Is it something I said??!!

krustylouise

Hi,

Not sure if someone else has said this, sorry if they have. But any chance your phone might be down? It seems abit coincidental that all 4 people didn't reply?

Like someone else said before, perhaps surprise leaving do is being planned?

whodathunkit

victory wrote: »

I have to disagree to a point.... in my phone contacts I know that for eg my son will answer immediately, his gf will answer immediately, teens do, they have their phones with them, it is their life line, whether they are with their friends etc they answer immediately, they do have a life, a vast amount of friends, a great social life, hobbies, are out all the time and do sleep (obviously the texts are not sent at 4am in the morning!) there are a few that I know that will answer as soon as it lands on their phone as well as others that I know will read and not acknowledge it...but these specific friends are used to arranging things on the same day and answering texts for a meet up on the same day, it is what they do and they never answered, now that is not normal for that group of friends.

Surely not when they're at school or at work?

victory

whodathunkit wrote: »

Surely not when they're at school or at work?

Well yes and no, yes at work and no at school as mobiles are banned in this school(and would not really feel inclined to contact them within the school hours, if it was that important I would ring the landline of the school and ask for my son but that is an extreme eg and the posters lack of reply to the text message is not within this extremity) but on way home if they had taken it if need be etc

victory

FBaby wrote: »

People have different habits when it comes to communicating on their mobiles. I have my phone with me all the time and will read my texts almost always as I receive them but won't always be in a position to answer right away. Communication with my children will be set at the level describe by OP, I'd I don't hear within a few minutes/hours depending on situation I won't be happy. Husband would be within hours. Friends and rest of family would be within a day or two.

Exactly this:D

It must be said that the poster is used to her friends answering the same moment/day to arrange to do something on the day so not having had a reply from all 4 of them is totally unusual and not what they do

Indie_Kid

Peter333 wrote: »

But what if they are asleep, at work, at the hospital, at the doctors, in a meeting, at an appointment, playing sport like badminton or swimming, with company, having a meal. Surely nobody would check texts (and even worse, answer them!) when they are out for a meal with someone. (Or even just having a coffee or a beer.) That is the height of rudeness!

I know someone who does this. Actually, he does slightly worse and will call his "ex" in front of others.:mad: I find this rude. We're then completely ignored and expected to be quiet when he calls her. Why it can't wait until we're not there, I'll never know. I have only know others to do this when it's urgent.

I know many people, and I have about 30 regular contacts in my mobile. Family, friends, colleagues. Not one of them "always texts back immediately without fail." (Sometimes they do, but not always.) Anyone who 'always texts back immediately without fail,' must have no life, no friends, no family, no social life, no hobbies, they must never go out, and they must never sleep.

I will only reply straight away if I've got my phone on anyway. I don't have it on 24/7.

So if anyone - ANYONE - in my phonebook did not reply to a text within a few hours, (even 24 hours,) I would think nothing of it. I certainly would not be banging their door down and peering through their windows in their back garden!

Same here. I do have friends who do almost always reply straight away. If it takes them a few hours, then fine. I know (I don't do this on purpose) I tend to text my friends or parents when they're working and so, know it'll take them a few hours to reply.

shiny76

krustylouise wrote: »

Hi,

Not sure if someone else has said this, sorry if they have. But any chance your phone might be down? It seems abit coincidental that all 4 people didn't reply?

Sods law they'll all have got the text this morning and be sat waiting in the park...



...getting more & more irritated at being stood up by OP

Morglin

Peter333 wrote: »

I must agree with the majority here sorry Sacha. You are being very impatient. I have a mobile phone, but sometimes only check the messages twice a day. And if I have left it in the car, (say at 5pm) and someone texts me at 5.30pm, I may not check it til midday the next day. And I know other people are the same. I would give someone say... about 36-48 hours and then message them again, saying 'did you get my text?' If it was hugely important, I would ring them anyway!

One night the other week, my wife came in from work and started tea, and popped in the shower. Her phone was in her bag which she had left in the garage. She got her bag out the next day, but didn't check her phone.

Someone knocked the door when she was in the bath the next morning (she wasn't at work.,) and she didn't answer the door, as she was in the bath of course.

The person knocked about 10 times in 2-3 minutes. The persistence annoyed her, but she was in the bath. So she ignored the knocking.

About 20 minutes later, her mobile phone rang, and it was her friend who she knows from a couple of hobby groups in the village. She said 'Oh my God, are you OK? How come I haven't heard from you?'

Upshot is: my wife's friend (who lives about 15 minutes walk away,) texted her the previous night at 5.30pm, and then again at 8.30pm. But because the phone was in the garage, she didn't see the texts. There were three missed calls too.

And it was this friend who knocked almost a dozen times whilst my wife was in the bath! All she wanted was to ask her if she was going to the writing group at the end of the week! Within 16 hours of texting my wife, this woman was almost having a meltdown, because she had got no response.

She said she thought she had offended my wife, or maybe she was 'lying hurt,' and she couldn't sleep all night for worrying. She said, she looked in the lounge window, in the kitchen window, and even went round to the back to look through the patio doors! (Cue a LOCK on the back gate now!!!)

After this, my wife now thinks this woman is very clingy and frankly, a bit of a stalker, and she is giving her a wide berth!

I am not saying you're anything like this Sacha, but it's a slippery slope, when you're going apesh*t over someone not texting you back, just a few hours after you texted them!

I guess you are stressed because of the move? Do you usually faff and worry like this? And get angry if you're not texted back within several hours? 9 times out of 10, the reason will be that someone hasn't seen the text yet, they have but haven't got around to texting you back, OR they haven't received it yet.

Chill. I bet by this time tomorrow, At least 2 out of the 4 will have texted you, and by the weekend, the other 2 will have to.

God, I hope your wife has dumped her..:eek:

What a nightmare......make sure you lock any bunnies you have away lol

Needy people - best avoided.

Lin

sacha28

Ok so yes.....my phone was down!!! I got 3 lovely texts this morning agreeing to ALL meeting.....then 3 asking if there was a problem because I haven't contacted to cement arrangements lol!!! The 4th person I phoned and didn't answer....haven't heard from her at all but, lately, this isn't unusual as she has completely gone in on herself and seems to be avoiding EVERYONE. I find this upsetting as I am at a loss as to how I can help her

Anyway, I don't go around people's houses and peer through windows, I don't phone constantly and I only sent one text to each that didn't get a reply....I didn't constantly text until I got an answer.

It appears my phone has been having some issues which became apparent when OH arrived home from work and asked why my phone has been 'unavailable' all day :mad:

For the record I am far from needy and I don't harass people, I just know my friends very well and was upset by their apparent lack of communication

Morglin

Glad you got it sorted and can say goodbye to your mates.

Lin

Person_one

sacha28 wrote: »

Ok so yes.....my phone was down!!! I got 3 lovely texts this morning agreeing to ALL meeting.....then 3 asking if there was a problem because I haven't contacted to cement arrangements lol!!! The 4th person I phoned and didn't answer....haven't heard from her at all but, lately, this isn't unusual as she has completely gone in on herself and seems to be avoiding EVERYONE. I find this upsetting as I am at a loss as to how I can help her

Anyway, I don't go around people's houses and peer through windows, I don't phone constantly and I only sent one text to each that didn't get a reply....I didn't constantly text until I got an answer.

It appears my phone has been having some issues which became apparent when OH arrived home from work and asked why my phone has been 'unavailable' all day :mad:

For the record I am far from needy and I don't harass people, I just know my friends very well and was upset by their apparent lack of communication

Well, now you've had a perfect illustration of why its not helpful to get upset! Even the most prompt repliers in the world can have factors outside their control like a network issue.