My Ex hubby & father to my child won't give me his new address

BitterAndTwisted

Marsbar73 to police: My ex husband had our daughter to stay over the weekend and he hasn't returned her and he isn't answering his phone either!

Police: Well, not to worry. Where has he taken her to?

Marsbar73: I don't know, he wouldn't tell me!

Police: OK, where do you think we should start? Cornwall and make our way northwards to John O'Groats?

Big_Tree

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Marsbar73 to police: My ex husband had our daughter to stay over the weekend and he hasn't returned her and he isn't answering his phone either!

Police: Well, not to worry. Where has he taken her to?

Marsbar73: I don't know, he wouldn't tell me!

Police: OK, where do you think we should start? Cornwall and make our way northwards to John O'Groats?

What a ludicrous statement.....I know the police are pretty inept sometimes but do you really think it will difficult for them to find someone when they know his name, DOB and most likely where he works......:rotfl:

mountainofdebt

Looking at this logically, the ex could give the ex any address he chooses but unless the OP then independently checks it out how will she know its the right address?

What reason has he given for not providing the address?

In my experience you catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

Big_Tree

mountainofdebt wrote: »

Looking at this logically, the ex could give the ex any address he chooses but unless the OP then independently checks it out how will she know its the right address?

What reason has he given for not providing the address?

In my experience you catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

Exactly, WHY does he not want to give his address?

Mojisola

BigJockKnew wrote: »

Exactly, WHY does he not want to give his address?

He doesn't have to give a reason.

KxMx

Sounds like he needs to man up and give out the address... we all do things we'd rather not because it's the adult thing to do, never more important than when kids are involved.

Ms_Chocaholic

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Marsbar73 to police: My ex husband had our daughter to stay over the weekend and he hasn't returned her and he isn't answering his phone either!

Police: Well, not to worry. Where has he taken her to?

Marsbar73: I don't know, he wouldn't tell me!

Police: OK, where do you think we should start? Cornwall and make our way northwards to John O'Groats?

I'm not sure the Police would be interested in the early stages, there will be lots of contact where this happens, one parent returning child later than expected to other parent, this could be due to a number of reasons including traffic jams, unable to contact othe parent due to no signal, low battery, can't use the phone when driving.

But even if the Police are interested and you have home address:

Marshbar73 to Police: My ex husband had our daughter this weekend and he hasn't returned her and he isn't answering his phone either!

Police: Well, not to worry. Where has he taken her to?

Marsbar73: His home address is 32 Letsbe Avenue, Newton.

Police: Okay we will check this out.

Later ...........

Police: We have checked out the home address and there is no one at home.

Ms_Chocaholic

KxMx wrote: »

Sounds like he needs to man up and give out the address... we all do things we'd rather not because it's the adult thing to do, never more important than when kids are involved.

See #9, second paragraph

We are only hearing one side of the story. I'm not suggesting it may not be true but some ex's do have ulterior motives.

marisco_2

Morglin wrote: »

No, common sense, because, as a mum, there is no way I would have let my little girl go to an unknown address. A mums first duty is to her kids, not a silly man playing hard to get with basic information.

What if there is an emergency?

Why is her ex so childish he won't give out his address?

Typical response from blokes with an axe to grind, and one to be ignored, I hope.

Lin

Ye gods, what a sweeping statement that is on the end of your post above.

I am a woman responding to you.

The guy in this scenario is not some silly man. He is the person the OP trusted enough to have a child with. We only have one side of this situation, and there may be very good reason why the man does not wish to disclose his address, which the OP has not made us privy to.

Yes as mums out first duty is to protect our children. Never more so than when they are suffering all manner of emotional turmoil when their parents part. To do anything that could risk a little girl, being left worried and upset about being in the middle of her parents disputes, and not knowing when she will see daddy again is not to have her best interests at heart nor to protect her.

If there were any real cause for concern over the dads ability to care for the child, then access would not be taking place whether an address was supplied or not. This seems not to be the case here. A child should never be used like a pawn in a game and such behaviour should not be encouraged.

balletshoes

OP this separation from your husband has just happened, has it not?
From your other threads, he doesn't appear to be in a co-operative state of mind at the moment, so maybe on this one you should just not argue about it, as he currently doesn't have a place to take your daughter on access visits. When he does, thats when to have the discussion - but I agree with Mojisola, I don't think legally he has to give you his address.