Is it something I said??!!

sacha28

I just want a whinge really as I can't speak to OH as he's at work and I'm starting to fluctuate between getting really annoyed and upset :mad:

I really cannot believe how rude my 'friends' have been today. I've text 3 people asking if they want to meet and phoned another a couple of times. This isn't because I'm desperate but because we are moving 100 miles away in 2 weeks time and want to spend time with them before we go as I know (from experience) that some friendships don't survive. I also can't afford a leaving party because of the cost of the move.......not one of them have bothered to reply and the last one didn't answer. These are all people that I have known for years and we have children of similar ages (apart from the last one), there hasn't been, to my knowledge, any kind of fall out.

Now I understand that people have lives to lead, I also understand that the final person I tried to get in contact with is going through major personal trauma, but is it really too much to expect a 'thanks but no thanks, I'm busy' message??

It actually feels like nobody really gives 2 s h its about the fact we're going, either that or they didn't like me or my family in the 1st place.

Sorry to sound all self absorbed, I wouldn't bat an eyelid if it was just 1 or 2 people that didn't bother but 4?? Was it something I said?

katie_saver

Have you mentioned to them in your text that you are leaving in 2 weeks time (as a gentle hint/reminder)? Although it is at the forefront of your mind, maybe your friends have forgotten that it is so soon?

ladeeda

Maybe they are avoiding you as they have planned a surprise leaving do?

lika_86

Have you only called them today? If so, is it possible that they're busy?

You say the final person you contacted didn't answer and that she's going through major personal trauma, in that case should you not be a better friend and support them rather than whinge that they haven't texted you back?!

suejb2

How long ago did you text? Maybe they haven't seen it or had time to reply. I do tend to give people the benefit of the doubt much to my O.H annoyance.Is it possible they have arranged something between them as a surprise for you?

sacha28

Yes I have, the text went along the lines of 'fancy meeting up and going to the park or something? Just thought it would be nice to catch up before we leave in a couple of weeks'.

Not one reply am I right for feeling miffed? Or am I being somewhat pathetic?

Georgiegirl256

When did you last see them? Maybe you've all drifted apart already? Maybe they're at work or out and about with their families and just haven't had time to reply? Maybe no signal (long shot for all 4 of them I know), but I was out in the Lakes yesterday and can never get a signal there.

If they haven't responded by tonight, I'd maybe just send one last text stating that you're going in 2 weeks time just incase they didn't realise it was so soon.

sulphate

Not everyone has their phones on them all the time, maybe they just haven't had a chance to reply yet?

Personally, I rarely reply to messages the day I get them. I also don't like making last minute plans, that's just me. If I'm not working, chances are I've already planned my day.

sacha28

lika_86 wrote: »

Have you only called them today? If so, is it possible that they're busy?

You say the final person you contacted didn't answer and that she's going through major personal trauma, in that case should you not be a better friend and support them rather than whinge that they haven't texted you back?!

Do you have any idea what kind of a friend I am to this girl? She has been like a sister to me and she is godmother to my son. I have been incredibly supportive, get to hers within minutes of her texting to say she needs me, middle of the night phones calls, taxi'd her around for 2 years when she lost her driving license due to a medical condition without question, anything she has asked of me I have given unconditionally. I don't think that expecting her to just tell me she is busy is too much of an ask, do you?

Besides, she isn't the only one.

I text them this morning as I was trying to plan for the day.

lika_86

sacha28 wrote: »

Do you have any idea what kind of a friend I am to this girl? She has been like a sister to me and she is godmother to my son. I have been incredibly supportive, get to hers within minutes of her texting to say she needs me, middle of the night phones calls, taxi'd her around for 2 years when she lost her driving license due to a medical condition without question, anything she has asked of me I have given unconditionally. I don't think that expecting her to just tell me she is busy is too much of an ask, do you?

Besides, she isn't the only one.

I text them this morning as I was trying to plan for the day.

You do sound very needy, you only texted them this morning and have no idea what they are doing today, yes it might be a bit annoying when people don't respond but getting upset about it after only a few hours is a bit over the top. If you wanted to 'plan for the day' you should have done so before the day arrived. Not everyone is available at the drop of a hat.

gingin_2

Moves are very stressful and you sound very stressed. When I get stressed I pick apart every situation looking for negatives. I'd breathe deeply and if you haven't heard from them in 24 hours I'd send a cheery follow up text, otherwise I really don't think you can read anything into it.