Is it something I said??!!

splishsplash

hazyjo wrote: »

Did you actually use the word today in your message anywhere? If I got a message like that, I'd think I'll reply later and say something like 'Yeah that'd be lovely Guessing you must be busy, so let me have days/times when you're free!'

Jx

Looking at your text, OP, I would presume you meant 'let's meet up and go to the park at some stage before I leave in a couple of weeks. I would think that gave me a day or two to reply, unlike a message that said 'want to meet up today in the park?'.

Hang tough, don't panic yet, they may well get back to you tomorrow.
Good luck with the move

Person_one

Its a working day, most people can't answer texts at work. Not everybody is glued to their phones either. I left mine at a friend's house on Tuesday and I can't pick it up until Saturday evening.

Condemning your friends as rude and thinking they don't care because they haven't responded to a text in what, five hours? I hope this is out of character and that when things are calmer you'll realise your expectation was unreasonable.

swingaloo

I may be looking into this too deeply but if you texted 4 friends with the same suggestion what would have happened if -

friend 1 replies straight away 'Yes great idea, meet you at the park at 11. '

You reply 'Ok'

10 mins later friend 2 replies- 'Don't fancy the park, come round and I will put the kettle on'

2 mins later friend 3- Hi, Im out shopping, will call at yours on way back, see you at 12.

See where Im going with this, you've agreed to meet number 1 at the park so you have to give backword and let 2 and 3 down!

Why on earth just choose the one you wanted to see most and ring them, texting gets so misconstrued.

Emmamumof2

I would probably try to ring them all tonight after your kids are in bed, but before 9pm (!), and just ask if they'd like to arrange a date before you leave. I always respond promptly to texts but not everyone is the same and the strikes have affected lots of people. I think the stress of moving is probably exacerbating you're tolerance levels, it is really horrible moving house. I was pregnant when we last moved and I was like a woman possessed for the last 3 1/2 months of my pregnancy - the estate agent bought us flowers when it completed, she was that glad to see the back of me!

fufu_banterwaite

lika_86 wrote: »

You do sound very needy, you only texted them this morning and have no idea what they are doing today, yes it might be a bit annoying when people don't respond but getting upset about it after only a few hours is a bit over the top. If you wanted to 'plan for the day' you should have done so before the day arrived. Not everyone is available at the drop of a hat.

This is exactly what I thought when read the original message.

Expecting a reply within an hour or two? Talk about demanding.

purpleshoes_2

fufu_banterwaite wrote: »

This is exactly what I thought when read the original message.

Expecting a reply within an hour or two? Talk about demanding.

If someone texts me and my phone is at my side, I'll text back right away.

I think its unfair to call the OP needy/demanding based on the opening paragraph. Unrealistic possibly that people could meet the same day, but I certainly dont wait hours if I can text someone back.

Also assuming that some of the parents are stay at home mums so why would it take hours to respond to a text, yes Im sure they are very busy but it takes all of 10 seconds to type a reply.

sacha28

Ok have my head removed from my backside and realise I may have over-reacted! It's just very unusual for them not to text back, the friends I contacted are all people I know weren't working today.

You're on the money, I feel incredibly stressed out about the move right now!!!!

I don't agree that I'm 'needy' or, given how our friendships have worked for the past 10 years, impatient but I agree I have probably been less considerate to what they are doing today.....I know that just because I'm free doesn't mean they are but it would be nice just to have heard that.

Anyway, now LO has gone to bed, I've managed a nicotine fix and sorted myself out (have never smoked in front of my LO, always wait til he's in bed)

Emmamumof2

Ring your mates now then and see if you can arrange a date!

purpleshoes_2

Peter333 wrote: »

I must agree with the majority here sorry Sacha. You are being very impatient. I have a mobile phone, but sometimes only check the messages twice a day. And if I have left it in the car, (say at 5pm) and someone texts me at 5.30pm, I may not check it til midday the next day. And I know other people are the same. I would give someone say... about 36-48 hours and then message them again, saying 'did you get my text?' If it was hugely important, I would ring them anyway!

One night the other week, my wife came in from work and started tea, and popped in the shower. Her phone was in her bag which she had left in the garage. She got her bag out the next day, but didn't check her phone.

Someone knocked the door when she was in the bath the next morning (she wasn't at work.,) and she didn't answer the door, as she was in the bath of course.

The person knocked about 10 times in 2-3 minutes. The persistence annoyed her, but she was in the bath. So she ignored the knocking.

About 20 minutes later, her mobile phone rang, and it was her friend who she knows from a couple of hobby groups in the village. She said 'Oh my God, are you OK? How come I haven't heard from you?'

Upshot is: my wife's friend (who lives about 15 minutes walk away,) texted her the previous night at 5.30pm, and then again at 8.30pm. But because the phone was in the garage, she didn't see the texts. There were three missed calls too.

And it was this friend who knocked almost a dozen times whilst my wife was in the bath! All she wanted was to ask her if she was going to the writing group at the end of the week! Within 16 hours of texting my wife, this woman was almost having a meltdown, because she had got no response.

She said she thought she had offended my wife, or maybe she was 'lying hurt,' and she couldn't sleep all night for worrying. She said, she looked in the lounge window, in the kitchen window, and even went round to the back to look through the patio doors! (Cue a LOCK on the back gate now!!!)

After this, my wife now thinks this woman is very clingy and frankly, a bit of a stalker, and she is giving her a wide berth!

I am not saying you're anything like this Sacha, but it's a slippery slope, when you're going apesh*t over someone not texting you back, just a few hours after you texted them!

I guess you are stressed because of the move? Do you usually faff and worry like this? And get angry if you're not texted back within several hours? 9 times out of 10, the reason will be that someone hasn't seen the text yet, they have but haven't got around to texting you back, OR they haven't received it yet.

Chill. I bet by this time tomorrow, At least 2 out of the 4 will have texted you, and by the weekend, the other 2 will have to.

Slippery slope? Maybe you could look at it from a different perspective. If someone texted your wife twice and got no response overnight she might have thought something awful could have happened and for that she is a stalker and clingy?

Ape !!!!?

Just because you only check your phone twice a day doesnt mean other people do the same.

Shes moving some distance away, she wants to see them before she goes, I really dont see the big deal about trying to get in touch with some friends before the move

She can react the way she wants to react, some people worry over things, some people dont, it certainly doesnt mean someone is going ape !!!! or faffing around

gingin_2

sacha28 wrote: »

Ok have my head removed from my backside and realise I may have over-reacted!

Awww! :grouphug:

I hope the move goes smoothly and you enjoy your new home.