Heartbroken - just need to talk

NAR

Well done Tayforth you are taking positive steps and no doubt you will need many more to get to where you want to be. But at least you now recognise there is no going back, which is very positive.

spiritsfree

It still seems that you can`t face reality yet Tayford, and put dreams before the honest truth about your situation....."I have been there" !! They are clouding your feelings and prospective ? ...draining your energy ? If you don`t look after you, then who does ? The past is gone and just a memory, for which, in time, you will wonder why you allowed it. Don`t yearn for what you haven`t got, but give thanks for what you do have and the future that lays ahead once you become energised and more confident in your being. It frees you up to find someone far better, and who you deserve, rather than someone who has not respected you as a person and doesn`t deserve what you have to give and share. A lesson how to be good to yourself and not compromise or settle for anything less than love and harmony
Hugs from someone who has been there and knows that little steps in the right direction brings you closer to who you really are and the joy that awaits once you set yourself free.

Love and peace lady

tayforth

NAR wrote: »

Well done Tayforth you are taking positive steps and no doubt you will need many more to get to where you want to be. But at least you now recognise there is no going back, which is very positive.

Thank you, NAR. Yes, you're right, there is no going back. Only forwards.

spiritsfree wrote: »

It still seems that you can`t face reality yet Tayford, and put dreams before the honest truth about your situation....."I have been there" !! They are clouding your feelings and prospective ? ...draining your energy ? If you don`t look after you, then who does ? The past is gone and just a memory, for which, in time, you will wonder why you allowed it. Don`t yearn for what you haven`t got, but give thanks for what you do have and the future that lays ahead once you become energised and more confident in your being. It frees you up to find someone far better, and who you deserve, rather than someone who has not respected you as a person and doesn`t deserve what you have to give and share. A lesson how to be good to yourself and not compromise or settle for anything less than love and harmony
Hugs from someone who has been there and knows that little steps in the right direction brings you closer to who you really are and the joy that awaits once you set yourself free.

Love and peace lady

This is so lovely, spiritisfree. Thank you.

Sorry to hear that you've been in the same situation, I hope that the pain has eased for you xxx

andygb

Tayforth, I had a mate long ago, who knew he was attractive to women, and used to play on that. At any one time he had two or three (possibly more, I don't know the exact "bodycount") on the go, and they were all infatuated with him. I really liked one of his ex's, but every time he showed up, she would turn into a giggling, purry kitten, so I just moved along.
I think that you have to do the same, because hanging around with these characters just ends in sadness.

rekojem

Frogletina wrote: »

Thank you Tay


After the dream I wrote the following poem.


Last night I dreamt of you
and waking,
found it was not true

The silence rages

Trying to forget you is like
walking in the rain
and not getting wet

Morning wakes me

I love the moment
between sleep and awake
at dawn

I'm happy there

Suspended for a moment
in an incorrect
memory




(((hugs))) to you too x

I love the poem Frogletina you have a gift I wish someone sent me a message like that :-).
and Tay I hope your feeling better unfortunately it happens to us men too. Focusing the mind does help. For me I tried Ceroc classes. I have two left feet but its a great way to get out and meet people and take your mind off other things.

mcja

Oh my, what a hell of an 18months you have had. You are so strong, and will be able to get through this, although it sounds like you already are starting to get back on track.
Keep smiling, talking and get back out there.
xxx

Frogletina

rekojem wrote: »

I love the poem Frogletina you have a gift I wish someone sent me a message like that :-).
and Tay I hope your feeling better unfortunately it happens to us men too. Focusing the mind does help. For me I tried Ceroc classes. I have two left feet but its a great way to get out and meet people and take your mind off other things.

Thank you rekojem


I sent it to my friend three weeks after our last contact because I wanted him to know how I was feeling. Maybe it was a foolish thing to do, but I figured what did it matter? He wasn't contacting me anyway

spiritsfree

tayforth wrote: »

Thank you, NAR. Yes, you're right, there is no going back. Only forwards.




This is so lovely, spiritisfree. Thank you.

Sorry to hear that you've been in the same situation, I hope that the pain has eased for you xxx

You are very welcome Tay

My pain and release came when I realised that the only person who was suffering was ME !! That there was no mutual respect and consideration being returned to me, and that any future was based on one that was unhealthy for me, as well as lop-sided in attitude and feelings.

From that moment I took decisions that were good for ME !!
I let go of other people`s problems and baggage and saw that I was a good person. I had much to give and be proud of, as well as lived in a way that promoted harmony, quality of life, friendliness, spirituality and communication as well as respect and consideration, support, and encouragement within a relationship. It was about me being me and respecting myself and other people rather than give my power away and feel devalued by doing so.

The change comes from breathing deeply, ( ) learning some life lessons and, while not being arrogant, knowing your own simple values and positive qualities to bring peace and understanding to your life, rather than the "rat-race" that surrounds us......even enjoying "Me time" and a less frantic life style

Happiness comes from within Tay, with realisations....and I truly hope that you find it, and all that you deserve.....a place where love grows, harmony builds, confidence is sure and true, quietly blossoming from YOU !!....and being able to see you and the value you have to share,( but only with those that can appreciate it ) and knowing that YOU are important and mean well, and what other people are missing by not being honest with themselves. "It`s their loss, and your gain" ?? Stand tall and believe in YOU as you have too much to give that many good people would adore and welcome sharing ....as a friend and partner !!!

Much love lady :A XXXXX

mcja

I used the 'the only thing tears leave you with...' phrase with an upset 7 year old at work today...calmed him down a treat!

Be strong Tay, we're all rooting for you.x

tayforth

Hello

I went for coffee with a friend at lunchtime and cried my eyes out. I'd been trying hard to be strong for the last few day, but it all came tumbling out. I'm not really able to talk about it right now as I'm at work and I'll probably cry again, but I'll come back on later.

andygb wrote: »

Tayforth, I had a mate long ago, who knew he was attractive to women, and used to play on that. At any one time he had two or three (possibly more, I don't know the exact "bodycount") on the go, and they were all infatuated with him. I really liked one of his ex's, but every time he showed up, she would turn into a giggling, purry kitten, so I just moved along.
I think that you have to do the same, because hanging around with these characters just ends in sadness.

Thank you, andygb. He never came across as confident or cocky, and he wouldn't be what you'd call traditionally attractive, either. My friend who met him at the charity event said that 99% of women wouldn't look twice at him in the street! I didn't care, I was attracted to him and that was all that mattered. What I'm saying is that he didn't seem the type to have women falling at his feet. Does that make sense?

rekojem wrote: »

I love the poem Frogletina you have a gift I wish someone sent me a message like that :-).
and Tay I hope your feeling better unfortunately it happens to us men too. Focusing the mind does help. For me I tried Ceroc classes. I have two left feet but its a great way to get out and meet people and take your mind off other things.

I'm sorry that this has happened to you as well, rejokem - and I'm glad that you've found something to help take your mind off it.

mcja wrote: »

I used the 'the only thing tears leave you with...' phrase with an upset 7 year old at work today...calmed him down a treat!

Be strong Tay, we're all rooting for you.x

Thank you, mcja. I appreciate you thinking of me, it really does help me feel a bit less alone xx