and his world has come crashing down

Meesha.P

even though my heart aches and i feel empty inside i have found myself smiling at his fall. my sister updated my facebook to say i'm single due to my cheating fiance. hes been sending messages on my facebook and calling telling me he loves me and wants me back and he only cheated once on me and his bit on the side is nothing to him but a easy lay. she saw what he said and told me and everyone on his facebook the truth. it hurt like hell knowing he cheated me for over a year and knowing she is 14 weeks pregnant to him but i dont hate her we are victims to him and his lies. all his friends had a go at him on facebook and no longer want to know him. he only has 13 friends left on facebook his bit on the side hates him and his family have offered to support me if he tries seek custady of our daughter. i'm meeting with his bit on the side tommorow to find out every thing hes said and done and as she will be mother to my daughters half brother or sister i feel we need to support each other. hes the snake who has caused this mess.

Meesha.P

can you please use font size 14 if you reply so i can read easyer. thank you.

i can change the font in qoute and the gray backing makes it easyer so do not worry.

charlie3090

Meesha,
Glad you are ok,
can I please urge you to act with caution,this woman is not your friend,she came in your house knowing she was sleeping with your partner,she may try to get information from you and then turn on you,
she is not a victim,she was sleeping with him knowing about you and your child.
Please be careful,you are hurt and vunerable at the moment.
Charlie x

marisco_2

I can understand that you are hurting deeply OP. May I politely suggest though that you apply some caution, to expressing feelings of upset and anger over this horrible situation, through social media. Once anything is put out there it remains and you lose control of it. I am only suggesting this for yours and your daughters sake. Take care of yourself and give some carefully considered thought to who you can really trust and confide in.

Meesha.P

charlie3090 wrote: »

Meesha,
Glad you are ok,
can I please urge you to act with caution,this woman is not your friend,she came in your house knowing she was sleeping with your partner,she may try to get information from you and then turn on you,
she is not a victim,she was sleeping with him knowing about you and your child.
Please be careful,you are hurt and vunerable at the moment.
Charlie x

i know shes not my friend she always looked like she hates me but i want to know what hes said to her about me and what he was saying about me for them to start sleeping together. he wont tell the truth i hope she will. i feel i need to know why he did this to me after 14 years together.

Lioness_Twinkletoes

OP, try and act with a little dignity. This is all a little Jeremy Kyle. Stop airing your dirty laundry on Facebook. You have to maintain a relationship with your ex as he is the father of your child. That child has the right to a uncontaminated relationship with his/her father.

Don't meet with the 'other woman'. She is not a 'victim', she knew he was in a long term relationship - no matter what he told her. She has been to your home.

Delete Facebook, maintain a stiff upper lip and start building your new future. Like it or not it will include your ex.

Meesha.P

marisco wrote: »

I can understand that you are hurting deeply OP. May I politely suggest though that you applying some caution, to expressing feelings of upset and anger over this horrible situation, through social media. Once anything is put out there it remains and you lose control of it. I am only suggesting this for yours and your daughters sake. Take care of yourself and give some carefully considered thought to who you can really trust and confide in.

thank you i will be safe i just want to know the truth and if i did some thing wrong to him for him to do this. i dont know why i feel i did some thing wrong and i hope talking to her will help me find out if i did.

Meesha.P

Lioness_Twinkletoes wrote: »

OP, try and act with a little dignity. This is all a little Jeremy Kyle. Stop airing your dirty laundry on Facebook. You have to maintain a relationship with your ex as he is the father of your child. That child has the right to a uncontaminated relationship with his/her father.

Don't meet with the 'other woman'. She is not a 'victim', she knew he was in a long term relationship - no matter what he told her. She has been to your home.

Delete Facebook, maintain a stiff upper lip and start building your new future. Like it or not it will include your ex.

the only thing said from me on facebook was the update my sister put on. hes the 1 who post every thing. i can delete those. i only spoke on the phone as when i'm worked up i cant say what i want in writing. i can say its 1 of the joys of dyslexia. he can see our daughter i wont ever stop him but he can only see her with out seeing me. i dont want to see him.

marisco_2

Meesha.P wrote: »

thank you i will be safe i just want to know the truth and if i did some thing wrong to him for him to do this. i dont know why i feel i did some thing wrong and i hope talking to her will help me find out if i did.

This woman may be the mother of your child's future step brother/sister but she is not your friend. You would be very wise to not meet her, or to try to gather any information about what went on/who said what etc. It just gives opportunity for someone who, up until a few days ago has been complicit in having an affair with your partner, to hurt you further.

Trust me when I say she absolutely wont have your best interests at heart, and any meeting or discussion would most likely end badly for you.

Tiddlywinks

Meesha.P wrote: »

thank you i will be safe i just want to know the truth and if i did some thing wrong to him for him to do this. i dont know why i feel i did some thing wrong and i hope talking to her will help me find out if i did.

The only one who can tell you the truth about why your ex cheated is... your ex!

His bit on the side will only have the story he gave her - why on earth would you think that is the truth?

You owe it to your daughter to get a grip of the situation and start rising above it all. She does not deserve to hear or read comments from her mum slagging off her dad.

He cheated, you have ended it... now get on with your life.

You are not a teenager, you are an adult and a mother - please don't make this drama any worse than it needs to be.

Meesha.P

marisco wrote: »

This woman may be the mother of your child's future step brother/sister but she is not your friend. You would be very wise to not meet her, or to try to gather any information about what went on/who said what etc. It just gives opportunity for someone who, up until a few days ago has been complicit in having an affair with your partner, to hurt you further.

Trust me when I say she absolutely wont have your best interests at heart, and any meeting or discussion would most likely end badly for you.

its the only way i can find the truth. with out the truth i'm going to keep these thoughts that i must of did some thing wrong to him for him to do this.