Wedding present- how much?

maman

ska_lover wrote: »

No disrespect meant, but I do not understand deliberately giving an unwanted gift.

I don't think artog meant it would be unwanted, rather a token gift which would be a bit special because it's unusual. It's not like buying someone a bit of tat or 'regifting' something hideous.


It's almost like giving them a lucky horseshoe but far more tasteful IMO.


I also think weddings, in general, have gone totally OTT.;)

Brighton_belle

maman wrote: »

I don't think artog meant it would be unwanted, rather a token gift which would be a bit special because it's unusual. It's not like buying someone a bit of tat or 'regifting' something hideous.

Often these 'special' and 'unusual' gifts are only special in the eye of the beholder though and are undesirable clutter to someone else. A bit like getting a lovingly cross stitched momento - I would appreciate the kindness behind the gesture and time and effort gone into it, but wouldn't want to display something like that.

ska_lover

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Often these 'special' and 'unusual' gifts are only special in the eye of the beholder though and are undesirable clutter to someone else. A bit like getting a lovingly cross stitched momento - I would appreciate the kindness behind the gesture and time and effort gone into it, but wouldn't want to display something like that.

Couldn't have put it better myself

LisaLou1982

Another vote for £200 being very generous!!

If im invited to an all day do' then i normally give £50 - or £100 if its me and OH

For an evening do, its normally £20-£30

Timeflies

I only have one uncle, and £200 is what he gave us too when we married - far more than anyone else except our parents and my sister - £50-60 was typical from a couple. Those that could afford less gave less, and really we just wanted people to enjoy the day with us.

Re not having the money for a gift - we had some cute things given to us like origami bride's dress in a card, home made cupcakes, home made fortune cookies, which were very sweet thoughtful temporary things and preferable to things to clutter the house with, in my opinion.

Re taking into consideration your own travel & accommodation in deciding what gift you'd like to give someone, my own opinion is go because you want to go celebrate with a loved one, not because you feel obliged. If you don't like them enough to travel to see them, by all means stay home rather than turn up sour faced and begrudgingly. Most guests had to travel a long way to our wedding, and the fun-loving generous-spirited people all came, whether it meant taking a flight, a boat, a long car journey, or cycling home 20 miles.:beer:

Person_one

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Often these 'special' and 'unusual' gifts are only special in the eye of the beholder though and are undesirable clutter to someone else. A bit like getting a lovingly cross stitched momento - I would appreciate the kindness behind the gesture and time and effort gone into it, but wouldn't want to display something like that.

Yeah but, none of us have a right to only receive gifts that we'd choose ourselves. When you want to choose your stuff yourself thats called 'shopping'.

aggypanthus

We give £100 to close family, its crept up to that sort of acceptable level.

mum2one

I think £50 is plenty for a wedding present, the last weeding we went to was the evening do, - 2nd marriage - so we put £30 in the card that was a family of 4, (parents, me and my DD (child)).
x

maman

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Often these 'special' and 'unusual' gifts are only special in the eye of the beholder though and are undesirable clutter to someone else. A bit like getting a lovingly cross stitched momento - I would appreciate the kindness behind the gesture and time and effort gone into it, but wouldn't want to display something like that.

ska_lover wrote: »

Couldn't have put it better myself

Maybe I'm just biased as I'd love to receive a Welsh love spoon. Has to be better than a toaster!:rotfl:

happycomper22

I actually had the same question recently as I have been invited to a wedding in October. I've never been to a full wedding before (only night receptions) and I didn't have a clue about "how much" to put in the card. I'm from N.I and the majority of people asked said £100 per couple. A few people mentioned they thought it was polite as it covered the cost of the meal? probably a Irish thing I'm not sure!