Better off Financially living apart or as a couple?

wifeforlife

mummytohollieandpinkbump wrote: »

oh !!!!!! not once did i mewntion in my post for a loan that i was single and on benefits.why that has anything to do with this i dont know.

ok answer me this my partner while working during the week missed my daughters first word,my daughters first steps most of my daughters first. so if i went back to work i would too miss all of these with my next child which i'm not willing to do.

like i said in a previous post if i had work part time all of that money would of gone towards childcare fees and not towards raising my family.thus making us worse off.

Who ever remembers the firsts?! Sure a child babbles that much you can never tell what the first word is, but it's usually da, everytime whether they have a da or not

Also if you where working part time, you wouldnt be worse off because of paying for childcare, your tax credits actually help towards it, there is also a childcare voucher scheme alot of employers now have too.

Cate

mummytohollieandpinkbump

Anthillmob wrote: »

did your previous pregnancy make you seriously ill? if so may i ask why you are risking being seriously ill again by having another baby? doesnt that make you a little selfish towards the unborn child?

seriously though good luck with the baby (mines due december).

hi with my first pregnancy i had severe morning sickness which resulted me being admitted to hospital with severe dehydration. i lost alot of weight and wasnt til i was 20 weeks that it started to ease. as i worked in a reasturant the smell of food made it much worse so that is why i left.

i was hoping that this time round i wouldnt get it and thankfully it wasnt to bad i ahd to be hospitalised and tablets my doctor gave me helped enough for me to cope.

so guess no it doesnt make me selfish towards my unborn child as no one can predict morning sickness and how bad it can be.


thanks for the good luck. good luck to you with your pregnancy too and a xmas baby how exciting.

mummytohollieandpinkbump

Anthillmob wrote: »

hillie and bumps mum. you havent answered one question ive put to you. are you therefore bullshoitting us?

hi sorry if i havent answered to yuor questions but you see theres so many post with people having a go at me a few posts may go unnoticed.

i'll be happy to answer them now though if you want to ask.

Graham_Devon

mummytohollieandpinkbump wrote: »

oh !!!!!! not once did i mewntion in my post for a loan that i was single and on benefits.why that has anything to do with this i dont know.

ok answer me this my partner while working during the week missed my daughters first word,my daughters first steps most of my daughters first. so if i went back to work i would too miss all of these with my next child which i'm not willing to do.

like i said in a previous post if i had work part time all of that money would of gone towards childcare fees and not towards raising my family.thus making us worse off.

See it's this that winds people up and we start being 'nasty' towards you. What about all the working parents who are also supporting your child? What about them!? You want them to support your child through benefits, for which they have to miss their childs first sneeze, first wink and first swear word.

Poooooooooooor you!

As for childcare, are you making all this stuff up to suit!? What the hell is your husband doing all week!? He works weekends you said, though you also said he was cutting down work, conviniently he now works 36 hours, whereas before based on your times, he worked....oh, 36 hours. (I got 36 hours from the times you gave and you said he worked 5 days).

You said he had cut this down, though now it appears he hasn't as people caught you out on it.

You said he does not work during the week to spend more time with the kids, but if you go out during the week you have to pay for childcare and you will be worse off (it's not all about finance by the way, it's also about self respect).

So where does your husband come in!? Why on earth can he not look after the kids during th week JUST like you told us he was cutting back work hours to do.

You also seem to suffer more and more with your pregnancies the longer you type! Is there anything you didnt have?!

Nothing gets past detetive Poirham

mummytohollieandpinkbump

TheWaltons wrote: »

My husband worked 6 until 6pm for a fortnight a short time ago. He still came home, ate his tea, helped me with the children and wasn't overly tired. He often works 12hr shifts when covering, and his daily shift is 10 hours EVERY day.

I am so thankful he doesn't suffer with this drastic tiredness your partner suffers from, else we really would be stuffed. My husband pays the Mortgage and gets 34k a year. What could your partner get if he worked FULL time?

Hmmm.. I would first get him checked out by a Dr because if he thinks working for a weekend is tough, a whole week would surely kill him.

can i just say something (repeating myself again) he is not tired now he works on weekends he was wokring monday to friday travelling 60 mile everyday and doing 8 hours+ everyday.sometimes he would do a 16 hour shift come home have 5 hours kip then go do antoher 16 hour shift.

although he is on weekend shift he is satill doing full time hours the same as he was working weekdays.

your partner is very lucky to be earining 34k a year. what i would give for my partner to earn that and for us to get a mortgage. you wna tto know how much he earns £13,000 that a pittance compared to your partners wage and my partner is a supervisor too. his employer are verty mean to him and greedy when it comes to pay rises.

i really wish people would read all of my psots before replying as i'm getting sick of repeating myself now.

Graham_Devon

mummytohollieandpinkbump wrote: »

can i just say something (repeating myself again) he is not tired now he works on weekends he was wokring monday to friday travelling 60 mile everyday and doing 8 hours+ everyday.sometimes he would do a 16 hour shift come home have 5 hours kip then go do antoher 16 hour shift.

although he is on weekend shift he is satill doing full time hours the same as he was working weekdays.

your partner is very lucky to be earining 34k a year. what i would give for my partner to earn that and for us to get a mortgage. you wna tto know how much he earns £13,000 that a pittance compared to your partners wage and my partner is a supervisor too. his employer are verty mean to him and greedy when it comes to pay rises.

i really wish people would read all of my psots before replying as i'm getting sick of repeating myself now.

Im reading them all

If your partner worked full time he would earn more. If he got a job weekdays, you know, a proper one, he may earn more.

As it is, if YOU worked part time, you'd both earn more. As it stand you could work full time! You just don't want to. So don't be saying 'I wish we could earn that much' because guess what, you could. You just don't want to.