i think my fiancee is cheating do i call the wedding off?

Idiophreak

Just so we're clear...Do you really *know* he's cheating on you now?

Did they kiss/hold hands or anything when they came out?

Otherwise, whilst slim, there's still a chance there's an innocent explanation...if it turns out he's organised you a treat for your honeymoon or something, you'd feel pretty bad for punching him in the face...

Ivrytwr3

Idiophreak wrote: »

Just so we're clear...Do you really *know* he's cheating on you now?

Did they kiss/hold hands or anything when they came out?

Otherwise, whilst slim, there's still a chance there's an innocent explanation...if it turns out he's organised you a treat for your honeymoon or something, you'd feel pretty bad for punching him in the face...

Are you serious? Takes a day off work, doesn't tell his partner and is seen coming out of another womans house (the one who the OP thought he was having with an affair with!)

I'm all for playing Devil's Advocate, giving the benefit of the doubt etc, but on this occasion???? His little soldier has been getting wet and the OP needs to decide on the way forward now.

Idiophreak

Ivrytwr3 wrote: »

Are you serious? Takes a day off work, doesn't tell his partner and is seen coming out of another womans house (the one who the OP thought he was having with an affair with!)

I took time out of work, went to my best friend's house and lied about it when I was buying my wife's engagement ring.

Honestly, it didn't even occur to me that my (then) girlfriend might think I was sleeping with him.

Boys and girls *can* just be friends.

Ivrytwr3

But with the background to this? No, sorry, bags would be on the lawn for when he got back.

Idiophreak

Ivrytwr3 wrote: »

But with the background to this? No, sorry, bags would be on the lawn for when he got back.

What background? Man works with woman he gets on with. Fianc!e doesn't like it.

Hardly damning stuff earlier in the thread.

RuthnJasper

Meesha.P wrote: »

i have nothing to lose now i'v lost it all so i mite as well get some revenge on him for hurting me like this. let him feel my pain.

You have your DAUGHTER to lose if you assault him and get done for it. Please consider her - you need to be there and as strong as you can be for HER.

I am so sorry for what has happened; it's awful. But go and pee in his favourite aftershave instead of risking arrest for GBH. That'll be more satisfying revenge in the long term (:o) and you genuinely will make things a lot, lot worse if you physically harm him.

RuthnJasper

Idiophreak wrote: »

What background? Man works with woman he gets on with. Fianc!e doesn't like it.

Hardly damning stuff earlier in the thread.

Do you text your friends telling them "you love it when they make you squeal", then...? The OP knows what she's seen and I suspect she has witnessed enough in her OH's behaviour with this trollop today to confirm her suspicions.

Ivrytwr3

I guess they were playing cards or something together then. Definately nothing suspicious that a man is seen coming out a womans house when he has told his partner he is at work.

Whatever the reason is, there is no trust, but there is deceit; how is a marriage meant to stay strong from that very shaky start?

marisco_2

OP I am so sorry to hear that you have discovered such an awful betrayal. This is way easier to say than do but don't allow any situation in life to effect you to the point, where you justify that it is okay to hurt someone else on purpose. All you achieve by that is to show a total lack of self control. It could also land you in a lot of trouble that is best avoided.

I advise you to make a conscious decision now, that any expression of grief and anger at your situation, will be handled away from your ex for two reasons. Firstly don't give him the satisfaction of knowing how much he has hurt you and let you down. Secondly unlike him you will get to walk away from everything with your dignity in tact and still be able to respect yourself. It is very important to be able to do that, and makes moving on from a horrendous time in your life, so much easier to cope with long term. Sending you a massive hug because I bet you need one right now.

krustylouise

Don't forget to clean the toilet with his toothbrush - I did this to my cheating ex and it was great watching him brush his teeth with it and even better seeing his face after I'd told him hahaha