Wedding present- how much?

comeandgo

My daughter had money and gifts in the region of £200 from her aunts and uncles. It's the going rate in our family. Also the op has 4 of her family going. I now understand why when I gave a gift card to an English wedding to the vale of£100 why there was so much amazement and thanks. In Scotland we seem to splash out a bit more.

millysg1

Lily-Rose wrote: »

25 weddings in 5 years?! :eek: You must know a HELL of a lot of people. I would find that such a drag.

I haven't been to a family wedding since 2004/2005, and only 4 others in that time. That was enough frankly.

I know its crazy - I do have a large family and I can think of at least another 10 in next couple of years!

My sisters
5 female cousins,
An aunt
An uncle
OH cousin
5 of my best girly friends
a couple who are also my best friends
3 close family friends
My own :T
best friends sister
2 other friends from school (evening)
1 Uni friend
1 step cousin

Arthog

We have 2 weddings this year, hundreds of miles away. One has asked for no gifts, and the other has asked for cash towards the honeymoon.
We are going to give each couple a carved wood Welsh Love Spoon. They won't have any idea of the cost!
Both couples already have everything to equip a home and are earning well.
When we married 45 years ago, a pair of towels was thought of as quite a generous gift from friends!
It has all got wildly out of hand!

tea_lover

We went to a wedding on sunday (evening do) and turned up empty-handed. We did have a card but left it at home, we never intended to take a gift. My OH also managed to break one of the jars on the sweet table. Good job they invited us for our company :rotfl:.

£200 is very generous but no one here is going to know how much you can afford.

Pollycat

Arthog wrote: »

We have 2 weddings this year, hundreds of miles away. One has asked for no gifts, and the other has asked for cash towards the honeymoon.
We are going to give each couple a carved wood Welsh Love Spoon. They won't have any idea of the cost!
Both couples already have everything to equip a home and are earning well.
When we married 45 years ago, a pair of towels was thought of as quite a generous gift from friends!
It has all got wildly out of hand!

It might just be me but I would in no way be happy to contribute to someone's honeymoon - especially if they are well off.

Torry_Quine

comeandgo wrote: »

My daughter had money and gifts in the region of £200 from her aunts and uncles. It's the going rate in our family. Also the op has 4 of her family going. I now understand why when I gave a gift card to an English wedding to the vale of£100 why there was so much amazement and thanks. In Scotland we seem to splash out a bit more.

I'm from Scotland as well and think £100 very generous and far more than I would give, even to family.

ska_lover

Arthog wrote: »

We have 2 weddings this year, hundreds of miles away. One has asked for no gifts, and the other has asked for cash towards the honeymoon.
We are going to give each couple a carved wood Welsh Love Spoon. They won't have any idea of the cost!
Both couples already have everything to equip a home and are earning well.
When we married 45 years ago, a pair of towels was thought of as quite a generous gift from friends!
It has all got wildly out of hand!

No disrespect meant, but I do not understand deliberately giving an unwanted gift. Seems a bit mean spirited to me - why not put the few quid into an envelope and give them what they really want? It seems like a weak attempt at making a point that their request goes against your own personal principles - rather than wishing your friends well - in my humble opinion.

Maybe it is just me, but I would rather put a tenner in an envelope to put towards something they really wanted, then wrap up something that is likely to end up gathering dust in cupboard

Things have changed massively since you got wed (I am not saying changed for the better or worse, just different) , many have lived together for a while before wedding bells and a pair of towels aren't a sought after gift anymore

Flugelhorn

I would reckon on £20-30 and if they "have everything they need" then they don't need much more from me!

azzabazza

comeandgo wrote: »

My daughter had money and gifts in the region of £200 from her aunts and uncles. It's the going rate in our family. Also the op has 4 of her family going. I now understand why when I gave a gift card to an English wedding to the vale of£100 why there was so much amazement and thanks. In Scotland we seem to splash out a bit more.

I am from Scotland and I think £100 excessive for non family. I did give my niece £100 but she is the only niece I have.

Brighton_belle

Bean83 wrote: »

I still don't quite agree with your viewpoint (although I would never 'expect' a gift from friends, especially if I knew they were short on cash), but I have to commend you for such an elegant response!

And what a charming response in return - it's been a pleasure not quite agreeing with each other