Strange undies found!

victory

sedment wrote: »

So, the two of you live together, no lodgers, teenagers, family members with keys or pets that could be stealing "gifts" for you. You dont use a laundrette, havent taken in other peoples washing,or done a load for a neighbour whose maching broke down. You dont recognise the knickers that have no label, that you have tried on (ew by the way).
Unless your other half has a stash of sexy knickers for fun when you are away, there has been another female in your bed.
They wouldnt have come from whatever store you bought the cover from, so assuming that the duvet gets washed at least once a week, these knickers were there fairly recently. Good luck to you, seems like you will need it.

This sums it up perfectly. This has to be another fantasist story/ troll/ seeking attention thread because things just don't add up, why would you let it go after having asked him? There has to be a reason , it deserves chasing if you are concerned

victory

lotty41 wrote: »

It's on my mind morning til night!

I'm trying to let this go, I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt.

Its a mystery that's never going to be resolved.

I know I have trust issues. I have been cheated on in all my relationships, domestic violence for years. Don't give this info lightly but when you met someone you think is treating you right for once you really don't want to believe that it's all going pear shape.

At the start of our relationship he said he wanted to stop giving this woman and a guy a lift to work because they didn't contribute towards the petrol. Now I didn't even know he was giving these people a lift to work until he mentioned it, I also didn't have a problem with it.
He said he had stopped the lifts, and when I asked a while later if he was def not giving these lifts he said 'No I'm not, why would I lie to you about that'.
Had a row one night and when into his phone, wrong I know. Turns out he was still picking these people up for work, but didn't tell me because he knew I would react.
Didn't really except that excuse because I didn't have a problem with it in the first place.
So now I ask was it a man and a woman!!

We have moved home since and doesn't pick anyone up for work now.

Think this is where my mistrust came from with him.

Cross posted:D

Do you over react each time your OH sees or talks to another woman as a reaction to your previous relationship insecurities so he may feel for peace he's best not saying as he feels whatever he says he's onto a looser?

lotty41

Victory.......attention seeking I'm not, I actually take offensive to that comment.

You have no idea what I have been through so do not judge me.

If you think this thread is some kind of a joke then stop reading and get on with other things that are more important to you.

I have said thanks to everyone ages ago for comments about my thread, |I really didn't expect such a response, and I was happy to end the thread because I knew comments like you have made were coming.

Thanks again to all of you that have given ME the benefit of the doubt in believing me, as weird as what some might think.

Confusedandneedhelp

lotty41 wrote: »

It's on my mind morning til night!

I'm trying to let this go, I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt.

Its a mystery that's never going to be resolved.

I know I have trust issues. I have been cheated on in all my relationships, domestic violence for years. Don't give this info lightly but when you met someone you think is treating you right for once you really don't want to believe that it's all going pear shape.

At the start of our relationship he said he wanted to stop giving this woman and a guy a lift to work because they didn't contribute towards the petrol. Now I didn't even know he was giving these people a lift to work until he mentioned it, I also didn't have a problem with it.
He said he had stopped the lifts, and when I asked a while later if he was def not giving these lifts he said 'No I'm not, why would I lie to you about that'.
Had a row one night and when into his phone, wrong I know. Turns out he was still picking these people up for work, but didn't tell me because he knew I would react.
Didn't really except that excuse because I didn't have a problem with it in the first place.
So now I ask was it a man and a woman!!

We have moved home since and doesn't pick anyone up for work now.

Think this is where my mistrust came from with him.

What difference does it make if hes giving 3 women a lift to work. Jeez.

GET HELP! go to your GP and speak to him or her today!

You met a nice guy, he vented at you that these two people never paid their way. You then get paranoid that hes sleeping with one of them!

tea_lover

Why does giving people a lift to work mean you distrust him? Why is that something he'd lie about? Why does him not having a coffee one morning mean you think he's cheated? Why are you not speaking to him about random underwear in your bed?

This whole thread makes as much sense as Lost.

victory

A quick google search and there seems to be a lot of posts on the same subject, found undies in my bed...

http://www.parmfarm.com/blog1/i-found-another-womans-underwear-in-my-bedroom/

https://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20130325231929AAb27sG

https://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090207162043AARBbIz

Seems to be common:eek:

Now you have a mountain to climb in the trust area

lotty41

Just to clarify.......I wasn't looking for someone to tell me if the underwear is mine, that would be crazy, only I can answer that one. Was just interested in other peoples thoughts on the matter.

dandelionclock30

I'm calling Troll.

Confusedandneedhelp

lotty41 wrote: »

Victory.......attention seeking I'm not, I actually take offensive to that comment.

You have no idea what I have been through so do not judge me.

If you think this thread is some kind of a joke then stop reading and get on with other things that are more important to you.

I have said thanks to everyone ages ago for comments about my thread, |I really didn't expect such a response, and I was happy to end the thread because I knew comments like you have made were coming.

Thanks again to all of you that have given ME the benefit of the doubt in believing me, as weird as what some might think.

So your paranoid, controlling and defensive?

No wonder your OH cant be bothered being open and honest. Everytime he moves you're judging him.

U tell him where he can and cant check his emails
Who he can and cant give lifts to
I imagine next it'll be who he can and cant see socially
What he can and cant eat
.....

you obviously dont want this person, you want to change this person into the one you want. and he will hate you for it.

victory

tea_lover wrote: »

Why does giving people a lift to work mean you distrust him? Why is that something he'd lie about? Why does him not having a coffee one morning mean you think he's cheated? Why are you not speaking to him about random underwear in your bed?

This whole thread makes as much sense as Lost.

Oh no, I remember staying up late for the 2 hour special of lost to get all the answers and came away clueless:rotfl::rotfl:

This is all about lack of trust/lies/being cheated on in the past/being treated badly/lack of self confidence/insecurities/ anything he says or does will be taken down and used against him in evidence/always looking out for the signs, negativities, expecting the worst etc