Heartbroken - just need to talk

jozxyqk

At least we know what he's been doing for the last month. Composing that pile of !!!!!.

I agree with the others, don't reply. It's just mind games - fortunately you're smart enough to see through them.

It's probably none of my business, but how old is this person? He comes across as very immature.

his_missus

Personally Tay, I would not respond to the text and would delete it so I couldn't keep reading it and trying to read things into it.

if I were to reply I would tell him that his behaviour had hurt me and that I felt I'd be unable to trust him again meaning there's no future for us.

He sounds very insecure and if he's behaving like this now (so early into a relationship) this insecure behaviour is likely to continue and increase.
Alternatively, he could just be trying to flatter you and make you feel sympathy for him which would suggest he's a bit of a control freak playing mind games - this behaviour is likely to continue.

Only know you really know exactly what your heart and head are telling you though.

Top_Girl

So it seemed like you were out and lo and behold, he tries to drag you back in.

It doesn't take a month to make that decision or to tell you if he has.

Run for your life Tay. You do not need this kind of headfluck.

purpleshoes_2

Top_Girl wrote: »

So it seemed like you were out and lo and behold, he tries to drag you back in.

It doesn't take a month to make that decision or to tell you if he has.

Run for your life Tay. You do not need this kind of headfluck.

I absolutely agree. Immature. The text is a pile of gorgonzola. And no apology for what he's put her through, its all me me me.

Run for the hills, this is not a decent human being.

BrassicWoman

I don't think you need a project. If you do, try cross stitch or furniture assembly.

alias*alibi

justme111 wrote: »

I understand where you coming from re unhealthy , people are fallible though and react disproportionately often and go through the grief differently , its been just a few days since it happened , I am sure op will process it and not get stuck on it for the next couple of years , don't see much wrong in sharing one 's pain when its acute and hope this thread was helpful to her .

I do understand; I also came here to talk when I was going through a terrible time but it's now 475 posts about a man she only saw for about a month. I'm sorry if it comes across harsh but I really don't get it. Life's too short to mope about a 4 week fling that went sour.

Edited to say after reading his text Tayforth is better off out of it and should use it as a line in the sand and move forward because he sounds like a right as$wipe.

purpleshoes_2

alias*alibi wrote: »

I do understand; I also came here to talk when I was going through a terrible time but it's now 475 posts about a man she only saw for about a month. I'm sorry if it comes across harsh but I really don't get it. Life's too short to mope about a 4 week fling that went sour.

I dont think it was a fling as far as the OP was concerned. If it were, she might not be hurting as much as she seems to be at the moment.

CH27

Bloody hell Tay you've had a lucky escape.
He's full of bulltish & that text is all about him. Selfish git!

I hope you're not going to reply?

tesuhoha

Well it sounds to me like he is ending it - in a cowardly way by saying you are too good for him. Whatever the reason he has treated you cruelly and I think he has now proved to you that he is not the man you thought he was. Tayforth he is not worth your tears. He has deceived you and played with you.

It would be very good if you sent him a text saying, you're right, you are not good enough for me so p!ss off. But I suppose it is better to ignore him.

How do you feel about it?

purpleshoes_2

Sometimes people show their good side for a while and then you hit a bump in the road and you find out who they really are. My concern is, you were in this limbo for a while, then worked out it was over, then you got that ridiculous text and you don't seem to be feeling much better.

I know it takes time. Sometimes the people who treat us worst are the hardest to let go of because you are having to let go of the pain as well.

I read back your other thread today, you sounded so happy and positive even before you met this man.

Are you going to allow this idiot to destroy everything you've worked towards over the last year?