Heartbroken - just need to talk

tayforth

jozxyqk wrote: »

Things look bleak now because you put your trust in someone and they dumped on you and they haven't even had the courage or respect to communicate with you. That must hurt, particularly if you're still healing from your nasty ex - I've read your other thread and I'm so impressed with how you stood up for yourself :T.

There are decent people out there even if it doesn't seem like it at the moment.

Thank you, jozxyqk. That's very kind xx

purpleshoes_2

tayforth wrote: »

I had been happy in relationships before... but never as happy as I was with this guy.

I don't know if I'll ever find that again.

But the way he has treated you since isn't positive at all. You don't know how things would panned out had you stayed together longer. The signs really aren't good. He lied to you about the accident and the panic attack. He refused to answer your texts for quite some time even though he knew you were worried about him. These things arent positive qualities.

Had you stayed with this man long term I think you might have ended up with quite a lot of heartache.

You might not find exactly the same again, but you will meet other people you care for and people will care for you in return and hopefully they'll behave in a better fashion than he has.

You were happy when he was being good to you, the last few weeks of the relationship he wasn't.

purpleshoes_2

Also, his actions over the last few weeks have caused you unhappiness. He's done that to you. No one else.

If he had continued on with the relationship the way it was and you were both happy, prior to the accident he said he had you might have had a very nice life with this man. But he chose to end it, he chose to do it in a way that caused you stress and worry and the fact that he has behaved like that should ring major alarm bells, because if hes capable of causing you so much pain he's clearly not the lovely guy you thought he was.

If he wanted to end things, he could have been kinder and he could have been much more honest.

tayforth

purpleshoes wrote: »

But the way he has treated you since isn't positive at all. You don't know how things would panned out had you stayed together longer. The signs really aren't good. He lied to you about the accident and the panic attack. He refused to answer your texts for quite some time even though he knew you were worried about him. These things arent positive qualities.

Had you stayed with this man long term I think you might have ended up with quite a lot of heartache.

You might not find exactly the same again, but you will meet other people you care for and people will care for you in return and hopefully they'll behave in a better fashion than he has.

You were happy when he was being good to you, the last few weeks of the relationship he wasn't.

Thanks, purpleshoes. You're right, of course.

I have no proof that he lied. But even if he didn't, the rest of it isn't good.

I don't know whether I'm capable of feeling that way about anyone else.

Maybe I just need some time on my own to heal xx

purpleshoes wrote: »

Also, his actions over the last few weeks have caused you unhappiness. He's done that to you. No one else.

If he had continued on with the relationship the way it was and you were both happy, prior to the accident he said he had you might have had a very nice life with this man. But he chose to end it, he chose to do it in a way that caused you stress and worry and the fact that he has behaved like that should ring major alarm bells, because if hes capable of causing you so much pain he's clearly not the lovely guy you thought he was.

If he wanted to end things, he could have been kinder and he could have been much more honest.

Thank you for the wise words xxx

purpleshoes_2

tayforth wrote: »

Thanks, purpleshoes. You're right, of course.

I have no proof that he lied. But even if he didn't, the rest of it isn't good.

I don't know whether I'm capable of feeling that way about anyone else.

Maybe I just need some time on my own to heal xx




Thank you for the wise words xxx

Of course you are capable, it will just take the right person at the right time.

Yes, I think some time out of relationships for a time would be good for you, you've had a hell of a year, your priority at this time should be your own happiness.

tayforth

I have something to tell you all, but I've been kind of in shock and not really able to share it yet.

He texted me. Completely out of the blue, on Monday evening.

Zully

ive sent you a reply Tayforth

duchy

Hopefully not to say he's an MSE member !

Just process carefully before you respond .....if you do even respond Tay.

tayforth

purpleshoes wrote: »

Of course you are capable, it will just take the right person at the right time.

Yes, I think some time out of relationships for a time would be good for you, you've had a hell of a year, your priority at this time should be your own happiness.

Thank you. I will take your words on board xxx

Zully wrote: »

ive sent you a reply Tayforth

Thank you, Zully.

duchy wrote: »

Hopefully not to say he's an MSE member !

Just process carefully before you respond .....if you do even respond Tay.

I haven't responded.

I'm in two minds about whether to share the content of his text here xx

moromir

Just wanted to say I've been reading this thread but haven't commented so far - do you really want to undo all this progress by texting him back?