Better off Financially living apart or as a couple?

Graham_Devon

mummytohollieandpinkbump wrote: »

just to point out. i was a taxpayer til i got pg with my daughter and had to leave work because of health issues. i now am a stay at home mum as i dont want to miss out on the first few years of my daughter and her soon to be sisters first years. my partner works full time and the only benefits i recieve are child benefit (which everyone is entilted to) and tax credits which pay for my daughters clothes,nappies,wipes,food etc. so yes tax credits do come in handy to pay for our daughters things and if i could afford to i wouldnt claim benefits as i feel that me and my partner should be able to bring up our children without help from the government but right now thats not possible.

not everyone are frauds too many people just assumed this without knowing the true extent to why craig wanted to live alone.

if my partner ever was abusive or took his anger out on me and my children i too would want him to live on his own til he had it under control.

at the end of the day his partner and his childs safety are the most important thing not where YOUR tax is going.

luv leigh,hollie and pink bump x x x

I don't care why he wants to live alone.

I want to have a bigger house. I want a bigger garden. I want more bedrooms.

Guess what, I'm making do cus all I can afford right now is what I pay for, yes thats right, I live on my own, have a mortgage and pay for everything, I get no benefits. Surprising eh! To do this I have to get up when I don't want to. I have to be places I don't really want to be. I have to cram everything else into a small amount of time because I have to be at work to keep this roof over my head.

Seems Craig wants two of these roofs, so hey, I'm paying for him too!

Can't believe some of you are saying 'awww, he's violent, he's doing the best thing'.

If he's violent why the hell is he with a vulnerable baby and his girlfriend right now!??

If he truly is violent like he said he is, he should NOT be going to see his baby other than in a visiting centre.

Somehow, I don't really think he's that violent.

And your right, HIS needs and what HE wants are what counts, like you say, he does not care about our tax, just wants his own way and to be different to everyone else.

Chris made his points VERY clear on page 4 in reply to me.

He wants to work as little as possible, pay no council tax, have 2 council houses, see his baby and girlfriend when her wants and recieve maximum benefits.

So whats all this about we dont know his personal circumstances!?

Graham_Devon

mummytohollieandpinkbump wrote: »

i know not the same situation as craig as he is living apart. but what if he got a full time job and be living apart from his partner and son that would be even worse. when would he have free time to go see them?

My god!!!! When do the millions who work get time to see their families?!?!?!

He get's time EXACTLY the same as the rest of us!!

Am I going insane here or are people really saying this stuff!!

missylou_2

Sorry but you seem to have missed INHO the best bit of all!

"..the only benefits i recieve are child benefit (which everyone is entilted to) and tax credits which pay for my daughters clothes,nappies,wipes,food etc. so yes tax credits do come in handy to pay for our daughters things..."

Would these be the tax credits that grow on the government magic money tree? Or would these be tax credits provided by other hard working people who are actually responsible enough to plan a family that they can actually afford to maintain by themselves!

Gaz83

I actually cannot believe people are supporting someone who is doing his best to fiddle the tax and benefits system - whether legally or illegally - to work as little as possible and receive as much as he can.

liney

If the OP was so concerned about his violent tendencies, then he wouldnt have asked the question, because they would live apart regardless of whether they were better off financially as a couple or living apart.

I find it strange that it would cross his mind to move in, thus putting partner and child at risk, if it made them better off financially, but use it as a reason to stay apart if it didn't.

azjh77

http://www.newsoftheworld.co.uk/story_pages/news/news3.shtml

This is in todays NOTW.

A couple actually have split up to get more money...apparently it is better for their son to have more money than his parents together...

Quote:-
He said: "There's no point in us being together if we get more money by living apart.


What is the matter with people nowadays!! They had a mere £1700 to live on...ahhh. My family of six manage on less than that.

Whatever happened to 'for richer or for poorer' ?

Becles

mummytohollieandpinkbump wrote: »

my partner works full time and the only benefits i recieve are child benefit (which everyone is entilted to) and tax credits which pay for my daughters clothes,nappies,wipes,food etc. so yes tax credits do come in handy to pay for our daughters things and if i could afford to i wouldnt claim benefits

Why did you have a baby if you couldn't afford to pay for one? I presume from your sig that there is another baby on the way? Just curious.

Becles

mummytohollieandpinkbump wrote: »

hi sorry posting again but why should he work fulltime.

my partner worked monday to friday 2pm-10pm. he would leave at dinnertime not get back til 11pm and me or my daughter hardly saw him and at weekends he would be too tired to do family things. he is now working weekends although thankfully getting paid the same.

People should work full time to provide an income to pay for their family needs.

We have a 9 week old babyl, plus two older children. My husband works full time during the week, then works weekend evenings. He does that to provide for us. He still has plenty of time with the children. Yesterday he was out play tennis in the street with the older ones, and he played with the baby in her gym then took her for a walk with our dogs.

milkydrink

mummytohollieandpinkbump wrote: »

just to point out. i was a taxpayer til i got pg with my daughter and had to leave work because of health issues. i now am a stay at home mum as i dont want to miss out on the first few years of my daughter and her soon to be sisters first years. my partner works full time and the only benefits i recieve are child benefit (which everyone is entilted to) and tax credits which pay for my daughters clothes,nappies,wipes,food etc. so yes tax credits do come in handy to pay for our daughters things and if i could afford to i wouldnt claim benefits as i feel that me and my partner should be able to bring up our children without help from the government but right now thats not possible.

Tax Credits are benefits & they come out of tax payers tax.
When my daughter was a baby till two I lived with her father, my husband. I was a SAHM & we recieved NO state benefits at all & he wasn't in a well paying job. When we seperated (due to his serial adultry) I HAD to go back to work. I hated having to leave my two year old, but I felt I had no choice other than to earn to pay our way.
Unlike you I didn't recieve benefits EVER to pay for my daughters clothes,nappies,wipes,food etc.
Its nice for you that my tax that I pay now & more importantly the tax paid by other working mums allows you the choice to be a stay at home mum. That last bit is the most ironic of all.

liney

I'm sure that child is much better off living alone with a manic depressive mother!

When did people stop working out whether they could afford to have babies without taking benefits into consideration?

I think i might throw my fella out. He's nothing but a financial obstical evidently.