please help 16 and pregnant

Poppie68

The dad seems to be pushing this 3 bedroom issue...how is he going to afford to pay the bedroom tax when they move out? If she is determined to move in with them i hope she likes sofas because thats were she is going to be sleeping.
Do social services get involved because she is 16? in our area they have specialised health visitors who deal with young mothers.

Mojisola

kerry13238 wrote: »

My daughter says her and her bf are going to support the baby

kerry13238 wrote: »

my daughter has given him a list of lifts her and the bf want to social events

I hope her Dad pointed out that if the couple are going to be grown up and look after a baby, they will have to be grown up in other areas of their life as well and stop relying on lifts from their parents!

Mojisola

Marshmallow82 wrote: »

I think the dr has made a good suggestion. Once she is living with these two men and no 3 bedroom home is materialising she will be begging to come home.

Or she will become completely under the control of a manipulative man - it's hard enough for an adult woman to break free from an abusive partner, let alone a young girl in such a vulnerable position.

Marshmallow82

Mojisola wrote: »

Or she will become completely under the control of a manipulative man - it's hard enough for an adult woman to break free from an abusive partner, let alone a young girl in such a vulnerable position.

There has been no suggestion that this boy is abusive, just a bit of a loser who hasn't been going to college.

Mojisola

Marshmallow82 wrote: »

There has been no suggestion that this boy is abusive, just a bit of a loser who hasn't been going to college.

I was talking about his father.

ManofLeisure_2

kerry13238 wrote: »

Went to see the dad of the bf last night the first thing he said was will you write a letter so I can claim the benefits for your daughter I said no as she can come home I will support her. Her dad spoke to a child physiologist and they said she needs to get living with the bf ASAP so she can see reality of what it will be like also trying to find out about one if those baby things that are like real babies.

The dad was on about grants ect seems very clued up on it all. I said to him about my daughter said that he is going to give her and the fb the cb and child tax credits and he looked shifty to say the least.

She has been at her dads for a few days and he has had enough now as my daughter has given him a list of lifts her and the bf want to social events and the bf wants my daughter to go to work with him wearing a pizza board and handing out leaflets.

I told my daughter what the bf said about college full time and work in the evening and she said she isn't aware of that.

The dad says they will get a bigger place as his son is still in full time education however he has been kicked out of college.


I said to my daughter I will pick her up sat morning to come pack her stuff or would she like a week to see how it goes she has jumped at the week option. The bf dad has told my daughter that her and her bf can get their own place when the baby is here but social services will be involved because of her age

Sorry, but I find it very hard to believe that any doctor's recommendation would be for your daughter to actually live with two men.

NYM

ManofLeisure wrote: »

Sorry, but I find it very hard to believe that any doctor's recommendation would be for your daughter to actually live with two men.

I wouldn't think a Physiologist is qualified to make any recommendation in this matter as they generally specialise in safe exercise routines to rebuild the health of patients.

It's apparent that the only person that has anything to gain from this situation is the boyfriends Dad. He's clearly hoping to get a 3 bed house from the Council that he would get to keep if the OP's daughter and his son split up.

kerry13238

Someone has told me the boys dad can claim csa from me for my daughter living there is that correct? Xx

kerry13238

Living with two men is more about living the life she will have

Mojisola

kerry13238 wrote: »

Someone has told me the boys dad can claim csa from me for my daughter living there is that correct? Xx

If he gets the CB for her, yes.