End of relationship

Pollycat

purpleshoes wrote: »

It also smacks of unhinged stalker. Not in a million years.

And even without a note, it would be pretty obvious who it was from. :cool:

vodkachick68

Hi all

Just found out tonight that he is seeing someone else! The lying cheating t*at!! He took his new girlfriend into the local pub where my daughter works showing her off!! I just can't believe it,im so shocked and angry :mad:

vodkachick68

Words cannot describe how heartbroken I feel,why couldn't he just have been honest with me? I keep wondering how long has it been going on and is she better than me. God I wish this pain would go

Pollycat

I'm so sorry to hear that, vokdachick68 - but you now know exactly where you stand with - in your words - this 'lying, cheating t*at'.

You now know that when he said he needed time, he didn't really mean that at all.
He wanted to end the relationship but didn't have the guts to actually come right out and say it.

Although this may sound cruel ( I really don't mean it to be), it could be that she's not the 'new' girlfriend at all, maybe she's been on the scene for a long time and is one of the reasons why he never took you to meet his family.

If you can stomach it, I'd go back through all your old threads about this guy (and his shortcomings) and read just how unhappy he made you over the last two or so years.

Of course it hurts!
But it will get better over time.

You really do deserve more.
And I'm sure there will be someone out there who will come along and treat you as you deserve.

Good luck.

vodkachick68

Pollycat wrote: »

I'm so sorry to hear that, vokdachick68 - but you now know exactly where you stand with - in your words - this 'lying, cheating t*at'.

You now know that when he said he needed time, he didn't really mean that at all.
He wanted to end the relationship but didn't have the guts to actually come right out and say it.

Although this may sound cruel ( I really don't mean it to be), it could be that she's not the 'new' girlfriend at all, maybe she's been on the scene for a long time and is one of the reasons why he never took you to meet his family.

If you can stomach it, I'd go back through all your old threads about this guy (and his shortcomings) and read just how unhappy he made you over the last two or so years.

Of course it hurts!
But it will get better over time.

You really do deserve more.
And I'm sure there will be someone out there who will come along and treat you as you deserve.

Good luck.

Thanks pollycat,I was also wondering how long it's been going on. We only saw each other 3 nights a week and he could have been seeing her the other nights. God I hope he wasn't sleeping with us both as the thought makes me sick!!

He is a callous heartless ba**ard and to not tell me to my face that it was over then parade her around in the pub is unbelievable!! If I had a 12 bore I could easily shoot the swine for what he's done,the saying what goes around comes around springs to mind,I hope he gets his cumuppance very soon.

I just have to pick up the pieces and carry on,this will make me stronger hopefully

Vikipollard

vodkachick68 wrote: »

Hi all

Just found out tonight that he is seeing someone else! The lying cheating t*at!! He took his new girlfriend into the local pub where my daughter works showing her off!! I just can't believe it,im so shocked and angry :mad:

I have to say my first thought when I read your thread was that he was still involved with the mother of his kids, and that's why he kept a separate life. Especially the no text/don't contact me bit made me think he'd perhaps moved back in. (If he ever moved out).


The quote above perhaps changes that though. I assume he had met your daughter and knew where she works, so this could very well have been his (cowardly) way of telling you and he may well think he can keep you as an option for if this one doesn't work for him.


I agree with previous posters that you do need to take control (and I had Beautiful South in my head too lol). I personally wouldn't bother to contact him again - it will achieve nothing and he'd know your daughter had told you about his new partner.


But if he does contact you again, politely decline any involvement. You are better than that.


/Hugs

geri1965_2

vodkachick68 wrote: »

Words cannot describe how heartbroken I feel,why couldn't he just have been honest with me? I keep wondering how long has it been going on and is she better than me. God I wish this pain would go

It will go, in time. I had my heart broken really, really badly when I was in my mid 20s. The pain was like a knife being plunged into my heart and I was at my lowest ebb. But I got through it, and now over 20 years later I wonder what I ever saw in him.

Primrose

I am so sorry. But at least you now have proof of his cheating and dishonesty and the kind of person he really is, rather than trying to convince yourself the problems were caused by anything you might have been doing or any in adequacy in yourself. Hopefully you can take some comfort in this. What he has done to you, he will probably do to the new/other woman in due course. She may not know of your existence. He is probably lying to her in the same way he has been lying to you. However hard it is, try and direct your anger into positive actions for yourself which will help you move on to a better place. He will probably find that what goes round, comes round. Do you really want to spend any more time with a cheat like this who uses your daughter to rub it into your face? Not a very nice type is he? Perhaps he's been two timing both of you for a long time and keeping you apart from his family was the only way of stopping them from making comments and you both finding out about each other.

FBaby

Now you know, he is a coward, a big fat one, and yes, he probably was seeing both of you at the same time, she found out, gave him an ultimatum, and he acted on it in the most cowardly way possible.

You can be heartbroken because he has taken away your dreams, but don't be because of losing him. The thought of him should elicit a massive dose of anger, and it is that anger that will give you the energy to move on and get on with your life without him.

BigAunty

Perhaps you can heal faster and more fully because you now feel angry rather than regretful and there is now a confirmed ending to the relationship rather than you wishing for him to come back? I'm assuming the anger will dissipate quicker than longing.

To your credit, you didn't grovel to him which was your first instinct so you've been able to maintain your dignity in that area. Think how much more badly you would feel if you kept making entreaties and perhaps he continued to be vague and then you discovered that he'd already moved on?