Long term singleton

CC-Warrior

Let's stop using the word ’singleton’ please. Being single isn't necessarily a bad thing.

Gloomendoom

CC-Warrior wrote: »

Let's stop using the word ’singleton’ please. Being single isn't necessarily a bad thing.

How about "Valerie" instead?

valk_scot

Gloomendoom wrote: »

How about "Valerie" instead?

Should I feel insulted at this point?

ska_lover

trollopscarletwoman wrote: »

Nothing wrong with teaching him

Could be an adventure.

Could be really up for it.

Or possibly not at tht age haha :rotfl:

ska_lover

CC-Warrior wrote: »

Let's stop using the word ’singleton’ please. Being single isn't necessarily a bad thing.

What is wrong with the word 'singleton'? - It is only the word 'single' with 'ton' on the end

By finding the world singleton in some way offensive, you yourself are implying that being single is a bad thing...

I was single for many years before I met my husband, and I found the term 'on the shelf' to be slightly derogatory, but really cannot find any fault in 'singleton' - its just meant as a statement of fact, not an insult

PenguinOfDeath

DigForVictory wrote: »

I know a lovely bloke (excellent cook!)

Boy, did I mis-read that the first time round!

My OH was in his early thirties when I met him and he'd not been in many LTRs at that point, there nothing 'wrong' with him apart from the fact he chose to live with me! (and he's verrrryyyy picky on choice of women)

Buzzybee90

I do think it's weird not to have had a serious relationship at 35, though I don't think it weird for someone to have been single for a few years at that age.

redcard

CC-Warrior wrote: »

I think it's bs and everyone is different.

Everyone is different. Just some are more different than others.

HPoirot

AubreyMac wrote: »

If someone has been single for a long time, say 5 years or more, would you question what is wrong with them?

If someone got to a certain age say, 35, and have never had a serious relationship do you think that weird?

Would any of those situations put you off someone?

In my books, 5 years would not count as a long time for being single :rotfl:.

I was single up till I was 33, with only one previous serious relationship which lasted 3 years. I just didn't meet anyone who cut it for me and I was heavily invested in my career and my social life. I had quite a few very close male friends - and female. I lived my life at 1000 paces an hour and never missed out on romance etc.

Then at 33 I met OH and fell for him like a lead balloon . We married within a year and I emigrated to live with him.

Well for all that being with the one you love is wonderful etc, I sometimes wish I had my old life back. Mainly because, once the whirlwind settled, I realise I had given up a lot in terms of independence! And I guess the longer you have lived on your own terms, the harder it is to adjust to a different life.

On your question, no I do not find it weird that someone has lived to 35 without a serious relationship. I guess it may also be a cultural issue, in my circle where I come from, there are still a few singletons out there at 40 living the life .

barbarawright

AubreyMac wrote: »

Thank you for your honesty. If I had met a long term singleton, I would wonder what they had done with their time e.g. bringing up young children, studying & pursuing a career, travelling etc. However, I think 30-35ish is just viable for it to not be ‘weird’, anything from late 30’s I think will raise further questions.

Well, nice to know I'm considered 'weird' for having a career, pursuing various hobbies (I swim every day, run three times a week, go to the theatre most weeks, have plenty of friends, go on holidays etc etc). Why on earth do you think singletons spend their time any differently from couples? The only difference is that I get to choose which side of the bed I sleep on and if I wake up in the middle of the night, I can put the light on without worry about waking someone else.