Wife accused of cheating, denies it...

Pollycat

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Clutching at straws here Polly, good luck OP. It would cast doubt in anyones mind someone being in your ear like that.

Not clutching at straws at all, Kayalana - and why would I want to anyway.

I suggest you read posts #57 & 59.
The OP's wife is (understandably, imho) hacked off.
Do you think she'll put up these accusations forever?

I'm not the only poster to voice my concerns.
Surely it would only cast doubt in someone's mind if there was
evidence (which the SIL has failed to produce) or if the source could be trusted ( which it seems the SIL can't be).

nebakanezer

Your both right, my wife won't out up with it much longer, but I have had her in my ear. My brother phoned one day to ask of I'd speak to my SIL to clear the air, I reluctantly agreed and within 5 seconds of the call she was screaming down the phone at me telling me it wasn't gossip, which is what I'd said it was, obviously I put the phone down.

Mojisola

Pollycat wrote: »

The OP's wife is (understandably, imho) hacked off.
Do you think she'll put up these accusations forever?

I'm not the only poster to voice my concerns.
Surely it would only cast doubt in someone's mind if there was
evidence (which the SIL has failed to produce) or if the source could be trusted ( which it seems the SIL can't be).

Agree - I'd be really upset if my OH was believing a proven troublemaker rather than me and all the family and friends he has discussed my "playing around" with!

nebakanezer

Here's an example of my SIL, a couple of weeks ago she phoned up my brother telling him my wife's friend had 'give her a dirty look' and that my niece, who is 5, was scared and said 'who's that mummy?' She knew that would wind my brother up. She said my wife's friend followed her car?! Bearing in mind it was a busy 30mph road and my wife's friend was walking. She never saw my SIL and would have no qualms telling me if she had given her a 'dirty look!'

duchy

More fool your brother.
Either love is completely blind or he's totally under thumb

GobbledyGook

nebakanezer wrote: »

Here's an example of my SIL, a couple of weeks ago she phoned up my brother telling him my wife's friend had 'give her a dirty look' and that my niece, who is 5, was scared and said 'who's that mummy?' She knew that would wind my brother up. She said my wife's friend followed her car?! Bearing in mind it was a busy 30mph road and my wife's friend was walking. She never saw my SIL and would have no qualms telling me if she had given her a 'dirty look!'

So you can give endless examples of your SIL's lies/dramatising/obsession with making your wife look bad, yet no example of your wife doing anything why are you still doubting her?

Ask yourself one simple question - if there actually were photographs just how quickly would your SIL be at your door waving them in your face to prove her point?

So even if you forget all the other things your SIL has said and done, surely someone who claims to have proof, photographic proof, of your wife publicly cheating on you loses all credibility when those photographs never materialise? Because surely if she lies about the proof you can only assume she's lying about the accusation?

quantumleap

nebakanezer wrote: »

Perfectly put basically. I am scared of scenario 2, which is probably why I posted here, but I have to go with number 3 and give us a chance, thanks.

Of course your scared - I probably would be too if I was in your position. I don't think you would be human not to have an element of "what if" in your mind

However, throughout this thread you've described your wife in many ways and none of them sound like a women who goes around bars making out with random strangers.

Let it go, move on with your life and make sure that those people who are telling you these things know that, unless accompanied by evidence, you don't want to hear another word.

As said earlier, scenario 2 or 3 will happen. Hopefully 3.

Hermia

nebakanezer wrote: »

Here's an example of my SIL, a couple of weeks ago she phoned up my brother telling him my wife's friend had 'give her a dirty look' and that my niece, who is 5, was scared and said 'who's that mummy?' She knew that would wind my brother up. She said my wife's friend followed her car?! Bearing in mind it was a busy 30mph road and my wife's friend was walking. She never saw my SIL and would have no qualms telling me if she had given her a 'dirty look!'

I have a relative who does things like this. She tried to get back at another relative she disliked by claiming she had seen her 13 year old son smoking pot in the park. Luckily, it was easily disproved. There are people in this world who are that nasty and manipulative.

nebakanezer

quantumleap wrote: »

Of course your scared - I probably would be too if I was in your position. I don't think you would be human not to have an element of "what if" in your mind

However, throughout this thread you've described your wife in many ways and none of them sound like a women who goes around bars making out with random strangers.

Let it go, move on with your life and make sure that those people who are telling you these things know that, unless accompanied by evidence, you don't want to hear another word.

As said earlier, scenario 2 or 3 will happen. Hopefully 3.

I suppose my fear is the 'what if' element, my wife swears number 2 won't happen so I have to trust her

thorsoak

Look - you've trusted her up to the time that the poisonous SiL sowed the seed of doubt in your mind - who would you trust the most - your wife or the SiL. Because that is really what this boils down to!