I've got a date tonight, going to her place, but I'm quite nervous. Advice?

DUTR

BucksLady wrote: »

OP, I seriously think you seek the advice of Jeremy Kyle.......

No point, the OP doesn't seem to be the kind of person that has the intelligence to listen, only hear what they want to hear.

purpleshoes_2

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I'm sure plenty of people do too but that doesn't mean I have to think it's ok

It's baffling to me why the woman always seems to get referred to as "easy".

Your post was in response to someone talking about the woman having sexual health checks and saying that didn't make her easy and your response was, sleeping with someone on the first date does.

Nothing about the man.

Takes two to tango as they say. And of the pair of them, she's having the sexual health checks.

Buzzybee90

purpleshoes wrote: »

It's baffling to me why the woman always seems to get referred to as "easy".

Your post was in response to someone talking about the woman having sexual health checks and saying that didn't make her easy and your response was, sleeping with someone on the first date does.

Nothing about the man.

Takes two to tango as they say. And of the pair of them, she's having the sexual health checks.

Actually I was just saying the first date thing, I was referring to both of them.

kingslayer

purpleshoes wrote: »

There are people who are in age gap relationships and they work.
Its the jumping into bed with someone you barely know without using protection and asking someone over to your home on the first date, its not exactly safe, they could both have had more to worry about than the lack of a rubber, not that I think there's any excuse for that either.

The thing is, when someone posts looking for support on social anxiety and then comes on bragging about how he shagged this older women he already stood up 3 times, some people will just lose patience and not support the threads of his that need supporting.

Assuming it is real and not a huge wind up.

Bragging? I'm certainly not bragging. I went to her place under the premise that we were going to chill out, chat etc. Of course, sex was in the back of my mind as something she could want, but never an expectation.

DUTR

kingslayer wrote: »

Bragging? I'm certainly not bragging. I went to her place under the premise that we were going to chill out, chat etc. Of course, sex was in the back of my mind as something she could want, but never an expectation.

If you are not bragging, you are certainly a kiss n tell person, lets see if she ops for 2nds.

purpleshoes_2

kingslayer wrote: »

Bragging? I'm certainly not bragging. I went to her place under the premise that we were going to chill out, chat etc. Of course, sex was in the back of my mind as something she could want, but never an expectation.

So why not just chill out and chat? You had choices. Particularly as you didnt have any condoms with you.

spirit

kingslayer wrote: »

Bragging? I'm certainly not bragging. I went to her place under the premise that we were going to chill out, chat etc. Of course, sex was in the back of my mind as something she could want, but never an expectation.

Yet you went unprepared.

I call troll too

kingslayer

purpleshoes wrote: »

Ok, I really do think you need to take a step back and think how the way you speak about women comes across?

Now shes easy for getting regular sexual health checks?

But you jumped into bed with her on the first date, are you getting the slight double standard in what you just posted?

Well why would she be having regular checks? The thing is, like others have mentioned, maybe I'm the one being taken for a ride. I'm definitely not using her, but if she is, after saying she was looking for something serious, then it's just a big lie. I'm not a casual encounter type of person, so I don't want to continue having one nighters with her if there's nothing more srrious at the end of it all.

kingslayer

purpleshoes wrote: »

So why not just chill out and chat? You had choices. Particularly as you didnt have any condoms with you.

I'm a testosterone filled guy who got caught in the moment.

purpleshoes_2

kingslayer wrote: »

Well why would she be having regular checks? The thing is, like others have mentioned, maybe I'm the one being taken for a ride. I'm definitely not using her, but if she is, after saying she was looking for something serious, then it's just a big lie. I'm not a casual encounter type of person, so I don't want to continue having one nighters with her if there's nothing more srrious at the end of it all.

Would you be happier if she said she didnt ever get tested?