day! God when will this end? Just can't stop thinking about the way he has ended it,he doesn't give a toss about how I'm feeling and he's already bagged another floozie!
I'm so struggling to move on with all these thoughts in my head,I'm trying so hard to hate him after the way he treated me!

Thanks again for listening

Then read this post again (and again & again):

vodkachick68 wrote: »

Do u know what I thought of this earlier,the thought of him sleeping with me then someone else makes me feel sick! I have deleted his name and number of my phone. I never wanna see the cheating u know what again!! I feel like I hate him now for what he's done,he has treated me like !!!! the last 2 years,flipping controlling what we do and when we see each other,no man will ever do that to me again:mad:

TBH, vodkachick68, he probably didn't give a toss about how you were feeling throughout your relationship.

Although you don't think so at the moment, he's done you a really big favour by saying he needed time (as you now know, that meant to him 'it's over') and by parading his 'new' partner around.
For all you know, she may have been on the scene as long as you were.

Maybe re-read your old threads about how he treated you, wouldn't introduce you to his family etc?

I don't remember reading them at the time but I've just looked and there are quite a few threads you started where you are clearly not happy with the relationship you had with him.
You started the first thread about him not introducing you to his family back in Sept 2012.

I hope you don't think my post is too brutal or cruel but I think you need to keep at the forefront of your mind just how poorly this man treated you almost from the beginning.

Reading about how you felt over the last 2 years may help.


If it helps, what you are feeling right now is absolutely normal.
You will probably flip-flop between hankering after him and your relationship and hating him for how he has treated you for a while.
But it will get better.

vodkachick68

Well I am feeling slightly better today. Had an okish nights sleep for the first time in a week. I went to my friends for tea last night and she gave me a really good talking to which made me think about things a bit differently. I now know that it would never of worked,he had no intention of committing to me. He just strung me along and told me what I wanted to hear.

I do miss his company and things we used to do,that's the hardest bit for me and cos I used to see him at the weekends I feel a bit lost,but I have good friends that are helping me through this and I'm hoping I feel a lot better soon.

Off to London on Thursday to stay with my aunty for the weekend so look forward to that,she will spoil me knowing her lol!

The only man in my life for me is my lovely son:)

marisco_2

Keep believing that things will get better for you. There are times when people disappoint you and let you down, and that is when you must remind yourself to trust your own judgments and opinions, and to keep your life focused on believing in yourself and all that you are capable of.

There will be challenges to face and changes to make in your life. Days will come that are filled with frustration, but you are resilient and have coping mechanisms to pull yourself through. Keep yourself headed in the right directions for you. It wont be easy, but in those difficult times you will find a stronger sense of who you are, and you will also see your future developing as you would like it to be.

vodkachick68

Hi I'm feeling slightly better this week. Still feels raw but I have thought about how our relationship was and I know it couldn't go on. He did text me last week to say he has had a tough time in his personal life recently which has upset him,he went on to say that he has enjoyed every minute being with me and things will be right in the end.

I now have accepted that it's definetly over and I'm trying to move on. It's damn hard but I can feel I'm getting slightly stronger every day. I need to do things for me and my kids now,never will I let any man control my life!!

Pollycat

That's nice to read that, vodkachick68. :T

mose_2

I know how you are feeling right now, I'm currently going through the early stages of divorce, my wife of 8 years(10 together) had an affair and is divorcing me. The pain is truly unbelievable. I feel sick to my stomach every minute of the day. We have 2 little kids and the thought of them not having a mummy and daddy together breaks my heart. Let's hope that time is a healer cause right now my whole world has been turned upside down. So you're not alone out there in your hurt.