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pawsies

I would suggest taking some vitamin supplements. Not getting enough supplements can really affect your behaviour.

stampede

It's worth asking the doctor for a full check up (bloods etc) as a lot of different conditions/illnesses can give you this sort of feeling.

I went for years before I was diagnosed with a condition made me feel more or less exactly as you feel, with a many other vague 'other' symptoms which I ignored.

Trouble is, you probably can't be bothered to go & hassle the doctor, which you actually have to do to get anywhere these days.

codemonkey

I feel like this a lot of the time. I work as a computer programmer which I dl enjoy but that involves a lot of time when either I'm crazy busy, in which case I don't have the time/energy to socialise or like at the moment, I have nothing to do, in which case every second at work is spent clock watching. Then I have a long commute home where I sit on the couch and watch tv. Weekends are spent doing the same thing and feeling like everyone else has this great life full of hobbies and things they feel passionate about and mine revolves around being on the couch with my DH and dog. On the occasion where I do have social invitations, I kind of resent the intrusion, which sounds stupid as most of the time, I wish I had something better to do.

I've tried hobbies - did yoga but the class got cancelled and I couldn't find another one locally, pilates but the class was about 30 minutes too early for getting there from work and the teachers kept changing so we weren't progressing, zumba (teacher quit and there isnt another class locally), knitting (scarf is about a third done and shoved to the back of a cupboard), crochet (see knitting), running (got shin splints), baking (DH never eats what i make so it goes to waste). DH will disappear upstairs for long periods playing computer games but I find I get bored playing games and give up.

I've moved away from my home town (only 20 minutes drive but it may as well be the moon from my friends' perspectives). Also all my friends are having children and are too busy with their new "mummy friends" so I feel left out - I have nothing to add to the conversation since all they talk about is babies.

We do like to travel but don't have the funds to do it as much as we should.

My life has an overwhelming feeling of boredom and ennui but I lack the drive and motivation to change it.

onlyroz

Do you enjoy your job? Could you maybe do some studying - either to gain qualifications to improve your job, or just to learn something new? Maybe there is a subject you enjoyed at school that you never had the opportunity to learn about properly?

Or perhaps try some new hobbies? Maybe learn a musical instrument or take up photography or painting or creative writing? (And join a night-class to learn how to do it better).

fufu_banterwaite

Have you ever thought about packing it all in and just going off travelling for a year?

Kayalana99

I think theirs times in my life where I could of come on and wrote the exact same post but I think it really is just finding that thing that excites you.

A few years back I was in your boat...I would be excited at the thought about say going shopping with friends..but when I got their I would be watching the clock bored out of my skull...even same with baking love the idea of making cookies etc but I get bored so fast that ...yes rushing to finish.

That said I meet a fun girl who I do all the same things with as before but I don't count the time away (Don't get me wrong it's still built in and their have been times) & my lovely OH ...I just love being with him.

As for hobbies? I am still working on this, I'm still thinking 'what do I do with my life' ...I have no love for anything really (apart from people / kids !! ) but I know it's just because I havn't found it yet not because I don't enjoy anything.

I guess this is why I am not independent as bad as it sounds my happiness in life comes from my partner and kids only...really!

I suppose my hobby would be making money but I havn't quite grasped how to yet (I'm not just saying that, I'd rather make it then spend it!)

Bublin1

I'd just like to say, thank you for starting this thread.
I can relate to everything that has been said.
I have always felt like I'm trapped in a cage with the key in my hand........I can get out if I want but when I do I get no enjoyment and rush to get back in it. Im always in a rushing, Im even rushing typing this, which is frustrating on a tablet!

Sometimes I think I'm weird, sometimes I think I'm completely normal.

For the last few months I have focused on my home. I have deep cleaned, decluttered and cleared out the garden with many trips to the dump site. I'm now obessessing about growing my own veg. This is keeoing me busy but of course it's just me, not another soul sees me. I have friends who (bless them) who are pretty much now waiting for invites but I'm never ready to have them round. The house is not perfect enough, I don't want anyone messing up my place, I'll have to stretch my tight food budget.......blah, blah, blah. It's upsetting living like this but I make the excuse......I'm a single mum of 2. Noone helps me and to entertain, cook, tidy is just another job.

Conversely, I'm very sociable and can often find myself the centre of attention if I do go out or at work. However, men never approach me. I have been told I look like I have a man....lol....

Very occasionally I will invite one of my kids friend and parent round. This is once in a blue moon when I feel bad for my kids. I actually enjoy it at the time but I have a feeling of dread in the time leading up to it.

I also think up things of what could be wrong with me.......Aspergers, OCD, depressed, Social Anxiety......whatever, I don't know.

I wasn't going to write much but hey ho!!

Kayalana99

Bublin1 wrote: »

I'd just like to say, thank you for starting this thread.
I can relate to everything that has been said.
I have always felt like I'm trapped in a cage with the key in my hand........I can get out if I want but when I do I get no enjoyment and rush to get back in it. Im always in a rushing, Im even rushing typing this, which is frustrating on a tablet!

Sometimes I think I'm weird, sometimes I think I'm completely normal.

For the last few months I have focused on my home. I have deep cleaned, decluttered and cleared out the garden with many trips to the dump site. I'm now obessessing about growing my own veg. This is keeoing me busy but of course it's just me, not another soul sees me. I have friends who (bless them) who are pretty much now waiting for invites but I'm never ready to have them round. The house is not perfect enough, I don't want anyone messing up my place, I'll have to stretch my tight food budget.......blah, blah, blah. It's upsetting living like this but I make the excuse......I'm a single mum of 2. Noone helps me and to entertain, cook, tidy is just another job.

Conversely, I'm very sociable and can often find myself the centre of attention if I do go out or at work. However, men never approach me. I have been told I look like I have a man....lol....

Very occasionally I will invite one of my kids friend and parent round. This is once in a blue moon when I feel bad for my kids. I actually enjoy it at the time but I have a feeling of dread in the time leading up to it.

I also think up things of what could be wrong with me.......Aspergers, OCD, depressed, Social Anxiety......whatever, I don't know.

I wasn't going to write much but hey ho!!

That really does sound more like anxiety perhaps even depression more then just boredom xx

krustylouise

Hi,

Thank you for starting this thread. I can definitely relate to this. I have lived with anxiety, agoraphobia and panic attacks for years. I work full time and am a single Mum to a beautiful DD. I have no family close by, my Mum passed away when I was 18 and don't have much support from DD's dad. I don't have many friends here as the people I do make friends with all turn out to judge me, let me down or talk about me behind my back, so I just end up keeping myself to myself and getting on with things.

Recently my anxiety got worse and in turn so did my agoraphobia. I sat down and thought about how I can change this. I have zero self compassion, I always put other people first, I'm always bottom of the pile. I decided to think about what I would like to do in life and the answer....................I have no idea! There is nothing in life that I wholeheartedly want to, that I'm passionate about.

My track record of starting things and quitting is unbelievable! I feel fickle, a flitter.

I have recently started meditation and have enquired about yoga classes in my area and I'm hoping I stick at these. How is your exercise going Katie?

Thanks again for starting this thread - I needed to relate

ETA - I am not stating anyone on here has anxiety etc, just wanted to give my background info....:)

KatieDee

krustylouise wrote: »

Hi,

Thank you for starting this thread. I can definitely relate to this. I have lived with anxiety, agoraphobia and panic attacks for years. I work full time and am a single Mum to a beautiful DD. I have no family close by, my Mum passed away when I was 18 and don't have much support from DD's dad. I don't have many friends here as the people I do make friends with all turn out to judge me, let me down or talk about me behind my back, so I just end up keeping myself to myself and getting on with things.

Recently my anxiety got worse and in turn so did my agoraphobia. I sat down and thought about how I can change this. I have zero self compassion, I always put other people first, I'm always bottom of the pile. I decided to think about what I would like to do in life and the answer....................I have no idea! There is nothing in life that I wholeheartedly want to, that I'm passionate about.

My track record of starting things and quitting is unbelievable! I feel fickle, a flitter.

I have recently started meditation and have enquired about yoga classes in my area and I'm hoping I stick at these. How is your exercise going Katie?

Thanks again for starting this thread - I needed to relate

ETA - I am not stating anyone on here has anxiety etc, just wanted to give my background info....:)

I'm working today but due to go on my run in...43 minutes! I'm really looking forward to it actually.

How do you find meditation? It's something I've always wanted to start but never got round to doing...same with yoga!

I should add...if anybody who can relate to this thread would like to chat, please feel free to PM me A problem shared is a problem halved and all that!