Girlfriend refusing to pay towards rent

paddyrg

If she stays with friends, she won't be living rent-free for long as they all have costs to pay as well and may not want to effectively subsidise her buying of a property.

GobbledyGook

I'd let her go and lives with her friends. Once one or two of them get fed up with someone not paying anything towards their living costs she may start to realise how unreasonable she is being.

In your shoes I'd get in a couple of lodgers to help tide you over.

Timeflies

davecon1 wrote: »

She's threatened to leave and stay with friends if she has to pay

If it's free, she'd like to live with you. Given no financial inducement, she'd prefer to live with someone else?

Do you believe she is in love with you?

HPoirot

davecon1 wrote: »

She's threatened to leave and stay with friends if she has to pay which almost certainly means the end of the relationship. If she does pay (which she has agreed under much protest) she will hold it against me.

davecon1 wrote: »

If the situation was reversed and I lived at her place there's no way on earth I could get away with not paying the rent.

You are being taken for a mug and I suspect you know it.

If, however, she is genuine and it is the principle of a rent that she objects to and not the money, then how about letting her get on with other bills and expenses, all the food for example.

moromir

I would take a slightly different view if it were me -

I'd expect her to cover her mortgage on her flat in full
I'd cover the mortgage on my property in full

I'd expect her to split bills 50/50 with me, utilities, phone, tv, food etc.

Seems like a fairer situation than her having to pay her mortgage and rent to me while I only have to pay my mortgage?

CC-Warrior

She has princess syndrome. Don't let her take you for a ride. It will only make you angry if you split.

Mojisola

davecon1 wrote: »

she has now rented out her flat which more than covers the mortgage.

moromir wrote: »

I would take a slightly different view if it were me -

I'd expect her to cover her mortgage on her flat in full
I'd cover the mortgage on my property in full

I'd expect her to split bills 50/50 with me, utilities, phone, tv, food etc.

Seems like a fairer situation than her having to pay her mortgage and rent to me while I only have to pay my mortgage?

She isn't having to pay her mortgage - her tenant is covering that.

If davecon1 didn't have his GF living with him, perhaps he'd be able to get a lodger in to help towards his bills?

Money_maker

He still has 3 spare rooms. 3 lodgers would help a good deal towards his mortgage repayments.

tyllwyd

I would find it strange to be asked to pay 'rent' in a relationship where we were living together. At the moment the OP describes them as 'girlfriend and boyfriend'. What happens five, ten, twenty years down the line if they are still together - when does she stop being a lodger who is paying rent, and when do they start building a home together?


I think the two of them need to sit down and work out how they are going to deal with joint finances - rent, utilities etc etc, and how they see things working out in the long term. She isn't just a lodger and it isn't fair to treat her that way, and equally it is only fair if she makes a sensible contribution to the household.

fizz

Why on earth are you still with this girl? The relationship is doomed unless you want to be a mug for the rest of your life....kick her out, move on, and find someone who knows that a relationship is 50/50 all the way. Good luck.

fizz.x