Heartbroken - just need to talk

tayforth

spirit wrote: »

No, you've already put that particular ball in his court. It would also only cause you to worry more depending on his response/non-response.

He knows how to get in touch with you.

Thank you, spirit. You're right, of course xx

dubs57 wrote: »

Why not just ring him up and find out whats going on? Surely whatever he says cannot be any worse than all of this speculation. After everything
you have been through together you have got a right to speak to him. Communicating by text is clearly rubbish.

And you're right too. I do feel that I should have an explanation, really. And I would always rather talk than text.

NAR wrote: »

I think, in law, you have to offer him an opportunity (with reasonable timescales) to collect his goods, before doing anything with HIS property. Anyway you want to exit this relationship with your head held high I'm sure.

Thanks, NAR. And yes, I do.

tayforth

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I can tell that!

Have you googled him yet? (why does that always sound so wrong?! :rotfl: ) I'd have done it straight away, but then again I'm nosy lol!

I had a quick google and a SM search earlier, but nothing came up.

BrassicWoman wrote: »

I think you'd only be using his stuff as an excuse to contact him and would regret it later.

While it is in your house the temptation is there. Charity shop. He's not actually going to sue for stuff whatever the law may say.

I'm not a great cook so it's possible I've had more break ups than home made dinners.... I know I sound harsh, but the quicker you toughen up, the sooner you'll be moving on. That means he gets deleted from phone, email gone from online address book, all possessions out. Then there is no temptation in a weaker moment.

Get very busy on what used to be date night, doing anything, as long as it isn't staring at the phone. Walks, cinema, walking old ladies dogs, evening job in pub. Anything at all.

I really do wish you all the best. And that includes wanting better for you.

Thank you for the pep talk, BrassicWoman, it's appreciated xxx

tayforth

I don't know what I would have done without you lot in the last week.

Seriously.

tayforth

So... it seems that I need to buck up and move on from this limbo situation, and reach acceptance.

Any advice on how to do this? Words of wisdom?

BrassicWoman

Well, we're having a boozey girls night out Saturday, you're very welcome to join !!

Get busy living, as they say.

Doesn't matter if you don;t feel like it; fake it til you believe it.

Just.. live. Do. Be.

BrassicWoman

one last one before I pop to bed... can't think where I read this but it's great advice!

Life is a gift... and I intend to make the most of mine :A

Never regret something that once made you smile :A

sound familiar?

System

tayforth wrote: »

So... it seems that I need to buck up and move on from this limbo situation, and reach acceptance.

Any advice on how to do this? Words of wisdom?

You need to go out and have some fun! Do something you enjoy. Indulge yourself for a while.... Well that's what I did.

purpleshoes_2

tayforth wrote: »

So... it seems that I need to buck up and move on from this limbo situation, and reach acceptance.

Any advice on how to do this? Words of wisdom?

It's not really limbo you are in. It's being on the receiving end of someone who wasn't brave enough to tell you for whatever reason that your relationship was over.

It takes time. Even when people are told by the other person, its ok not to want to accept it, or still love that person. You feel how you feel on any given day.

One thing I will say though, it's easy to fall under someone's spell when they are being very full on towards you. If he hadn't been so full on himself, your relationship might have moved at a slower pace and your feelings also might not have got involved so quickly.

Time, seeing people who truly care about you, keeping yourself occupied and also realising that you had a decent life before you met him and you will have again.

FBaby

Any advice on how to do this? Words of wisdom?

If you are going to really move on and totally put him out of your mind, I think you need to take the step of deleting his phone number so you are never tempted to contact him and store his things in the back of your deepest cupboard. Then sign up on a dating site to distract you.

CH27

tayforth wrote: »

So... it seems that I need to buck up and move on from this limbo situation, and reach acceptance.

Any advice on how to do this? Words of wisdom?

Get angry!
How dare he treat me like this?
Who does he think he is? etc