Heartbroken - just need to talk

jackieblack

tayforth wrote: »

There's one more issue I would appreciate your thoughts on.

Four days before the accident (or 'the accident'), we booked a trip away for later in the summer. He was super keen on the idea, and talked about it a lot, saying that he couldn't wait and we should get it booked soon. Anyway, because it's a place that I know and he doesn't, I ended up booking it. He said that he'd give me half the money... and obviously he hasn't.

Some of my friends say that I should ask him for it, and some say just to leave it.

What do you lot think?

If the booking is in your name could you do a name change and go with a friend/ your Mum?
Why should you miss out on the trip?

justme111

Cancel , transfer booking for later go with someone else , go alone. Anything as long as yu don't talk to that guy.

justme111

jackieblack wrote: »

If the booking is in your name could you do a name change and go with a friend/ your Mum?
Why should you miss out on the trip?

Sometimes what is booked for a couple is not ideal to be used with a friend /mum . I would try and change the booking for another day a few months later so that you don't see this trip as something that should been with him and have time to prepare for it and look forward to it. Anyway see how you feel , anything goes but getting in touch with that man

Primrose

Can you transfer the booking to somewhere else so that the venue won,t have any unfortunate reminders that you were originally booked to go with him? That's assuming you are unable to get your money back. It's worth checking.

pinkladyof66

tayforth wrote: »

There's one more issue I would appreciate your thoughts on.

Four days before the accident (or 'the accident'), we booked a trip away for later in the summer. He was super keen on the idea, and talked about it a lot, saying that he couldn't wait and we should get it booked soon. Anyway, because it's a place that I know and he doesn't, I ended up booking it. He said that he'd give me half the money... and obviously he hasn't.

Some of my friends say that I should ask him for it, and some say just to leave it.

What do you lot think?

omg the more I read about your experience the more it sounds like a similar one i had a few years ago with a guy.. I would move the booking to somewhere else and take a friend/sister/mum

jackieblack

justme111 wrote: »

Sometimes what is booked for a couple is not ideal to be used with a friend /mum .

That's true, of course, but not necessarily always the case.

justme111 wrote: »

I would try and change the booking for another day a few months later so that you don't see this trip as something that should been with him and have time to prepare for it and look forward to it.

A good alternative

purpleshoes_2

justme111 wrote: »

Sometimes what is booked for a couple is not ideal to be used with a friend /mum . I would try and change the booking for another day a few months later so that you don't see this trip as something that should been with him and have time to prepare for it and look forward to it. Anyway see how you feel , anything goes but getting in touch with that man

Tbh, a hotel room is just a hotel room in most cases. Given that shes already lost money on the holiday and she'd probably have to pay to change flights and the accommodation or possibly have to pay for the flights and accommodation over, if she can face going, I think why not.

BrassicWoman

I have family member who sometimes sends me gifts which I can't use because they make me think of them, and I don't like them.

These nasty gifts are made good by regifting them.

Find a friend who has been kind to you during the separation and donate a weekend away.

You and she will feel better for it!

System

tayforth wrote: »

There's one more issue I would appreciate your thoughts on.

Four days before the accident (or 'the accident'), we booked a trip away for later in the summer. He was super keen on the idea, and talked about it a lot, saying that he couldn't wait and we should get it booked soon. Anyway, because it's a place that I know and he doesn't, I ended up booking it. He said that he'd give me half the money... and obviously he hasn't.

Some of my friends say that I should ask him for it, and some say just to leave it.

What do you lot think?

I'd leave it. Go with someone else if you cant cancel it. What a rotten thing for him to do.

FBaby

You have taken the stand of having no contact with him, and that has worked out to be the best way to deal with the situation. You need to stick to it now. Asking him to pay for his half will only show the resentment you've done so well to keep away as doing so will not bring you any satisfying outcome.

You had not mentioned that you had planned a trip together, that's a significant event which puts more weight as to why you considered this relationship to be a serious one that was blooming hence allowing you to believe that it could lead to more.

I hope whatever information you've received will only be another piece of the puzzle that will help you turn one more page towards coming out of the other side where the pain is finally gone.