Wedding present- how much?

victory

pinkteapot wrote: »

Or Greek? Large sums are gifted at Greek weddings.

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Or spanish or Italian? I remember a spanish wedding where it was a mother/ mother in law war as to which one could spend the most:rotfl: they did get some fabulous gifts:D

millysg1

OMG!!!!
When we got married 18 months ago it ranged from £20 from work colleagues, £30-50 from closer friends and £50-£150 from family to very close family.

And my family aren't specifically hard done by and the OH family have even more disposable income. I would have been very shocked to receive £200 from a friend, no matter how much they earn.

Person_one

You give as much or as little as you want, can afford and feel comfortable with. Whether that's £10 or £1000 its completely up to you.

Its a gift, not a bill.

Peter333

victory wrote: »

Or spanish or Italian? I remember a spanish wedding where it was a mother/ mother in law war as to which one could spend the most:rotfl: they did get some fabulous gifts:D

This is what I mean ^^^ Ridiculous.

peachyprice

£200 was VERY generous.

For me I would give £100 to a relative, £50 to a friend, £20 to a colleague.

Bean83

Peter333 wrote: »

MAXIMUM £50. Even £30 would be enough IMO. I hate all this wedding etiquette garbage, wedding lists, 10s of 1000s being spent and so on.

All rubbish IMO. I don't think anyone should even expect wedding gifts in this day and age, especially when it's expected (of some) that you should spend a couple of hundred!

Wedding etiquette garbage?! Someone has been kind enough to invite you to their wedding and you would turn up empty handed? That's just rude if you ask me. I wouldn't turn up to any sort of party without a gift. It doesn't matter how much the gift cost, but it's only polite to take something to thank your hosts.


In answer to the original question, I think £200 is very generous, and I think £50 per couple is perfectly acceptable (£20-£20 for an evening invite only).

burnsguitarman

If they are going on Honeymoon to Foreign Shores, why not buy them an amount in the relevant currency? Always goes down well. We tend to give between £30 and £60 depending who it is.

Lily-Rose_3

I haven't been to a family wedding for about 10 years now. And I am so glad.

I actually know a few people (incl my best friend) who have been to a few weddings in the past few years, and the last one my best friend went to was her brother's daughter, and she got married 350 miles away from where they all live.

So everyone had to pay for travel and accommodation to get there and stay there, and then the mother of the bride requested that everyone contributes £100+ for the wedding gift. She said 'they require cash, and won't accept 'gifts' because they have everything they need!'

It cost my friend about £500 for the weekend for travel and outfits and accommodation, and the 'cash gift!' (There was her and her husband and 2 of their kids.)

I would have seriously fallen out with any relative that had dictated to me like this!

There are a few other examples which I don't want to spend time going into too much, but one was a relative of my husband's who had his wedding in the carribean, and expected his siblings (and their families,) and his parents, and grandparents etc, to pay for their OWN flights and accommodation to the carribean, as well as buying fancy gifts for them.

He and quite a few of the family didn't speak for several years, because many refused to go. And about 4 or 5 still don't have any relationship with him. Only 6 people went, out of 17-18 people he was expecting to go. Well what does he expect, when he gets married 5000 miles away on another continent?!

Weddings and funerals are notorious for splitting families up, because of the horrible way people behave.

mummyroysof3

My sister got £40 and 2 cousins got £20.

millysg1

Weddings do add up very quickly. I have been to 5 weddings a year for the last 5 years - 25 weddings (incl evening only on a couple of those). This usually equates to 2 Hen parties a year also.

Hen parties are also costing more and more with an average of £100 each. Then you get the nerve of the bridesmaid usually asking everyone to bring a token Hen party gift as well nowadays (I hate that)

Then there's the wedding travel, taxi or accommodation and then a present on top. Per year it is VERY expensive. Hence being stricter with presents than I would like to.