Heartbroken - just need to talk

aileth

I'd probably send a quick text mentioning it, don't push it too hard though and be as non-emotive as possible, but I 99.9% wouldn't expect a response back given how 'good' he's been at contacting you. I also 99.9% wouldn't expect him to pay anything back, and if he responds asking to meet up to discuss it, danger danger danger!

Although, as FBaby said, there is a risk of him viewing this as a bit of a vendetta against him for his breaking things off, and I know I wouldn't like an ex viewing me like that.

Are you able to pay an amendment fee and take one of your girlfriends?

tea_lover

Unless he owed me thousands there's no way I'd be contacting him. He's shown how little he thinks of you, do you really think he's suddenly going to get a conscience about owing money?

Contacting him about this (or anything else) plays right into his hands and just prolongs things.

System

tea_lover wrote: »

Unless he owed me thousands there's no way I'd be contacting him. He's shown how little he thinks of you, do you really think he's suddenly going to get a conscience about owing money?

Contacting him about this (or anything else) plays right into his hands and just prolongs things.

Yeah I tend to agree but it all depends on whether you can afford to take the loss.

purpleshoes_2

Doing something awful in revenge is a vendetta. Asking politely for money you are owed isn't.

jobbingmusician

Actually I would ask him what he wanted to do along the following lines (obviously worded a bit more carefully).

1. You asked me to book it. I assume you still want it. Do you want to pay me for the whole holiday so you can take a friend?

2. I don't want to go, and expect you to pay me back for your half if you don't want to go either.

3. (If you do want to go with a friend) If I find a friend to go with, I will ask you for the cost of changing the names in the booking, but otherwise I will be expecting you to pay half.

It's the first option no-one has considered yet. After all, the whole thing was his idea!

jackieblack

jobbingmusician wrote: »

It's the first option no-one has considered yet. After all, the whole thing was his idea!

But as Tayforth is the lead passenger the first option may not even be possible.

tayforth

Thanks for all the replies, I'm so grateful. I have been reading them all, and am still considering what to do xx

BrassicWoman

contacting him means he wins the game (which you are not playing)

no contact = faster healing.

money is worth so much less than self respect!

Primrose

He probably thought his last text got him off the hook. I would fire this shot over his bows and see what happens, giving a suggested deadline for the payment into to your bank account . Don't suggest a cheque as it may bounce. If nothing else it may give him some uneasy moments. I would be brief, polite but assertive . You have nothing to lose as you,ve paid anyway so it is worth a try.

Person_one

Judi wrote: »

Yeah I tend to agree but it all depends on whether you can afford to take the loss.

If you can afford to spend it on a holiday, then technically you can afford to lose it. Although it might suck to miss out on a holiday for this year the benefits of not getting drawn back in probably outweigh that.