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Snakey

Morglin wrote: »

...if I was nipping into someone's bed for a quick spot of adulterous sex, I would make sure I took all 'evidence' home with me!

Assuming you didn't want him to get caught.

God only knows why any woman would want to become the official partner of a man who has a track record of cheating on his official partner. Generally you only go with a married man because the combination of a steady relationship and no strings happens to suit you. You'd never consider him boyfriend material because he clearly isn't, and your worst nightmare would be him turning up on your doorstep with a suitcase because the wife's found out.

But apparently some women do go with these losers in the hope that they will leave the wife to be with her (and some married men prefer this sort of affair over the simpler arrangement where she knows the score and doesn't care, because they get off on the emotional intensity and/or like to string people along). Perhaps he's got one of those, and perhaps she got fed up of waiting for it to be "the right time" for him to tell the wife it's over.

I cut the labels out of all my clothes. Why wouldn't you? They're not part of the clothes, they're for seeing what the size, material etc is in the shop before you've bought it. I don't leave the price tags on, either. (I feel I need to add, here, that I am not sleeping with the OP's boyfriend, nor am I missing any pairs that might have been stolen by a magpie etc.)

I don't much care if a thread is genuine. If the original post triggers an interesting discussion, I'll join in with that discussion. People talk about television programmes, books etc even though the things in there never really happened. The only way you can be suckered by a troll is if you end up having an argument with them.

lotty41

No you are wrong again! How do you know what help I've had with my issues. Just because I haven't spilled the whole contents of my life on here you make assumptions.

I didn't even know he was giving a lift to a woman!! It was him that told me, he obviously wanted me to know, which make me wonder if he was just trying to push my buttons. When he told me it was a woman I still didn't care, so you are wrong again on that one.

You are still missing the point......he lied for no good reason! Or maybe he did lie for a reason......he was up to no good!!

Idiophreak

Confusedandneedhelp wrote: »

Read my above post

Yeah, did, it was a load of unsubstantiated nonsense.

OP's said that she was OK with him giving them lifts - and that she didn't make a big deal about it....I've no real reason to believe your version of events over hers tbh

Confusedandneedhelp

For what its worth i dont think the OP is a troll, looking at thread history

lotty41

I didn't know he had a track record for cheating!!

Confusedandneedhelp

lotty41 wrote: »

No you are wrong again! How do you know what help I've had with my issues. Just because I haven't spilled the whole contents of my life on here you make assumptions.

I didn't even know he was giving a lift to a woman!! It was him that told me, he obviously wanted me to know, which make me wonder if he was just trying to push my buttons. When he told me it was a woman I still didn't care, so you are wrong again on that one.

You are still missing the point......he lied for no good reason! Or maybe he did lie for a reason......he was up to no good!!

Ill answer in order:

1: I know because you ARE still paranoid, at present, right now. You say i HAVE trust issues, not i HAD. Clearly any help you did get, didnt work.

2: Ok. I'm wrong. - except for your little comment right there, where he 'as trying to push my buttons'. or was he perhaps being honest? Hmm.

3: I believe he lied for a very good reason. You are controlling. You told him he couldnt check his email on his phone. You monitor his coffee and cigerette intake. think he had a very good reason to lie.

Confusedandneedhelp

Idiophreak wrote: »

Yeah, did, it was a load of unsubstantiated nonsense.

OP's said that she was OK with him giving them lifts - and that she didn't make a big deal about it....I've no real reason to believe your version of events over hers tbh

Based on the thread, a logical pathway begins to appear.

OP is controlling - because of the past. Has trust issues, been a victim, and so forth. People like this tend to (psychologically) control their life. They like routine, and anything outside of routine is seen as 'odd' (read the coffee and cigerette post). They look for signs of impending doom (read email post), and they do not like the partners fraternising with people (particlualr of the opposite sex) who they havent scrutinised 9hence the lift post)

lotty41

Looking at my thread history! Are you joking!!

I can only assume that you are a man!

So consfusedandneedhelp.....what have I ever posted on here that is in the slightest bit dodgy??

confusedandneedhelp......what is it that you need help with, you seem a little confused.

I would bet my bottom dollar that you have maybe been accused of wrong doing in the past? Right or wrong? To me you seem to have reacted in a very defensive way to my thread!!

missbiggles1

Confusedandneedhelp wrote: »

Im using block capitals, because i cant shout at you in real life.

The softly softly approach hasnt worked. You keep saying you're paranoid, have trust issues etc. Ok there's the symptoms, have you been to your GP to discuss the cure? - no you havent. Because its easier for you to have a crutch to lean on.

You can do these things, treat your OH with suspicion and so forth (and i mean any relationship u have, not specifically this one) and if it goes wrong you have the whole, im like this because of my past excuse. Which is only an excuse to yourself.

So instead of putting in abit of effort for the rewards of a long term and happy life, you sabotage your relationships.


and i didnt say you had a problem with him giving lifts, i said you had a problem with who it was - because there was a woman involved!

Good grief - if everybody went to see their GP if they suspected a partner of cheating, the NHS would collapse!

Talk about medicalising a character trait!

lotty41

Confusedandneedhelp......are you a doctor of some sort!

You are the only person who has been some what nasty.

Take care Mr. Confused!