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i think my fiancee is cheating do i call the wedding off?
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I like the way some of these topics go
The guy cheats and the spurned posts and it's claws out, revenge, burn his stuff, make him suffer, ruin his life.
A woman cheats and the spurned posts and it's 'poor guy' not to worry, things get better.
Like a coffee morning with claws.
I think the majority of posts here were exactly the opposite of that, urging dignity and restraint.
Not sure why you felt the need to make this comment without actually reading the thread?What if there was no such thing as a rhetorical question?0 -
I have read the topic - and others in the same vein
Was responding to some of the comments over the past day, looking at it from the male perspective i also wanted to punch my ex in the face and eek revenge but like a lot of the comments i had restraint & dignity and will always go on knowing i'm the better person
Most of the time a lot of the advice here is really good, unfortunately it does sometimes go as i mentioned0 -
Dignity in all you do is the only way, no matter what provocation there may be to react out of hand. Rise above and overcome it and move forward without regret every time.The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own, no apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.0
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It's hard to take the high road, but it's going to be worth it, if only for your daughter. She is too young to understand that daddy can't keep it in his trousers, so will get very confused - but you don't want to ever badmouth him to her however much you feel you should. She needs to know daddy didn't abandon her, or she'll have all kinds of relationship hangups of her own in later life, you can minimise this.
The only person to do wrong in this is him - he didn't "do it to you" so much as "did it despite you" for what that's worth. It won't have been malicious - callous and heartless certainly, but probably not trying to harm you as such. It's a small comfort to take, but he's not going to make a fool of you again, and you can tell people honestly whilst you're cancelling the wedding exactly why, and all the sympathy will be on your side.
Just make sure you don't let him back in. He crossed a line, it will never be right again between you, you would just delay the inevitable and extend the pain. Digging deep to find some strength now and biting your tongue to your daughter is the best you can hope for this month. It's going to be a dire time, but at least you didn't marry the man who clearly didn't respect you back, so you can concentrate on being a good mum, working hard, using grandma for support for you both, wishing him to hell, but thinking how he'll already be in it, having thrown away his wife and daughter and getting into an unhealthy pattern he's doomed to repeat forever.0 -
Illicit!!! What makes his friendship illicit? He may not be cheating but it seems most people on here are quick to say he is.
He isn't exactly being kind and supportive is he. He is allowing another woman to rub even a friendship in his future wife's face- that's not very fair.
You could invite a male friend of yours around and see what he does!0 -
Where would you draw the line then? What evidence would you require? Hide under her bed? Do you really need to see the bits going in and out before you would be satisfied?
Whatever she throws at him, he will most likely spin lie after lie. I have more self respect than that - bags > door > get the !!!! out.
Meh.
I'd want to talk stuff through and hear my wife's side before making my child live through a divorce. You'd rather just make assumptions and bring on the pain. I think we'll agree to disagree.0 -
Guys, you are a bit behind.
He was cheating, she caught him and he had gotten the girl pregnant.
Catch up here
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4978306
Unfortunately, for some odd and bizarre reason, she has taken him back as she was too lonely without the cheating scumbag!0 -
More fool her, as he didn't sound as though he was going to change a thing...:wall:
Lin
You can tell a lot about a woman by her hands..........for instance, if they are placed around your throat, she's probably slightly upset.
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Guys, you are a bit behind.
He was cheating, she caught him and he had gotten the girl pregnant.
Catch up here
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4978306
Unfortunately, for some odd and bizarre reason, she has taken him back as she was too lonely without the cheating scumbag!
Oh; that's dreadful news! Not a wise move and, sadly, not good for the child either I suspect... 0 -
Guys, you are a bit behind.
He was cheating, she caught him and he had gotten the girl pregnant.
Catch up here
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4978306
Unfortunately, for some odd and bizarre reason, she has taken him back as she was too lonely without the cheating scumbag!
Oh my.....0
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