Feeling trapped in relationship

millysg1

I heard of people using diaries as evidence, can this forum and what you have written here help you? Possibly not, but just a thought!

lalaluna

My keyworker has told me.to.just right a list of the things that have happened then ahe will help write the statement on Tuesday.

The girls think that we are on holiday and i was told to tell them if thwy ask where daddy is that daddy didnt want to come. So far theyve been fine, mentioned daddy a couple of times for things like 'daddy has that, daddy got me that'. A child support worker will be in on Tuesday and ive been told she's brilliant with kids and will be able to advise me on any problems i encounter.
Well at lunchtime, eldest burst into tears saying she misses her daddy. I consoled her and said you will see him soon. She has said it a couple of times since but i havent got a clue what to tell her. My.keyworkers gone home and.the oher staff are in a meeting. The last thing i want to do is lie but at the same.time i dont want to raise her hopes that itll be in the very near future iykwim.

tayforth

(((((HUGS)))))

You are doing so well, lalaluna.

I'm sure it's very hard to see your daughter upset, even though it's completely normal. What time does the staff meeting finish? Can you talk to them when it's over?

Sending you lots of love.

lalaluna

tayforth wrote: »

(((((HUGS)))))

You are doing so well, lalaluna.

I'm sure it's very hard to see your daughter upset, even though it's completely normal. What time does the staff meeting finish? Can you talk to them when it's over?

Sending you lots of love.

Hi, i keep popping to the office but theres no sign of life anywhere. Knowing my luck theyve gone straight home : (

BigAunty

To the OP - the Womens Aid website has a survivors forum where victims of domestic abuse provide support to each other. Perhaps you can find personal experiences there of how some women deal with the upset the separation has caused to their children, etc? It is also contains posts from those much further down the line who are relieved that they made the break, where they are much more settled and confident,how they've moved on, their coping strategies.

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/page.asp?section=0001000100080021&sectionTitle=Survivors+Forum

lalaluna

BigAunty wrote: »

To the OP - the Womens Aid website has a survivors forum where victims of domestic abuse provide support to each other. Perhaps you can find personal experiences there of how some women deal with the upset the separation has caused to their children, etc? It is also contains posts from those much further down the line who are relieved that they made the break, where they are much more settled and confident,how they've moved on, their coping strategies.

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/page.asp?section=0001000100080021&sectionTitle=Survivors+Forum

Thanks for that, ive had a quick look and it seems like a good place to take some of my questions.

Currently sat trying to hold back my tears as eldest is still.awake (just drifting off though hopefully). Only half hour ago i was sat worrying that no one will believe me when this goes to court and that ill lose the girls by him doing a runner or something.
Just had the on call staff and a police officer knock at my door. The staff were really.worried if i was alright. Turns out OH used the other phone when it was last switched on to track my location. He knows what town im in and that im in a large house, but he's got the.wrong road. He gave the police the location he 'knows' im at.but the police officer said the.road he thinks im on is at least 1/4 to 1/2 a mile away. Its a relief to know.he.doesnt know my real location but im shaking like a leaf and cant stop crying. I knew hed be able to use something like a location tracker against me but i suppose it never really sunk in. Its.been off for a.couple of days now so it had.just fell to the.back of my mind.
On call have told me to be extra vigilant and to take someone.with me if i go out tomorrow. I was planning to take the.girls to a park just up the road tomorrow but i think ill stay in now.

lalaluna

Im just over an hours drive away from home, i dont think he'll come that far to try and.find me but i suppose there's a chance isnt there. He wont get in the house. Even the police werent allowed in until staff gave permission.

meritaten

You ARE safe there lalaluna. and you need to behave sensibly and keep yourself safe.
please don't worry about being believed - of course you will be. chin up hunny.

tayforth

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that, lalaluna. It's understandable that you're shaken.

Thank goodness he can't get in. It just goes to show (1) the lengths he'll go to to keep control over you, (2) how safe your refuge is, and (3) that you absolutely did the right thing in escaping.

Sending you and your girls big hugs xxx

iaps

Please - take out the battery from your Lumia 920 as well as old sim card.
When you are calmer you might restore to factory settings.
Here is how it works:
http://www.nokia.com/gb-en/support/product/lumia920/userguidance/?action=singleTopic&topic=GUID-D684B06B-D886-44BF-87BB-AEBAC2109BE9

Nokia Lumia 920 - Find your lost phone
More product information More product information

• Support
• Specifications
• Compatible accessories
• Overview

Misplaced your phone, or afraid it's been stolen? Use find my phone to locate your phone, and lock or delete all data from it remotely.
You need to have your Microsoft account on your phone.

1. On your computer, go to http://www.windowsphone.com/.
2. Sign in with the same Microsoft account as on your phone.
3. Select find my phone.

You can:

• Locate your phone on a map
• Make your phone ring, even if silent mode is switched on
• Lock your phone, and set it to show a message, so it can be returned to you
• Delete all data from your phone remotely

The available options may vary.
Tip: Set your phone to automatically save its location every few hours. If your phone runs out of battery, you can still view its last saved location. On the start screen, swipe left, and tap Settings > find my phone.

• Set your phone to lock automatically
• Use your phone when it's locked
• Change your PIN code
• Access codes

http://www.nokia.com/gb-en/support/faq/?action=singleTopic&topic=FA141650

Reset your phone.
Important: Resetting your phone erases all personal content, including apps, and restores the factory settings.

1. Make sure your phone has enough battery power, charge your phone for at least 20 minutes.
2. Switch off your phone, and disconnect the charger.
3. Press and hold the volume down key, and connect the charger. An exclamation mark (!) is shown on the screen.
4. Press the keys in the following order: volume up, volume down, power, and volume down.
5. Wait for your phone to reset, during the reset there will be gears rotating on the screen for up to 5 minutes, after which the screen goes blank for ~30 seconds and then your phone will restart.
6. Go through the initial phone setup, if the date and time are shown, ensure the values are correct.
7. Disconnect the charger.