Long term singleton

trollopscarletwoman

CC-Warrior wrote: »

I'm in my late thirties and have never been married or lived with anyone and have received a few comments to suggest that there's obviously something wrong with me.

I know this not to be the case but I think society definitely favours couples, "settling down", families etc as you get older. I think some employers see married people as more stable and less risk.

I think it's bs and everyone is different.

Simple and honest question.

Why haven't you lived with anyone?

CC-Warrior

trollopscarletwoman wrote: »

Simple and honest question.

Why haven't you lived with anyone?

There's something wrong with me

CC-Warrior

trollopscarletwoman wrote: »

Simple and honest question.

Why haven't you lived with anyone?

I lived with my family then I moved out and have lived on my own. Haven't really met anyone suitable as yet to move in with.

thorsoak

I think that I shall now die a singleton.....after a relationship which lasted from my teens to my 60s, I found my soul mate - and much as it would be nice to think that I would find someone else, I think that it will be almost impossible ....after all - I grew my one "old boy" - I'd have to take on an old boy grown elsewhere!

AubreyMac

sportbeth wrote: »

I met a guy a couple of months back that I thought was perfect. Similar interests, got on like a house on fire, lived close to each other, both career types, etc etc. he then got a bit distant in the early days, went quiet, I didn't know what was going on then I saw him one night on the train with a lady on his arm just as I had been two weeks earlier.

Do you think it's easier for men? Afterall, there are more women in the world so as long as they're straight, men will have more choices.

AubreyMac

It's been asked several times if what others thought mattered.

No it doesn't, but I'm interested in opinions that's all.

AubreyMac

trollopscarletwoman wrote: »

Anyone at the age of 35 is going to have baggage of one kind or another.

I guess it depends on what you consider to be baggage.

My friends mum whos in her early 60s has been single a while. She said that if she met someone of a similar age who was a virgin (regardless of reason), she would definately think something was wrong with him.

trollopscarletwoman

AubreyMac wrote: »

I guess it depends on what you consider to be baggage.

My friends mum whos in her early 60s has been single a while. She said that if she met someone of a similar age who was a virgin (regardless of reason), she would definately think something was wrong with him.

Nothing wrong with teaching him

Could be an adventure.

Could be really up for it.

silverwhistle

I'm a veteran footballer - I say that so you can make your own assumptions about age:D - and have never lived with anyone or had a really serious relationship. It doesn't help that I'm lesbian and hence fishing in a much smaller pool. The chance of meeting someone without making a special effort is much smaller than for most people: so for example, that nice guy down my local social club chatting to me will have to be told gently at some stage that my friendliness is just that...

But me somehow having something wrong with me? When so many (er... most?) of my straight friends have had disastrous relationship, have been divorced etc... Foortunately they don't judge, and I'd hope that anybody I do meet will be similarly open-minded.

Blue264

AubreyMac wrote: »

... but I'm interested in opinions that's all.

My OH had made it to his mid 40's without marrying when I met him, but he'd had several long term relationships.

It didn't put me off him but it did make me ask a few pertinent questions over the first few months we were together.

I honestly think that a woman wants different qualities in a partner at different stages in her life. I knew I didn't want a player, or someone who just 'wanted some fun'. What really made our relationship work was that we met at work, so spent every lunchtime getting to know each other with mutual friends around us. They could all see something was developing between us weeks before we realised it.