Really concerned about my friend's children, constantly fed sweets and other junk

supersaver2

jaylee3 wrote: »

Yes - like person one in post 21, I would like to know how you know that someone is not a parent too.

So anyone who doesn't think that it's appropriate for some nosey interfering bint to be poking their nose in someone else's business, and dictating how they feed their kids, is 'obviously not a parent.'

What an incredibly stupid post. Do you actually READ your posts before you click 'submit reply?'

You sound like a charmer!

Heaven forbid somebody cares about a child's health, I don't think it makes them a 'nosey interfering bint.'

somethingcorporate

jaylee3 wrote: »

Yes - like person one in post 21, I would like to know how you know that someone is not a parent too.

So anyone who doesn't think that it's appropriate for some nosey interfering bint to be poking their nose in someone else's business, and dictating how they feed their kids, is 'obviously not a parent.'

What an incredibly stupid post. Do you actually READ your posts before you click 'submit reply?'

Because it's tantamount to child abuse to bring up a baby on a diet of chocolate and crisps - or it certainly should be.

If you condone such activity you're either not a parent or someone that doesn't deserve to be one.

Edit: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-19267308 do you think the girl in this article was brought up on a diet of fruit and veg?

notanewuser

Birdy12 wrote: »

Uh oh, I knew this would happen, people start outlining how healthy they make their children's diet, how they allow them to have one Malteser a year or that they've never allowed them to look at a nugget.

Can we stop the competition and stick to the OP's original question.

Cheers , Birdy

No, not a pi55ing competition by any means. But the fact is that children only develop a taste for crap if you give it to them. If you then allow the situation to be such that they refuse to eat anything but crap (because food consumption is one of the few things toddlers do control) then you can't blame somebody else! In this day and age it shouldn't be hard to get children into good rating habits, including treats like chocolate and sweets. The problem comes when they're seen as foods to be included in every meal!

POPPYOSCAR

notanewuser wrote: »

No, not a pi55ing competition by any means. But the fact is that children only develop a taste for crap if you give it to them. If you then allow the situation to be such that they refuse to eat anything but crap (because food consumption is one of the few things toddlers do control) then you can't blame somebody else! In this day and age it shouldn't be hard to get children into good rating habits, including treats like chocolate and sweets. The problem comes when they're seen as foods to be included in every meal!

I have to disagree somewhat.

I was always very careful what I fed my children, however it did not stop them from buying what they wanted when they were old enough and out on their own!

Birdy12

A great response, notanewuser, and factual. The first page of this thread was, generally, great, with factual advice.

However, when people start outlining what they feed their own children in a bid to sound like the healthiest parent with the healthiest children then competition becomes apparent and the thread loses it's vein.

Let's stick to advice.

Birdy

notanewuser

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I have to disagree somewhat.

I was always very careful what I fed my children, however it did not stop them from buying what they wanted when they were old enough and out on their own!

The OP refers to a 3 year old and a 10 month old being fed crap by their mother.

Once children are old enough to be buying food for themselves, of course they're going to choose differently!

POPPYOSCAR

notanewuser wrote: »

The OP refers to a 3 year old and a 10 month old being fed crap by their mother.

Once children are old enough to be buying food for themselves, of course they're going to choose differently!

Yes I know and I agree that children should not be brought up on that kind of diet.

What I disagree on is that they will only develop a taste for it if you give it to them and somehow will not want it.

A balanced diet including some chips and chocolate is not a bad thing.

mumps

notanewuser wrote: »

My daughter has had DAYS of not eating when she's been poorly etc. that doesn't mean I rushed out for chicken nuggets and potato waffles! She has fish and chips when we go out once a week (her favourite). No food is off limits, but at 3 she has no desire or need to go to McDonald's. Of course she will one day, but she doesn't have a taste for it because she's still little and I have a choice about putting those things in front of her. She would eat biscuits and chocolate all day if I let her. I allow her a little bit so that it doesn't become an issue further down the line.

Of course teens will do what they can to have what they want. Toddlers aren't teens, and that's where these habits and tastes are formed.

But if they are very sick it can be different. My DD was ill as a toddler and just didn't want to eat again. Every day was a struggle and eventually we got to the point where the GP said if she lost another pound she would be need to be admitted to hospital, I was so upset I can't even remember if he said she would be tube fed or IV. He then said take her away, don't worry about her teeth or if it is a good diet just get her to stop losing weight and if she had to live on chocolate for a while then so be it. We did as he said and yes she started to eat lots of chocolate and biscuits. A local bakery used to bake her a special cake every week which she loved and it was full of honey and fruit eggs etc. It took years to sort out her diet properly, she had a very restricted diet for a few years but it wasn't all bad, she loved green salad, yogurt and a bit of cheese but not alot as it made her more likely to get migraine. Fruit was always a biggy. Weight gain was always a problem so if she wanted chocolate, chips or whatever she got them. She is still very slim but eats a great diet now.

My eldest was a very healthy eater as a child, would eat whatever he was given, loved veg, fruit and home made casseroles etc. His diet went to pot in his 20s but is back on track. Funnily enough he has never got his taste for greens back.

My other two are fairly easy, eat a good diet, never been a problem. They both love food and eat a very varied diet.

Morglin

My daughter was such a fussy eater, it always seemed as though junk was the only stuff she would eat, other than fruit which she ate by the bowlful.

The GP at the time told me to give her whatever would eat, healthy or not, as her weight was dropping.

Nowadays, all grown up, she eats healthily, and is healthy.

Many kids grow out of liking junk, it doesn't ruin their eating habits for life!

Lin

notanewuser

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Yes I know and I agree that children should not be brought up on that kind of diet.

What I disagree on is that they will only develop a taste for it if you give it to them and somehow will not want it.

A balanced diet including some chips and chocolate is not a bad thing.

Indeed. Balanced. That's the key.

Their tastes do change. For 2 years DD refused cooked porridge. Didn't matter what we did to it, she just wouldn't try it. She would, however eat raw oats by the bowlful. All of a sudden when she turned 3 she started to ask for cooked porridge, and will scoff loads of the stuff. Likewise she would only eat baked beans of they were in a seperate pot so that the "juice" couldn't get onto the other things. All of a sudden she started dipping her toast in the beans.

She still won't touch mashed potato but I put that down to baby-led weaning and not liking mushy foods. She's suspicious of stews and soups, which I suspect is a texture thing too.

It's possible that her love of green veg stems from the fact that I'm vegetarian and so she got loads of it in the womb. (I did wonder whether she would reject meat but she loves it!) Again, if someone lives on junk food while pregnant it may not be a surprise that their child will like junk food when born.

She's a very slim child (with a tiny bottom!) so weightloss would be a concern for her. If she's really poorly I do give her whatever she will eat, but she'd never ask for McDonalds or chicken nuggets etc because they haven't been part of her diet up to now, if you see what I mean.

I'm not sure how I feel about doctors advising diets of chocolate etc They're not the ones dealing with the aftermath!!!