How do you cope when you can't move?

going_nowhere_fast

Its good to know I'm not alone. It sometimes feels like friends and family have homes in better areas and never experience problems with neighbours or noise nuisance etc etc

Blackpool_Saver

going_nowhere_fast wrote: »

Its good to know I'm not alone. It sometimes feels like friends and family have homes in better areas and never experience problems with neighbours or noise nuisance etc etc

Trust me you are not alone. My circumstances changed drastically over the last year or so and now I am living in a situation I never envisaged. Children round here have no concept of boundaries either, the things they do astound me.

going_nowhere_fast

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

Trust me you are not alone. My circumstances changed drastically over the last year or so and now I am living in a situation I never envisaged. Children round here have no concept of boundaries either, the things they do astound me.

Sounds similar to me. I was living in a very nice house in a very nice area and lots of savings. Then I had a child, was walked out on. Moved to an area I could afford to buy a house in. House is tiny, area is not nice, and I have no money. Joined MSE to try and keep my chin up because it feels like there is no light at the end of the tunnel sometimes. I hope you manage to move on to somewhere nicer too.

Blackpool_Saver

going_nowhere_fast wrote: »

Sounds similar to me. I was living in a very nice house in a very nice area and lots of savings. Then I had a child, was walked out on. Moved to an area I could afford to buy a house in. House is tiny, area is not nice, and I have no money. Joined MSE to try and keep my chin up because it feels like there is no light at the end of the tunnel sometimes. I hope you manage to move on to somewhere nicer too.

Yes, this is temporary ;-)

going_nowhere_fast

blackpool_saver wrote: »

yes, this is temporary ;-)

you lucky thing!!!!!!!!

freeman3030

I didn't want to read and run, haven't read all of the responses but would like to share my view. I once lived with my partner in his mum's house as she'd moved abroad. Like you're dealing with, loud, inconsiderate neighbours. Throughout out 6 month stay there were 3 nights where there was arguing outside the front between 2 families at around 1 am. No one seemed to work and it's definitely depressing to live with. The worst thing you can do is argue with them, not that you sound the confrontational type anyway. Sometimes I just used to take myself off tool the seafront rain or shine and just take in the peace. You have to do it to keep sane. Have you thought about renting your property out and living with family while you clear your debt? I find it all too easy to 'treat myself' to a take away or something new at dunelm mill but instead of spending the money, pop what you would have spent in one of those jars that you have to smash to open. As much of a shame as it is to smash them, the do save you from robbing from them! Good luck and try and not let it get you down, people move... you're just unlucky with your current neighbours.

kitty_kins

Firstly, I must ask - are your neighbours the owners of the house, or do they rent? If they rent, if you can find out the Landlord's details you can complain about the tenants. My partner's parents did this and the tenants got evicted (they had also trashed the house!)

Secondly, if you are stuck in the house, do everything you can to make it a home. For example, try replacing your windows with double or even triple glazing to keep some of the noise out. Consider saving up to invest in some soundproofing materials for your walls. Even if you could only do this in one room, it could become your little escape from life.

I know this might sound a little daft, but I think if you are going to be stuck, you need to make the most of it. Plus, doing things to your home and giving yourself a project always makes you feel a bit better in yourself; more purposeful if you will

aileth

I know there's a lot of negativity about being an owner-occupier surrounded by rental, but we had bigger issues with the owner-occupied house next door than the nearby rentals. I'd say 80% are rentals in the area.

When we first complained about the house next door, their response was basically 'we own the house so we can do whatever we want.' Thankfully they moved out of their own accord, but I can imagine it's 10 times the nightmare getting them dealt with rather than going to the council about a council tenant or the landlord.

In fact, I don't even know what the Council would do in such a situation, if you had an owner-occupier hell-bent on having loud music 24/7. I know they can confiscate equipment, but all they can really do is keep attempting to do that or throw noise abatement orders out, isn't it? They can't evict them.

going_nowhere_fast

freeman3030 wrote: »

I didn't want to read and run, haven't read all of the responses but would like to share my view. I once lived with my partner in his mum's house as she'd moved abroad. Like you're dealing with, loud, inconsiderate neighbours. Throughout out 6 month stay there were 3 nights where there was arguing outside the front between 2 families at around 1 am. No one seemed to work and it's definitely depressing to live with. The worst thing you can do is argue with them, not that you sound the confrontational type anyway. Sometimes I just used to take myself off tool the seafront rain or shine and just take in the peace. You have to do it to keep sane. Have you thought about renting your property out and living with family while you clear your debt? I find it all too easy to 'treat myself' to a take away or something new at dunelm mill but instead of spending the money, pop what you would have spent in one of those jars that you have to smash to open. As much of a shame as it is to smash them, the do save you from robbing from them! Good luck and try and not let it get you down, people move... you're just unlucky with your current neighbours.

Hi

I have no family i could move in with so stuck here for the foreseable future. This site is great for keeping me uplifted. I try to get out and about a lot but it does defeat the point of trying to save money. I have come conclusion that sadly terraced housing is the biggest problem as they are starting to be mostly rented. I have nothing against renters by the way - i know some are lovely, its just some arent and they seem to end up in the cheapest form of housing more often than not.

going_nowhere_fast

aileth wrote: »

I know there's a lot of negativity about being an owner-occupier surrounded by rental, but we had bigger issues with the owner-occupied house next door than the nearby rentals. I'd say 80% are rentals in the area.

When we first complained about the house next door, their response was basically 'we own the house so we can do whatever we want.' Thankfully they moved out of their own accord, but I can imagine it's 10 times the nightmare getting them dealt with rather than going to the council about a council tenant or the landlord.

In fact, I don't even know what the Council would do in such a situation, if you had an owner-occupier hell-bent on having loud music 24/7. I know they can confiscate equipment, but all they can really do is keep attempting to do that or throw noise abatement orders out, isn't it? They can't evict them.

Thats an interesting point and one i cant answer. I presume the council could take them to court if they failed to adhere to any warnings. From my experience council dont really want to know - here the noise team work 9-5 monday to friday. They also like to say have you read the booklet about taking court action yourself. Yes but its YOUR job to deal with noise nuisance (she says shaking her head).