Better off Financially living apart or as a couple?

Anthillmob

did your previous pregnancy make you seriously ill? if so may i ask why you are risking being seriously ill again by having another baby? doesnt that make you a little selfish towards the unborn child?

seriously though good luck with the baby (mines due december).

wifeforlife

mummytohollieandpinkbump wrote: »

my partner works fri,sat and sun night 12 hour shift so 36 hours in total the same amount of hours he was on when working during the week so no he isnt part time and no we are not recieving maximum benefits just tax credits.

and i dont feel for craig i feel for his partner and child as they are the most important people in his situation its their safety i'm concerend about not how much he is better off finacially.

hope thats cleared it up for you

If he's working weekends only and 12 hour shifts, why cant you then work mid week even part time, or study at the OU midweek. He's available to look after your child

Cate

mummytohollieandpinkbump

cathy2702 wrote: »

This is life!!!!! I'm assuming your 19/20 now. I'm going to tell you straight, dont pull the depression card! Dont dare insult the people that use this site and actually do have depression, it's a long term illness that never fully goes away, and yes I did have it through out my childhood, teenager years and only recently at 24 finally beat the demons and got off my antidepressants.

Oh woe is you, you didnt feel like you where having a family life, oh dear you felt like a single parent. So bloody what, some of us are single parents and do work, oh and do have a family life. I dont get whats so hard about it.

I cant even be bothered to read any more of your drivel, you arent even willing to see the other side of the coin at all

Cate

erm i think i can pull put the depression card. wny oh why i have to explain myself i dont know but here goes.

ever since primary school i was bullied moved to secondary school was even worse. i was so depressed i tried to kill myself i was made to feel like i was worth nothing.

when i left my depression lifted i made new friends and got a job and became independant but at my second job. i was discriminated agaibst becasue of my age and in the end left i had no money,no friends and no life and depression came back. i spent all my time in bed wishing i was dead. oh and btw through this depression i never claimed one single benefit. i eventually got a new job and slowly my old self came back.

so yes i ahve been through dsepression and now and again it comes back mainly thansk to my school days as i still feel ilke i'm worth nothing even more so right now when people like you feel its ok to have a go.

i also admire single mums for the way they get on with it and not complain my mum was a single mum and she worked to give us the best life possible i am very thankful i have a loving partner.

i can see th eother side of the coin but chosse to ignore it since everyone is being so horrible to me.

poppyscorner

I used to think I would love to be a SAHM till I went on maternity leave to have my second son I love being with my kids but god does it get you worn out the same thing over and over I need my own independance I am an assistant team leader and doing NVQ4 in Management to become a manager in my own right we (my hubby and I) work really hard hubby is SE and is just starting to build his business up abit he usually works five days but will work 6 if the work needs doing I work 25hrs a week in my job but this is temporary till my baby gets to about 18months when I will resume full time working I cant afford to live any other way. I would love to go to uni but cant afford the drop in income so I am making the best of my situation. At present we get CTC and WTC but I wish we earned enough not to get them we have only been claiming these since the baby was born as we didnt need them before.
Before anyone has a go about me defending Craig (the origional poster if anyone remembers him) I stand by everthing I said despite my own circumstances because he has had ill health (whether you agree or not) could be a danger to his family so imho he is better off out of there.

Poppy

Anthillmob

hillie and bumps mum. you havent answered one question ive put to you. are you therefore bullshoitting us?

mummytohollieandpinkbump

TheWaltons wrote: »

How the fook can ANYONE be tired working 2days a week.... ahhhhh.... I know what you mean, I feel more tired when I've been off work and been in the house all day doing nothing. It really takes it out of me.

he isnt tired anymore he has only just started working weekends and it isnt 2 days its 3 and they are 12 hour shift 30 miles away from where we live.

read through all of my posts first as you'll see i have already written this

Gaz83

I hate this country.

mummytohollieandpinkbump

kimevans wrote: »

There really is no need for the bad language.
And you have made your thoughts on working mothers plain for all.

half of my friends are working mums and thumbs up to them for doing so. they must miss there children terribly when they are at work.i personally couldnt do it becuase i would miss my daughter very much. my mum had babysat for her once because i cant bear to be without her.

and its not as if i'm going to be a stay at home mum all my life as i'm not as i do plan to go out and get a career. so then i too will be a working mum.

TheWaltons_3

mummytohollieandpinkbump wrote: »

my partner works fri,sat and sun night 12 hour shift so 36 hours in total the same amount of hours he was on when working during the week so no he isnt part time and no we are not recieving maximum benefits just tax credits.

and i dont feel for craig i feel for his partner and child as they are the most important people in his situation its their safety i'm concerend about not how much he is better off finacially.

hope thats cleared it up for you

My husband worked 6 until 6pm for a fortnight a short time ago. He still came home, ate his tea, helped me with the children and wasn't overly tired. He often works 12hr shifts when covering, and his daily shift is 10 hours EVERY day.

I am so thankful he doesn't suffer with this drastic tiredness your partner suffers from, else we really would be stuffed. My husband pays the Mortgage and gets 34k a year. What could your partner get if he worked FULL time?

Hmmm.. I would first get him checked out by a Dr because if he thinks working for a weekend is tough, a whole week would surely kill him.

TheWaltons_3

Gaz83 wrote: »

I hate this country.

Yeah Gaz, so do I.

In other countries you have no other choice, but to work.