The number...truth or lie??

alwaysskint96

marisco wrote: »

To not be straight with someone over something as important as this, is to fail to have a proper relationship with them in my opinion.

Why is it so important?

Domayne

So last night the question came up again and he said he noticed that I avoided it, why didn't I want to tell him? I intended to be honest because I really don't want to start on some foundation of lies but I panicked and found myself giving him an arbitrary number of 5 which he didn't seem to think was that many, but .then he started asking other questions like how old was I when I lost my virginity, how long was I with the guy, have I done this and that...I lied to ALL of these questions, the only questions I answered honestly were about my ex.
He text me this morning, just hi how are you? but I haven't replied yet because I feel so stupid and awkward

SuzieSue

Domayne wrote: »

So last night the question came up again and he said he noticed that I avoided it, why didn't I want to tell him? I intended to be honest because I really don't want to start on some foundation of lies but I panicked and found myself giving him an arbitrary number of 5 which he didn't seem to think was that many, but .then he started asking other questions like how old was I when I lost my virginity, how long was I with the guy, have I done this and that...I lied to ALL of these questions, the only questions I answered honestly were about my ex.
He text me this morning, just hi how are you? but I haven't replied yet because I feel so stupid and awkward

I wouldn't worry about lying. It is none of his business, so you did what anyone would do if they are asked a question that they don't want to answer truthfully.

If there is nothing else you don't like about this guy, then I would just forget about it. He obviously doesn't think that there is anything wrong about asking those sorts of questions and no-one can say whether he is wrong or right as it is a matter of opinion.

tayforth

Domayne wrote: »

So last night the question came up again and he said he noticed that I avoided it, why didn't I want to tell him? I intended to be honest because I really don't want to start on some foundation of lies but I panicked and found myself giving him an arbitrary number of 5 which he didn't seem to think was that many, but .then he started asking other questions like how old was I when I lost my virginity, how long was I with the guy, have I done this and that...I lied to ALL of these questions, the only questions I answered honestly were about my ex.
He text me this morning, just hi how are you? but I haven't replied yet because I feel so stupid and awkward

What was 'this and that'?

Sounds like a lot of questions.

Domayne

tayforth wrote: »

What was 'this and that'?

Sounds like a lot of questions.

Yeah it was and it was a lot of sexual questions that seriously I've never been asked by someone I barely know so I was a bit...shocked? I guess anx I didn't know how to tell him I was feeling awkward and to mind his own business so i answered them, he asked me things like have I done it 'from the back', Have I ever done it out in public, would I ever have a 3some etc
What do I think? What would you think if a guy asked you questions like this?

SuzieSue

Domayne wrote: »

he asked me things like have I done it 'from the back', Have I ever done it out in public, would I ever have a 3some etc
What do I think? What would you think if a guy asked you questions like this?

I would have thought that those are the normal sorts of things that people talk about if they are watching a !!!!!! movie together, I know I have.

tayforth

Domayne wrote: »

Yeah it was and it was a lot of sexual questions that seriously I've never been asked by someone I barely know so I was a bit...shocked? I guess anx I didn't know how to tell him I was feeling awkward and to mind his own business so i answered them, he asked me things like have I done it 'from the back', Have I ever done it out in public, would I ever have a 3some etc
What do I think? What would you think if a guy asked you questions like this?

I'd be pretty appalled, tbh.

Domayne

SuzieSue wrote: »

I would have thought that those are the normal sorts of things that people talk about if they are watching a !!!!!! movie together, I know I have.

LOL! We were watching breaking bad - and unless you count aaron paul then its not a very sexy show :P
heh I'm not a prude or anything, pretty far from it but its just because I don't know him that well and I haven't even slept with him yet that this was all a bit o.O

Tropez

Domayne wrote: »

Yeah it was and it was a lot of sexual questions that seriously I've never been asked by someone I barely know so I was a bit...shocked? I guess anx I didn't know how to tell him I was feeling awkward and to mind his own business so i answered them, he asked me things like have I done it 'from the back', Have I ever done it out in public, would I ever have a 3some etc
What do I think? What would you think if a guy asked you questions like this?

It may be (I say *may*) that he has a sexual kink toward hearing about past sexual acts. Some men are aroused at hearing about the sexual histories of their partners, or picturing/fantasising about their partners engaged in sexual acts with another person.

In some cases, they may be attempting to find out whether the possibility exists for less than monogamous relationships, although that is not always the case.

Also, since you haven't had sex yet, it may have been a really rubbish attempt to turn you on by reminding you of previous sexual encounters.

SuzieSue

Domayne wrote: »

I haven't even slept with him yet that this was all a bit o.O

Well, I didn't realise that, in which case his questions were out of order.