Is it something I said??!!

Indie_Kid

purpleshoes wrote: »

Slippery slope? Maybe you could look at it from a different perspective. If someone texted your wife twice and got no response overnight she might have thought something awful could have happened and for that she is a stalker and clingy?

Ape !!!!?

On the flip side, some people do need to understand that not everyone is attached to their phones. I've had problems with this - got constantly contacted via text and voicemail because I hadn't checked my phone in 12 hours. For many of those hours, I was sleeping...

Shes moving some distance away, she wants to see them before she goes, I really dont see the big deal about trying to get in touch with some friends before the move

If it was that important, why couldn't she have called instead?

meer53

Only my 14 year old daughter expects immediate replies to texts. If i don't reply straight away she texts back "????????????"

Which just makes me take even longer to reply

Within 24 hours is acceptable for me to reply to texts.

Lily-Rose_3

purpleshoes wrote: »

Slippery slope? Maybe you could look at it from a different perspective. If someone texted your wife twice and got no response overnight she might have thought something awful could have happened and for that she is a stalker and clingy?

Ape !!!!?

Just because you only check your phone twice a day doesnt mean other people do the same.

Shes moving some distance away, she wants to see them before she goes, I really dont see the big deal about trying to get in touch with some friends before the move

She can react the way she wants to react, some people worry over things, some people dont, it certainly doesnt mean someone is going ape !!!! or faffing around

Oh for goodness sake. Get a grip. So someone doesn't text you back after a few hours and you think they're dead?!

You sound like the person who was hassling Peter's wife! I suppose you think her banging on the door a dozen times and going into the back garden peering in through the patio doors is normal too do you?

Good grief. I would run a mile from a 'friend' like that. All she wanted was to know if the woman was going to a hobby group, it wasn't even an emergency FGS. And from what I read into Peter's post, this woman was just someone who lives closeby who goes to a hobby group with her. And as Indie Kid said above ^^^ for most of those hours that passed, between the woman first texting and then eventually getting hold of her, she was sleeping!

No wonder she is giving her a wide berth now. If you show people like this too much interest, they won't leave you alone. I have read a few posts on here from posters who have been friendly with someone, and they can't get rid of them. They're hounding them every day!

People hounding me to message them back as soon as I message them, do my head in. Some people do have a life! And it doesn't always revolve around bloomin' answering texts within five minutes!

Get a grip.

Lily-Rose_3

meer53 wrote: »

Only my 14 year old daughter expects immediate replies to texts. If i don't reply straight away she texts back "????????????"

Which just makes me take even longer to reply

Within 24 hours is acceptable for me to reply to texts.

I agree. Ranting about someone not texting back after a few hours is crazy. And coming around banging on someone's door and peering through the patio windows (creepy!) is very strange behaviour, when they only texted them the night before. Good grief!

Lily-Rose_3

purpleshoes wrote: »

If someone texts me and my phone is at my side, I'll text back right away.

I think its unfair to call the OP needy/demanding based on the opening paragraph. Unrealistic possibly that people could meet the same day, but I certainly dont wait hours if I can text someone back.

Also assuming that some of the parents are stay at home mums so why would it take hours to respond to a text, yes Im sure they are very busy but it takes all of 10 seconds to type a reply.

Wow, @ this comment. Are you for real? PMSL! Why do you assume her firends are stay at home mums?

Not EVERYone lives with their mobile phone. I sometimes don't even bother taking mine out when I go out.

JIL

But if they are close friends and they often communicate by text the op will already know who texts straight back, who takes two hours and who will reply the following day.
I know which of my friends will reply immediately, those that will take a while and those that may not respond at all.
This may mean me not texting some people and picking up the phone and calling instead.

Peter333

JIL wrote: »

But if they are close friends and they often communicate by text the op will already know who texts straight back, who takes two hours and who will reply the following day.
I know which of my friends will reply immediately, those that will take a while and those that may not respond at all.
This may mean me not texting some people and picking up the phone and calling instead.

But I honestly don't think that there is anyone in the world who always texts back immediately; every time they get a text. Yes maybe if they have their phone with them, and they are free.

But what if they are asleep, at work, at the hospital, at the doctors, in a meeting, at an appointment, playing sport like badminton or swimming, with company, having a meal. Surely nobody would check texts (and even worse, answer them!) when they are out for a meal with someone. (Or even just having a coffee or a beer.) That is the height of rudeness!

I know many people, and I have about 30 regular contacts in my mobile. Family, friends, colleagues. Not one of them "always texts back immediately without fail." (Sometimes they do, but not always.) Anyone who 'always texts back immediately without fail,' must have no life, no friends, no family, no social life, no hobbies, they must never go out, and they must never sleep.

So if anyone - ANYONE - in my phonebook did not reply to a text within a few hours, (even 24 hours,) I would think nothing of it. I certainly would not be banging their door down and peering through their windows in their back garden!

Ozzuk

Talk about a cliffhanger...have they been in touch yet?!

victory

Peter333 wrote: »

But I honestly don't think that there is anyone in the world who always texts back immediately; every time they get a text. Yes maybe if they have their phone with them, and they are free.

But what if they are asleep, at work, at the hospital, at the doctors, in a meeting, at an appointment, playing sport like badminton or swimming, with company, having a meal. Surely nobody would check texts (and even worse, answer them!) when they are out for a meal with someone. (Or even just having a coffee or a beer.) That is the height of rudeness!

I know many people, and I have about 30 regular contacts in my mobile. Family, friends, colleagues. Not one of them "always texts back immediately without fail." (Sometimes they do, but not always.) Anyone who 'always texts back immediately without fail,' must have no life, no friends, no family, no social life, no hobbies, they must never go out, and they must never sleep.

So if anyone - ANYONE - in my phonebook did not reply to a text within a few hours, (even 24 hours,) I would think nothing of it. I certainly would not be banging their door down and peering through their windows in their back garden!

I have to disagree to a point.... in my phone contacts I know that for eg my son will answer immediately, his gf will answer immediately, teens do, they have their phones with them, it is their life line, whether they are with their friends etc they answer immediately, they do have a life, a vast amount of friends, a great social life, hobbies, are out all the time and do sleep (obviously the texts are not sent at 4am in the morning!) there are a few that I know that will answer as soon as it lands on their phone as well as others that I know will read and not acknowledge it...but these specific friends are used to arranging things on the same day and answering texts for a meet up on the same day, it is what they do and they never answered, now that is not normal for that group of friends.

FBaby

People have different habits when it comes to communicating on their mobiles. I have my phone with me all the time and will read my texts almost always as I receive them but won't always be in a position to answer right away. Communication with my children will be set at the level describe by OP, I'd I don't hear within a few minutes/hours depending on situation I won't be happy. Husband would be within hours. Friends and rest of family would be within a day or two.