Is it something I said??!!

scotnan

If, as you say, you're not normally this anxious about things then maybe your reaction is down to stress about the forthcoming move.


Please don't be angry with your friends, they could have any number of reasons for not getting back to you within a few hours eg sick child/relative, phone has run out of battery, unexpected family crisis.
It could just be as simple as they all coincidentally have something else on today (it does happen) and haven't been able to get back to you for whatever reason or as someone else has mentioned, maybe they have a leaving meet up already planned and they're afraid they'll let the cat out of the bag if they speak to you.


Whatever the reason, when they do get back to you don't react in a bad way as you don't want this to be the way you are remembered by them when you move away. Just casually try and arrange another day when you can all meet up and enjoy their company while you can.


Hope the move goes smoothly

System

Sounds like all the signs of a surprise party _party_ _party_ _party_

Grumpypoo

Walcott wrote: »

Sounds like all the signs of a surprise party _party_ _party_ _party_

I wouldn't put her hopes up - it is more likely to be people busy with kids and work and life in general.

Morglin

Yeah, I'm with you - not many people can arrange a day out at short notice.

Best bet would be to arrange a goodbye drink, with notice, before leaving.

Lin

mehak_327

sacha28 wrote: »

I think assuming I'm 'needy' is a bit personal. I am one of the least needy people you could meet, a lovely product of my childhood.

Also, for the purposes of information, we have always made plans on the day. We don't plan days/weeks/months in advance because we aren't able to so me texting in the morning to meet that day is not unusual. Them not answering, however, is.

Me and my friends are like this - plan for the day. Call up in the morning and plan for meeting up right then or in the next couple of hours. That's just how it is with us.

I do agree - if you have that type of relationship should have expected an almost instant reply. If anyone of my friends or myself are busy and cannot make it, we send out a quick one saying sorry no can't do. Also, we use whatsapp a lot - and that is fairly instant. Doesn't rely on the providers "messaging" service.

Marshmallow82

Today? They may not get the text til they leave work and turn their phone on. At least give them til 6!

hazyjo

sacha28 wrote: »

Yes I have, the text went along the lines of 'fancy meeting up and going to the park or something? Just thought it would be nice to catch up before we leave in a couple of weeks'.

Not one reply am I right for feeling miffed? Or am I being somewhat pathetic?

Did you actually use the word today in your message anywhere? If I got a message like that, I'd think I'll reply later and say something like 'Yeah that'd be lovely Guessing you must be busy, so let me have days/times when you're free!'

Jx

fabforty

I do think that you are overreacting. A few hours really isn't that long - even if you are close friends. Not every walks around with their phone, checking texts and messages as soon as they arrive. I wouldn't have used the word 'needy' but your reaction does seem a bit OTT, perhaps there are other things going on.

elsien

Does anyone actually talk to each other any more? If you're that bothered, why not pick up the phone and ask?

Peter333

I must agree with the majority here sorry Sacha. You are being very impatient. I have a mobile phone, but sometimes only check the messages twice a day. And if I have left it in the car, (say at 5pm) and someone texts me at 5.30pm, I may not check it til midday the next day. And I know other people are the same. I would give someone say... about 36-48 hours and then message them again, saying 'did you get my text?' If it was hugely important, I would ring them anyway!

One night the other week, my wife came in from work and started tea, and popped in the shower. Her phone was in her bag which she had left in the garage. She got her bag out the next day, but didn't check her phone.

Someone knocked the door when she was in the bath the next morning (she wasn't at work.,) and she didn't answer the door, as she was in the bath of course.

The person knocked about 10 times in 2-3 minutes. The persistence annoyed her, but she was in the bath. So she ignored the knocking.

About 20 minutes later, her mobile phone rang, and it was her friend who she knows from a couple of hobby groups in the village. She said 'Oh my God, are you OK? How come I haven't heard from you?'

Upshot is: my wife's friend (who lives about 15 minutes walk away,) texted her the previous night at 5.30pm, and then again at 8.30pm. But because the phone was in the garage, she didn't see the texts. There were three missed calls too.

And it was this friend who knocked almost a dozen times whilst my wife was in the bath! All she wanted was to ask her if she was going to the writing group at the end of the week! Within 16 hours of texting my wife, this woman was almost having a meltdown, because she had got no response.

She said she thought she had offended my wife, or maybe she was 'lying hurt,' and she couldn't sleep all night for worrying. She said, she looked in the lounge window, in the kitchen window, and even went round to the back to look through the patio doors! (Cue a LOCK on the back gate now!!!)

After this, my wife now thinks this woman is very clingy and frankly, a bit of a stalker, and she is giving her a wide berth!

I am not saying you're anything like this Sacha, but it's a slippery slope, when you're going apesh*t over someone not texting you back, just a few hours after you texted them!

I guess you are stressed because of the move? Do you usually faff and worry like this? And get angry if you're not texted back within several hours? 9 times out of 10, the reason will be that someone hasn't seen the text yet, they have but haven't got around to texting you back, OR they haven't received it yet.

Chill. I bet by this time tomorrow, At least 2 out of the 4 will have texted you, and by the weekend, the other 2 will have to.