Heartbroken - just need to talk

tea_lover

Admittedly there are people (lots of them!) not on facebook etc. but this combined with the other 'clues' is looking rather more damning by the minute.

Have you checked? I certainly wouldn't advise going to his house but I'd sure as hell be googling him by now.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

tayforth wrote: »

I've promised myself that I won't go to his house. So this isn't an option. But thank you Jojo xx




He said that he wasn't on SM. I realise that this could be a lie...

Why not? He's not making it easy for you by leaving his stuff and not telling you what to do with it. I'm not suggesting you knock on the door, just dump and go.

You could post it recorded delivery, I suppose. That way you know it would get there - if it really is his address (and if it isn't, it proves he's just a liar).

This_Year

You are a strong person and this is just a hiccup. Put his junk away, out of sight and focus on you. You are the person that matters.

Thinking of you, Tay xx

Georgiegirl256

Im with FBaby on this one. So sorry this has happened to you Tay.

I know you say you don't want to contact him/go round to his house etc, but you say he's left some stuff at yours? This is the perfect opportunity to contact him to ask him what you should do with his stuff.

I'd also be doing some investigating too, I would google his name and see what comes up, look on Facebook etc. No one will know you are doing this, but it might throw up some answers, and enable you to try and move on.

All the best x

fivetide

I guess when you fall in love you fall hard

That said, I think the best advice (not necessarily the easiest thing to do) is eBay his stuff and stop mourning the relationship now. Consider a bright future not a short part of the past.

tayforth

tea_lover wrote: »

Admittedly there are people (lots of them!) not on facebook etc. but this combined with the other 'clues' is looking rather more damning by the minute.

Have you checked? I certainly wouldn't advise going to his house but I'd sure as hell be googling him by now.

I haven't checked, I might have a look this evening. Thank you, tea lover.

fivetide wrote: »

I guess when you fall in love you fall hard

That said, I think the best advice (not necessarily the easiest thing to do) is eBay his stuff and stop mourning the relationship now. Consider a bright future not a short part of the past.

I'd just donate it to charity, tbh. I wouldn't feel right selling it. But thank you for the suggestion and the kind words.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Why not? He's not making it easy for you by leaving his stuff and not telling you what to do with it. I'm not suggesting you knock on the door, just dump and go.

You could post it recorded delivery, I suppose. That way you know it would get there - if it really is his address (and if it isn't, it proves he's just a liar).

Thanks, Jojo.

There's the risk of him seeing me approaching the house, even if it's just to dump his stuff. It'd be a journey out of my way to go there as well (he lives in a different town). All that bother to return his stuff when he hasn't even been in touch to ask for it back...

tayforth

This_Year wrote: »

You are a strong person and this is just a hiccup. Put his junk away, out of sight and focus on you. You are the person that matters.

Thinking of you, Tay xx

Thanks so much This Year, that's very nice of you xx

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Im with FBaby on this one. So sorry this has happened to you Tay.

I know you say you don't want to contact him/go round to his house etc, but you say he's left some stuff at yours? This is the perfect opportunity to contact him to ask him what you should do with his stuff.

I'd also be doing some investigating too, I would google his name and see what comes up, look on Facebook etc. No one will know you are doing this, but it might throw up some answers, and enable you to try and move on.

All the best x

Do you think it'd be an idea to contact him about it?

tayforth

You're all very kind and I'm so grateful for your support. It means a lot to me xxx

Mojisola

fivetide wrote: »

That said, I think the best advice (not necessarily the easiest thing to do) is eBay his stuff and stop mourning the relationship now.

This isn't good advice. If he asks for it back and it's been sold, he could make trouble for tayforth.

If having it at home is too much to stomach, parcel it up and post it to his house or ask someone else to drop it off at his house.

tayforth

Mojisola wrote: »

This isn't good advice. If he asks for it back and it's been sold, he could make trouble for tayforth.

If having it at home is too much to stomach, parcel it up and post it to his house or ask someone else to drop it off at his house.

Thanks, Mojisola. I just wouldn't feel right putting it on eBay full stop.

If he asks for it back and I've given it to the charity shop, is that just as bad?

What if he waits 2 months to ask?

I'll hold onto it for now, but I need to have a cut-off date by which I will get rid of it one way or another.