Female Friend Ends Friendship

murtle1981

Sounds like she wanted more out of the relationship and because it never progressed she's thought a boyfriend up in the hopes that it will make you jealous. That way she can see if you want to be with her in a more than just friends way. When she was mentioning sex in these late nights chats, did it never occur to you that she fancied the pants off you? If you don't act quick and admit you do actually fancy her then you may have missed the boat...you obviously like her so go for it! But don't dilly dally because before long she WILL have a new fella

onomatopoeia99

aggypanthus wrote: »

My first thought is that she wanted more from you and got fed up waiting for you to make a move.

Rather than waiting, she could perhaps have asked herself?

loubie_lou

Poppy9 wrote: »

Well you have given her mixed signals by inviting her over, cooking for her having intimate conversations.

She's acting like this because she's upset and feel you've taken her for a ride and she's made a fool of herself. She's angry at herself for being stupid!

So put aside how she's acting and ask yourself:

• do you like her as more than a friend
• do you miss your cosy nights in
• do you miss being close to her
• will you care if you never see her again

THIS!

You'll never find out what's wrong if you two don't talk. No matter how good the advice or people's opinion on here think about what you want and take it from there.

rainbowfairydust

do you want to be in a relationship with this woman? From reading your post i got the impression that this is what she wants. A woman doesnt spend a load of time cosying up/going to meals/talking in a sexual nature etc with a bloke she isnt interested in.

I think the boyfriend may be made up to push you into asking her out properly . It sounds to me like she is afraid of being rejected and so hasnt said anything to you. It might be because she is worried that things would become extremely uncomfortable for her at work - if she has feelings for you, and yours are more platonic towards her? So this is the easier route for her to take.

Your best bet is to actually speak to her - its no good asking randoms on a forum for possible reasons as to why she has acted this way. Good luck

egoode

As a girl myself I think she's clearly over reacting if what you have written is the full story. Personally if a friend behaved similarly towards me I'd cut my losses and just move on and find a new friend or spend more time with my current friends. Friendships change all the time and some last a long time and others only a short time sounds like this one has come to an end. Just act professionally at work.

DaveTheMus

You bottled it mate and now someone else is walking up beside the young beautiful woman, someone with the b a ll s to make a move.

If it were me, I'd ask her out tomorrow. Tell her you were moody because you're crazy about her.

If she says no, you're back to not speaking, which is where you are now.

happy_2008

Let us know how you get on

aggypanthus

In my younger days I had a male friend I met at an evening class, he was bit lonely, lived alone but was a nice guy. I had a bf at the time.
Then the male friend met a gf and wrote to me ending the friendship as his gf was moving in and it wasnt appropriate to stay pals!
I was upset and taken aback!
We could have had a happy couples friendship but I gues they couldnt handle that, very odd

PasturesNew

I don't think she ever fancied you, but you were good/handy to hang out with until she got herself a bf. Now she has one her world is complete ....

victory

DaveTheMus wrote: »

You bottled it mate and now someone else is walking up beside the young beautiful woman, someone with the b a ll s to make a move.

If it were me, I'd ask her out tomorrow. Tell her you were moody because you're crazy about her.

If she says no, you're back to not speaking, which is where you are now.

This ^^^^ she would not be reacting so badly if she was not hankering after you and angry with you now because you let her go, because you did not realise, did not act upon it and she feels angry and fed up with you for 'letting her go'