Better off Financially living apart or as a couple?

mummytohollieandpinkbump

TheWaltons wrote: »

I think we should forgive her fanciful idea, seeing she is pregnant and probably just pulled widwife out the air...

yeah i just pulled the midwife out of the air.

of course i did.

so how come i know i have to do an access to uni course to get into uni. this course is 16 hours per week and can last a year or 2 years.

oh yes and then when i go to uni the course i will be doing will around 3 years long and i will have a wrok placement.

so yeah i just pulled it out of th eair although i know all this info.

is that why also since i started trying for my daughter i ahve read up on anything and everything to do with trying to concieve, infertilty,pregnancy,birth and everything after that.

Oldernotwiser

mummytohollieandpinkbump wrote: »

i one day hope to run my own birthing centre and or fertility centre.

So not really helping the community, then. Only those with money!

TheWaltons_3

Anthillmob wrote: »

dont make me laugh. even below the age of 1 they understand perfectly well when daddy or mummy leave the house and when they come back, thats what all that inane grinning and gurgling is about on their return.

are you seriously saying you wont work because your daughter has no concept of daddy going to work? :rotfl:

:rotfl:

The thing is, children adapt. All three of my babies settled well with the Childminder and it is only now as my eldest is getting clever, she has decided it's better to stay with Mummy than go to the Childminders.

I think children are better off with Childminders when young then Nurseries as they get older, as Mummy can often find too much to do at home instead of educating the children. I gave my eldest FULL attention until she was 6 months then decided enough was enough. I needed money and I needed to work for my sanity.

Not all Mums feel like this, and I fully support a good SAHM but then in reality, like someone else has said, you should only be a SAHM if you can afford it. Not because the good old Green Giros keep you going. That is not a Stay at Home Mum. That is a Stay at Home Milker.

TheWaltons_3

mummytohollieandpinkbump wrote: »

yeah i just pulled the midwife out of the air.

of course i did.

so how come i know i have to do an access to uni course to get into uni. this course is 16 hours per week and can last a year or 2 years.

oh yes and then when i go to uni the course i will be doing will around 3 years long and i will have a wrok placement.

so yeah i just pulled it out of th eair although i know all this info.

is that why also since i started trying for my daughter i ahve read up on anything and everything to do with trying to concieve, infertilty,pregnancy,birth and everything after that.

Funnily enough, I mentioned the Access course a few posts up... but besides... with Google at your Fingertips.. you could be anything you wanted to be :rotfl:

I should hope you know how you conceived seeing as you're pregnant. It's not Rocket Science.

Anthillmob

well, given that ive asked hollies mummy a few questions a couple of times i think its safe to assume that she is actually on a wind up.

if im wrong then hands up but come on hollies mum answer my questions on the last few pages.

wifeforlife

mummytohollieandpinkbump wrote: »

i do know what a normal working week is thanks. and i am quite capable of working a 12 hgour night shift when i become a midwife. i have worked 12 hour shifts in the past i can do it again. i am very much a hard worker and i intend to be one of the best midwifes around especially since the nhs has lack of those recently.i hope to one day have my own birthing centre and or fertility clinic too. if thats not ambition and wanting to be hardworking then i dont know what is.

Yeah but it's 5-6 years down the line, why not do a starter course now while you have the time to do, as I have provided the link to OU there is no reason to even leave the house. I would also say your local college has some night courses you could do.

I've just spotted your other thread by the way, just to advise you dont need a credit card or debit card to use ebay, I dont have them either. Use your bank account which you do have and the money can be transferred to that, or accept postal orders, bankers drafts and or cheques.

Also use freecycle, gumtree and your local free ad paper for cots, prams and the like.

If I was to have another I'd do that, there wouldnt be any chance of me paying full price for things again.

Leave the decorating too, it's not that important, as long as the house is clean I wouldnt worry about the house. Infact the only room that was decorated in my house was my daughters, I got 1 tin of pink paint in homebase on offer £15 and done it myself in a day.

If you want any advise or support on how to use these sites or how to do things without that loan please ask, I'll help you if you want it

Cate

Gaz83

Worringly, if you're a midwife, will you be advising mothers and fathers to jack in their work until their kids are old enough to understand the concept of employment?

astonsmummy

TheWaltons wrote: »

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And to everyone who is in uproar about this, thankfully they are now recognising that people are scamming the system and couples/married people are going to also get more incentive to stay together, and discincentives for single parents! (Not that I am gloating, but it wont pay to stay single anymore)

HURRAY! I very nearly applied for a Council house and trotted off with my 3 kids!

you are kidding!
what is gordon brown going to find me a nice man to team up with and raise my son? no i doubt it :rolleyes:
what disencentives are these then?

Gaz83

I believe it's more incentives for couples rather than discincentives for single parents.

mummytohollieandpinkbump

Anthillmob wrote: »

first off eh? in another thread youre on about getting a provident loan and from what i could make out you were single on benefits. you havent made it very clear.

anyway thats neither here nor there.

you wont miss out on your kids growing up if you work and i and other working mothers will take offence at anyone who spouts such carp.

why wait until your children are at school before you go to uni or get a job? dont spout about child care being too expensive, tax credits will pay towards the cost (and a very sizeable chunk of it) in the child care element.

if pregnancy made you ill yet you wanted another child, why didnt you return to work, even part time, between children to get some cash beind you?

oh !!!!!! not once did i mewntion in my post for a loan that i was single and on benefits.why that has anything to do with this i dont know.

ok answer me this my partner while working during the week missed my daughters first word,my daughters first steps most of my daughters first. so if i went back to work i would too miss all of these with my next child which i'm not willing to do.

like i said in a previous post if i had work part time all of that money would of gone towards childcare fees and not towards raising my family.thus making us worse off.